Why do people care about a peaceful death?

[radicalfreedom]

So hear me out on this one. There's a lot of focus on here on discovering comparatively 'peaceful' methods (mostly poisonings of various sorts) over more 'violent' methods (impacts, guns and hanging). What's up with that? If you're dead you're dead. If you care about your loved ones, they will be just as traumatized by your Nembutal suicide as your gunshot suicide. Believe me the gore isn't the part of suicide that traumatizes those around you, it's *losing a loved one.* I get the fear of pain, and the fear of damage on survival (though of course that remains high with poisonings and drugs). But why the fear of blood and gore and generally, you know, dying?

 

[Stormypwns]

Honestly I think most of it has to do with pain, for me at least. My own plan involves blowing my head off with a shotgun while balancing on top of a highrise of some kind so that if I don't die instantly from the gunshot that the fall should finish the job in a fair amount of time. Redundancy worked for the space programs (for the most part) so it should work for my bus ride as well. I do think a lot of people don't want to too badly traumatize whoever finds them, and yeah, finding the body of someone who passed peacefully in their sleep probably isn't as bad as seeing the corpse of someone who blew their face to pieces before falling several stories onto concrete, but I'm a selfish person and I won't be around to feel guilty about how much I fucked up someone's head. Hell, maybe it'll encourage them to make better life choices. Who knows.

 

[Jrmull1993]

I think it comes down to the fear of dying. While many people don't fear death, I do believe most people have a fear of dying, and that the less gory methods act as some sort of psychological coping mechanism.

As far as the word "peaceful" goes, everyone has their own definition. For me personally, it has nothing to do with how gory the method is, but rather than how quick and painless it is.

 

[radicalfreedom]

I think it comes down to the fear of dying. While many people don't fear death, I do believe most people have a fear of dying, and that the less gory methods act as some sort of psychological coping mechanism.

As far as the word "peaceful" goes, everyone has their own definition. For me personally, it has nothing to do with how gory the method is, but rather than how quick and painless it is.

Yeah, I am with you on quick and painless. That's the huge appeal of firearms for those who can get access.

 

[Un-]

Because people have hearts. I've been on this forum for a while, and people.. Who prefer non-gorey, and peaceful ways to die usually don't want to leave a mess that could fuck up their loved ones even more.. And they want to finally rest peacefully, instead of unpleasantly.

I don't necessarily understand it fully. I wouldn't care at all if I died like Ronny Mcnutt. Some people would though.

 

[FuneralCry]

Because suicide is difficult as all humans are programmed to survive. At least for me suicide would be much easier to go through with if I had a peaceful way to exit rather than hanging or jumping. Those methods are terrifying to me and there is also the fear of failure. If I had a peaceful exit I would feel calm about dying and I would have no hesitation in going through with ctb. I think that I have already suffered enough in life so I don't want to suffer in my last moments.

 

[Judy Garland]

We're scared of pain. It's human nature to shy away from things and situations that cause pain. I know the only reason why I haven't taken my SN yet is because I'm afraid of the sensations it's going to give me. I'm afraid that I'm going to feel very sick and that I'll feel my brain dying. I know it's easy to say, "well it will be over anyway", but I can't stop feeling scared of the pain. Eventually I've got to just suck it up, and drink it down though. I don't want to keep living.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

Because it matters what happens-seeing a messed up body is traumatic, I don't believe this wouldn't have an impact on your loved ones. There is a reason parents are sometimes strongly advised against identifying their murdered child and another less close family member will do it instead.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I don't think it's only consideration for family members, I think it's also consideration for the poor sods who have to come and clear up the mess. They may be 'trained' for it but can anyone ever really be trained to scrape up body parts? Surely they must get traumatised seeing all that.

It's unfortunate they have to do it at all- if assisted suicide was more readily available- all of that would be avoided. But- seeing as it isn't, I'd rather my death be as least inconvenient and easy to 'mop up' for the people having to deal with it as possible.

I know some people argue that- when you're dead, your dead- you won't even know about what happens after- so why should you care? I guess there's a point there but I don't know. I'd like my suicide to be as considerate as it can be in terms of cleaning up.

 

[spacehardware]

For me, as well as the pain aspect, it's about dignity. I didn't choose my pain, my trauma or my health issues, but if there is a way that I can choose and choreograph my death, I would much prefer that. I know that hanging achieves the same result, and that my family would be heartbroken regardless, but if I can go eating praline chocolates tucked up in bed with Grey's Anatomy on the TV, doesn't that seem nicer?

 

[Sick&TiredURGH]

So there is a train station around the corner. Less than a two minute walk.
But my googling has told me that I would feel the pain, not for a very long time. But it would still be the most painful thing to go through.
Also the train driver, most train drivers who have people end their lives in front of their train, end up not being able to carry on working.
I had a friend who died that way and it hurts me to think how painful her last moments must have been.
Last October I took a drunken overdose and it was 18 hours of not experiencing anything and that's the way I want to go. So am planning it this time, thoughtfully and carefully so that I can have forever nothing just there and then not.
Just need to get my math correct

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Death of any sort is frightening.

 

[Unworthyoflove]

for sure pain is one of the reasons. can tell you how painful only wrist cutting is. also its a bit of an Idea to end up in the dreamland where we go when sleeping. so just falling asleep seems the best way to transit. another fear factor is not knowing for sure what happens after leaving the body. there are so many theories about that. and who knows if any of them is true. can anyone really promise me that it will not be worse than being incarnated now ? thats my biggest fear

 

[Infernal]

Pain is an extremely powerful thing.

