Venting Why am I a good person?

[PrettyWhiteFlower]

I've always tried to be a good considerate person. Growing up you hear "Treat others as you'd like to be treated" and that made sense to me so it's how I've lived. But lately I feel like what's the point. No one else seems to live by this rule. I go out of my way to try to make things better for others. But they don't care and they'd never think to do the same.

Should I just give up?
Treat people like they treat me instead?
Use people like they use me?

Those people seem happier than me and always seem to get what they want.

 

[DivineSpark]

I try to be nice to people no matter what they think of me. It is just me.

 

[SVEN]

I never trust my own evaluation of me.

 

[PrettyWhiteFlower]

I try to be nice to people no matter what they think of me. It is just me.

I think I'm that way too. I think even if I tried I'd just stay the same. I can't help but feel pathetic sometimes. I guess maybe I'm nice to the point of being a doormat

I never trust my own evaluation of me.

I hadn't thought of that but maybe I just think I'm nice but actually I'm just a loser who lets people walk all over them

 

[Forveleth]

I have had this debate with myself for a while now, especially in terms of my abuser. I often wonder if I would be a happier person if I had just lived for myself and not anyone else.

I do not know the answer to this. I have started to treat my abuser like the piece of garbage he is and my life is not really better per say, but I feel better standing up to the asshole and not giving in (or just making him feel bad). Yet at the same time I feel horrible because I want to be nice to everyone.

It is a difficult situation to be in.

 

[UnrulyNightmare]

I would not like myself anymore if I started acting like the people who hurt me.
Even if everything is shit, the least I can do is be true to myself
Not easy in todays world but worth the effort for me. Plus I genuinely like treating people well

 

[PrettyWhiteFlower]

I have had this debate with myself for a while now, especially in terms of my abuser. I often wonder if I would be a happier person if I had just lived for myself and not anyone else.

I do not know the answer to this. I have started to treat my abuser like the piece of garbage he is and my life is not really better per say, but I feel better standing up to the asshole and not giving in (or just making him feel bad). Yet at the same time I feel horrible because I want to be nice to everyone.

It is a difficult situation to be in.

It does sound difficult but good on you for finding the strength to stand up to them. That must have been really hard.