Why does no one care?

[sadstuffie]

you ever notice that when you're in this extremely bad state, none of your friends care? I told my best friend I might not be here anymore in a few weeks & she just didn't respond. It hurts, I'm not gonna lie. But maybe it's that final push I need. Maybe that means I SHOULD do it.

 

[inactive]

I stopped expecting to be comforted :(

 

[lilladi]

I've posted how down I am and no one reaches out. Yet people ask afterwards if they could have done something, yes. Yes you could. Pick up the phone and just listen or stop by and hold me while I cry.

 

[ExitStageLeft]

I've posted how down I am and no one reaches out. Yet people ask afterwards if they could have done something, yes. Yes you could. Pick up the phone and just listen or stop by and hold me while I cry.

Post this. Post it. Post something to the effect of "I am doing it; don't pretend afterward like you cared if you don't contact me now."

 

[sighingspider]

I say this to my friend and they think I am joking, but I don't blame them. I don't know why, but people think they are cool saying they have depression and they want to kill themselves even though they have better life experience then us. They think saying 'I want to die' is so cool and make everyone like them. I think it is just dumb. So when we actually have those kind of thoughts, they think we are just fooling around. They forget that sometimes it is really serious. But @sadstuffie dont worry, we are here for you...

 

[Denise2207]

@sadstuffie I've caught on to this recently and it sucks. humans can be so cruel. Love and hugs to you. xx

 

[Lupgevif]

My friends used to care. Not anymore. Like @sighingspider said, everyone around me thinks it's cool to say you are depressed and wish for death. So when I say it they just think I stumbled upon a minor inconvenience.

 

[crybaby]

A week ago, I was very depression and I really need someone to care. I told my friend that my feelings. My best friend told me not to think too much, she was very busy and didn't have time to chat with me. My boyfriend did not reply to my message for a whole week. Today he finally replied to me, telling me that he has also had a bad time recently, saying that he is really not in the mood to take care of me and consider breaking up with me. I am always here when they need me. but now? ...I feel abandoned and betrayed. I will die soon, but who cares? No one cares

 

[sadstuffie]

A week ago, I was very depression and I really need someone to care. I told my friend that my feelings. My best friend told me not to think too much, she was very busy and didn't have time to chat with me. My boyfriend did not reply to my message for a whole week. Today he finally replied to me, telling me that he has also had a bad time recently, saying that he is really not in the mood to take care of me and consider breaking up with me. I am always here when they need me. but now? ...I feel abandoned and betrayed. I will die soon, but who cares? No one cares

I'm sorry he said that, I have gone through something similar. I wish people weren't so selfish sometimes.

I stopped expecting to be comforted :(

I'm starting to feel that way too. It is extremely painful because I feel like comfort is a basic expectation with suicidal feelings. :(

I say this to my friend and they think I am joking, but I don't blame them. I don't know why, but people think they are cool saying they have depression and they want to kill themselves even though they have better life experience then us. They think saying 'I want to die' is so cool and make everyone like them. I think it is just dumb. So when we actually have those kind of thoughts, they think we are just fooling around. They forget that sometimes it is really serious. But @sadstuffie dont worry, we are here for you...

I also think that is really dumb, I wish they didnt do that so people would take us more seriously when we said we were ready to go. I am thankful for everyone here, thank you guys. It means a lot.

 

[Thinking]

When I feel really upset all I want is for people to ask me what's wrong, but on the rare occasions when someone does ask, I just laugh and pretend I'm fine. It's the strangest thing. So like, I've only ever said I want to ctb with a laugh. Nobody knows I'm serious

 

[muffin222]

I can relate. I think that a lot of people harbor good intentions when they offer you a hand to hold during your dark times. But, when the time actually comes to follow through with support, people get uncomfortable. It's so discouraging

 

[BPD Barbie]

I think some people just don't know what to say or do in these situations and it comes across as not caring. It's a lot to think about when someone tells you they want to commit suicide, it's a lot to take in especially if you're close with that person. Hopefully they just need a few days to process things and they will be back to you. Until then, you have all the love and support from the forum

 

[dec132013]

TLDR: They likely care, just a lil dumb

I feel ya, i attempted a lot in my mid teens (didnt have a lot to work w, had to use really obscure methods and my survival instincts kicked in every time) Every attempt resulted in me waking up the next morning and having to go to school (a few times i actually tried AT school in the washroom) Not a single person ever noticed my passed out body, how i'd go missing for hours frequently, etc...