 

[Euthanza]

Peaceful method will be my last offer to my self and everyone else, there's bargain value in it to be wholeheartedly accepted before and after the event, I mean who's not happy with peaceful means?
Unless you have another message then it will be so much different. Self immolation had been used by many as political statement. Or being adrenalin junkies then you'll find 'sky king' method more adventurous. Surely they are harder.

 

[Messgram]

because feelings are irrational. People here want a peaceful and clean death out of an irrational fear of suffering and not traumatizing their loved ones - even though they know that none of that will matter after they are dead.
I mean, what difference does it make for the
dead whether death was painful or not? whether a loved one is grieving or not?

 

[1000winds]

Given that i dont even know what's waiting for me on the other side, i want a method that will ease me into the afterlife ie a method with minimal pain!! i dont want to get there kicking and screaming in terrori might miss the beautiful bits

 

[Hollowillow]

So hear me out on this one. There's a lot of focus on here on discovering comparatively 'peaceful' methods (mostly poisonings of various sorts) over more 'violent' methods (impacts, guns and hanging). What's up with that? If you're dead you're dead. If you care about your loved ones, they will be just as traumatized by your Nembutal suicide as your gunshot suicide. Believe me the gore isn't the part of suicide that traumatizes those around you, it's *losing a loved one.* I get the fear of pain, and the fear of damage on survival (though of course that remains high with poisonings and drugs). But why the fear of blood and gore and generally, you know, dying?

Because of survival instinct. It's easier to OD on heroin in a party by accident than cutting your own head off slowly with a chainsaw.

I think it'd be more traumatic to have to clean up brains off a ceiling with a shotgun then just have the corpse picked up after the party.

I feel like I could handle being choked by a rope for 1 minute. But someone wrote that even a full suspention could choke me for 10 minutes if done wrong... I'd get scared or bored. I'd feel immortal after 5 minutes...

(...)
Just need to get my math correct

I laughed so hard (not at you) I kept wondering why I don't even die when I'm killed.

It's math's fault! Hahaha! Damn math!

 

[ojinzo]

Given that i dont even know what's waiting for me on the other side, i want a method that will ease me into the afterlife ie a method with minimal pain!! i dont want to get there kicking and screaming in terrori might miss the beautiful bits

It's funny. I don't really care what's waiting for me on the other side. Honestly, of it's what most people say, I look forward to confronting my maker. I look forward to saying why did you do this to me?! Why did you send me to that planet in that body?! Why did you make me the way you did?! I have so much rage and anger toward whatever force created me and put me here to suffer every single got damn day of my thirty six years on this earth.

 

[JesiBel]

I think the only peaceful death is the one in which you don't realize you're dying, that is, when you sleep. And only a few lucky ones get to experience it.

As for suicide, I'm only interested in it being quick, easy and effective. Death is the main goal, I guess others will prioritize other things first. I chose one of the so-called "violent" methods. The body will probably look gruesome (but not mutilated), so I'll cover it up as much as possible.

I suppose a death that leaves the body shattered will require much more courage, and the pain will not be the same.

 

[ididnotconsent]

Honestly I think most of it has to do with pain, for me at least. My own plan involves blowing my head off with a shotgun while balancing on top of a highrise of some kind so that if I don't die instantly from the gunshot that the fall should finish the job in a fair amount of time. Redundancy worked for the space programs (for the most part) so it should work for my bus ride as well. I do think a lot of people don't want to too badly traumatize whoever finds them, and yeah, finding the body of someone who passed peacefully in their sleep probably isn't as bad as seeing the corpse of someone who blew their face to pieces before falling several stories onto concrete, but I'm a selfish person and I won't be around to feel guilty about how much I fucked up someone's head. Hell, maybe it'll encourage them to make better life choices. Who knows.

Your Profile picture is the fucking best lol.

 

[Gamelle]

Humans have a built-in aversion to pain that's hard to get over. It's not easy to force your logic to override your basic human instincts. The suicide rate would be much higher if it was.

 

[LostLily]

I am a wimp and I hate pain. I don't like even really spicy food

 

[Csmith8827]

Because drinking SN and panicking and vomiting over the course of 30minutes is just fucked up and evil. Even if you take propofol and don't experience tachycardia, fucking vomitng (potentially multiple times) is still fucked up, we should just be able to take N or drink, whatever...and fall asleep.

 

[Night_Crew]

I feel like a peaceful death is more akin to being eased away from suffering, whereas a violent death is a final attack against the perpetual torment.

 

[divinemistress36]

Because drinking SN and panicking and vomiting over the course of 30minutes is just fucked up and evil. Even if you take propofol and don't experience tachycardia, fucking vomitng (potentially multiple times) is still fucked up, we should just be able to take N or drink, whatever...and fall asleep.

Even with benzos it still seems scary asf

 

[brokeandbroken]

So hear me out on this one. There's a lot of focus on here on discovering comparatively 'peaceful' methods (mostly poisonings of various sorts) over more 'violent' methods (impacts, guns and hanging). What's up with that? If you're dead you're dead. If you care about your loved ones, they will be just as traumatized by your Nembutal suicide as your gunshot suicide. Believe me the gore isn't the part of suicide that traumatizes those around you, it's *losing a loved one.* I get the fear of pain, and the fear of damage on survival (though of course that remains high with poisonings and drugs). But why the fear of blood and gore and generally, you know, dying?

for me gore wouldn't factor in if I was looking to CTB. I know exactly how much people cared about me in life. Why would I care in death? If people cared in life the entire question becomes irrelevant.