Why do people want you to live so badly?

[violetdevil]

I wasn't asked to be born.
It's my life and I can do what I want with it.

We all have to die one day. I just don't understand why people say that I can't choose when. Does it really matter if I die tomorrow or 60 years from now?

 

[iamsofkntired]

Really felt that, why going through all of this life when your eventually gonna die and none of this would matter , I also don't understand why people give so much and hope so much to live , I just wish I can un do my existence

 

[Cress]

It's the same reason that they have a hard time taking people off life support or Providing people a way out who ask for it. It's because not dealing with the element of death is easier for them to cope with. Even if you just wanna talk about the basic concept of elderly people suffering really badly As they age. Keeping them alive as long as possible is the goal for them. Average people aren't equipped to deal with all of the ethical philosophy that comes about from this stuff And neither is the medical system or the law

 

[violetdevil]

It's the same reason that they have a hard time taking people off life support or Providing people a way out who ask for it. It's because not dealing with the element of death is easier for them to cope with. Even if you just wanna talk about the basic concept of elderly people suffering really badly As they age. Keeping them alive as long as possible is the goal for them. Average people aren't equipped to deal with all of the ethical philosophy that comes about from this stuff And neither is the medical system or the law

That's just selfish

 

[Cress]

That's just selfish

That's true it is a bit selfish but I don't blame them for it it takes A certain type of Willpower to let go And let people make their own decisions. I generally don't put much stock in people that only care about my death. If they didn't care about me losing a job losing a significant other or my health declining I don't know why my sudden death would suddenly be significant to them.

 

[jbear824]

It's selfishness. People don't want to deal with pain or loss so they would rather people be forced to live and suffer so everyone else can feel better. It's fucked.

 

[ifeelsobad]

I don't think anyone really cares they just don't want to make my mom or dad mad by helping me or not stopping me if they see. But trust me no one else in my life would care. They would be upset for my mom and dad that is it. I think they would feel better without me here annoying everyone

 

[letpour]

People have a really big desire to be moral. It's really probable that if you were to tell someone you were planning of CBTing, they would say the same bs like "Everything is going to be okay" "It will pass" and so on. The truth is, now with that knowledge they feel like they have to prevent something from happening because if they don't, they will feel guilty about it.
It's just selfishness, from all the ways you can look at it, they don't want to lose anyone, they don't want to feel that pain or they feel like they can do something about it and be the hero.

 

[GreenMarsh]

I'm not sure how rhetorical your question is, but I'll answer it.

In my case, I know my people care about me a lot, and while most of them don't know about my CTB plans, I'm sure if they did, they'd have the freakout reaction you'd expect. It's sort of ingrained in society that suicide is a form of taboo, whether religiously, morally, or legislatively. A "suicidism" ideology is not something most people ever bother thinking about. Most assume that everyone wants to live by default, and running off of that assumption, they assume that not wanting to be alive is thereby something that needs to be "corrected" about the individual in question.

Of course, it goes without mentioning that this is a horrible way of thinking, much like how people assumed left-handedness was a type of disease 100 years ago, or even with homosexuality, which is very much a relevant issue to this day.

so to answer your question, is a mix of genuinely caring feeling and not wanting to lose a friend, and societal conditioning.

 

[Hotsackage]

i live for the universe and family. i dont know what living for the universe means tho

 

[venomousSSërpent74]

my family is religious but not to strict about it they'll say that it's selfish and a sin most likely although i've never mentioned dying to them i'm sure they've said that in the past with my last attempts and them along with my friends will say how important i am and that i'm loved and cared about and all that shit that I don't feel or see as true. And I can see that they feel that way but I don't feel that way it's already hard for me to express emotions or my true feelings and if I do i'm being disrespectful or I have an attitude or depressed about nothing and they'll compare my life to others and be like you see how hard they have it and bring up stories about kids they heard about with shitty lives to make me feel bad like I don't have empathy but what does that have to do with me. They'll also threaten to have the police come get me to put me back in a psych ward for a long time.

 

[FuneralCry]

I cannot stand those pro-life people who are incapable of minding their own business, I wish they'd just accept that when other people die isn't their decision to make. It's insane to me how many people see death as the worst thing ever when we are all just going to die anyway and it isn't like one can suffer from not existing.

Humans truly are the worst species with how they so cruelly force life into this harmful existence, and want to make existence into a prison where one cannot easily escape on their own terms, it just disgusts me. Anything anti-suicide is just so wrong as it's our life and our decision.

 

[ThisIsLife]

In my case, I know my people care about me a lot, and while most of them don't know about my CTB plans, I'm sure if they did, they'd have the freakout reaction you'd expect. It's sort of ingrained in society that suicide is a form of taboo, whether religiously, morally, or legislatively.

I don't call this caring. Fear doesn't mean care and it doesn't even mean love.

 

[GreenMarsh]

I don't call this caring. Fear doesn't mean care and it doesn't even mean love.

Just to clarify, I'm not saying preventing me from CTB-ing is caring, I'm simply stating that they do care about me, and thus those feelings might lead them to think that they have an obligation to stop me, which of course is invasive.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

They don't want to deal with grief and loss which causes them suffering for some time while they don't understand that we have to suffer until the natural end of our lives.

 

[ThisIsLife]

Just to clarify, I'm not saying preventing me from CTB-ing is caring, I'm simply stating that they do care about me, and thus those feelings might lead them to think that they have an obligation to stop me, which of course is invasive.

I wasn't making any assumptions ;)

 

[letmejoindeath]

People don't want me to live though and I accept that.

 

[SMmetalhead36]

I wasn't asked to be born.
It's my life and I can do what I want with it.

We all have to die one day. I just don't understand why people say that I can't choose when. Does it really matter if I die tomorrow or 60 years from now?

I feel the same way.