I know it's wild for everyone here to think about, but some people actually love living and wouldn't do anything to hurt themselves. These are often the same people who don't think bad things could happen to them until it does. I think a combination of these attitudes leads them to think that they'll never lose a friend, etc... to suicide because they don't think about the fact that some people legitimately want to die, and they don't notice any of the signs because they've never experienced it for themselves.

I highly doubt they want you dead and would likely be devastated thinking back to all the red flags after you passed, unfortunately they just dont know how to express it beforehand.

 

[Wincombe00]

Sorry to hear that; been there before. I think it's hard for people to truly understand something unless they've been/going through it. Wishing you all the best; we're all in this together.

 

[Avril]

I feel you. At the lowest point of our lives, we get to find out who the true friends are.

 

[Anthagonos]

When I tried ctb when I was 22 the doctor put me into medication. My family never took me again to the doctor and I stopped taking medication and they never said why.
Man I was 22 and almost died and my own family didn"t took care of his unique son?
Wow

 

[Dude1983]

Do u really care if ur neighbour dies?

 

[melp]

you ever notice that when you're in this extremely bad state, none of your friends care? I told my best friend I might not be here anymore in a few weeks & she just didn't respond. It hurts, I'm not gonna lie. But maybe it's that final push I need. Maybe that means I SHOULD do it.

This is how it works. You are always a resource. The brain may not agree with this. It comes from genetic science.

A week ago, I was very depression and I really need someone to care. I told my friend that my feelings. My best friend told me not to think too much, she was very busy and didn't have time to chat with me. My boyfriend did not reply to my message for a whole week. Today he finally replied to me, telling me that he has also had a bad time recently, saying that he is really not in the mood to take care of me and consider breaking up with me. I am always here when they need me. but now? ...I feel abandoned and betrayed. I will die soon, but who cares? No one cares

The whole world is selfish. It just is. Likewise, the boy chose you for your beauty, possibly for matching characters and comfort.

 

[SoIntoYou]

you ever notice that when you're in this extremely bad state, none of your friends care? I told my best friend I might not be here anymore in a few weeks & she just didn't respond. It hurts, I'm not gonna lie. But maybe it's that final push I need. Maybe that means I SHOULD do it.

They don't say anything because in order to say anything meaningful, you have to summon the source of the problem, which is kind of an incredibly complex topic, and most people just don't have the mental capacity to contextualize a conversation around it. Don't take it personally - all people are depressed but can't talk about it because it's just too much to wrap your head around. I see that a lot of the time, when people attempt to talk about it, disagreements are fraught and feelings get hurt. This whole situation on Earth, causing our collective depression is completely on another level, so naturally people aren't going to be able to talk about it over coffee.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

Really feels that way. I kinda feel like maybe it's just too much for others to process; people's lives are gonna keep moving no matter what I do and I am just not important enough to warrant lots of attention

 

[Meditation guide]

I've not gotten a drop of sympathy my entire life no matter what has happened. Not one bit of kindness or help at all. Nothing. It never occurred to me to expect anything from anyone for this reason.

Your friends don't know how to respond most likely. It's due to lack of maturity probably combined with actually not caring. People are into themselves and narcissists now usually.

 

[Toobrokentofix]

When I feel really upset all I want is for people to ask me what's wrong, but on the rare occasions when someone does ask, I just laugh and pretend I'm fine. It's the strangest thing. So like, I've only ever said I want to ctb with a laugh. Nobody knows I'm serious

Same. It very frustrating and very lonely