Who else has literally no friends or family?

[Sleepdrifter]

I've had no friends or family for so long it seems natural and I want to see if there are others who have survived under the circumstances, how you managed to pull through, how it's affected you as an adult, if you want to talk.

What do you do, how did you end up like this? For me it was a mix of appalling family behavior by others, bad luck and being naive. Also not being assertive enough. But I have a career and am working on my MSc now.

By no friends or family I don't mean that you still have one or two contacts, I mean zero, nada, nil, no support whatsoever. No birthday or xmas celebrations, no event invitations, not one phone call. Strictly nothing.

I've coped by moving around a lot, keeping active, pursuing hobbies. It's not always sad, sometimes it's liberating but it can get very difficult and you don't get the same choices as other people. (Although they will swear you do)

Let me know if there are other survivors out there

Thank you

 

[neveragreedtothis]

i wish. then i could ctb easily in peace.

 

[Sleepdrifter]

i wish. then i could ctb easily in peace.

Would it feel easier with no one to leave behind?

 

[clockwork_cat]

I've had no friends or family for so long it seems natural and I want to see if there are others who have survived under the circumstances, how you managed to pull through, how it's affected you as an adult, if you want to talk.

What do you do, how did you end up like this? For me it was a mix of appalling family behavior by others, bad luck and being naive. Also not being assertive enough. But I have a career and am working on my MSc now.

By no friends or family I don't mean that you still have one or two contacts, I mean zero, nada, nil, no support whatsoever. No birthday or xmas celebrations, no event invitations, not one phone call. Strictly nothing.

I've coped by moving around a lot, keeping active, pursuing hobbies. It's not always sad, sometimes it's liberating but it can get very difficult and you don't get the same choices as other people. (Although they will swear you do)

Let me know if there are other survivors out there

Thank you

I have nobody, just my cat. It's always been this way, I've always been the "black sheep", if you will, always disassociating at events when I was a kid and mute for a large portion of my life. I used to want close relations for a really long time, until I gave up. I guess I just lived in my head for 90% of the time, made up my own universes and friends and memories..

I've lived in solitude basically, and I never minded it until I realized how good it felt to have a friend, or to feel loved. But spoiler… it's never, never worth it. People die, they leave, they hurt you. I wish I stayed in my head. I'm back there now, and it's crueler than I remembered. Everything is so cold.

 

[Zegers]

I don't see point in life without family and social connections

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Yep l am 100% alone and am well accustomed to existing this way!

 

[OceanBlue]

Maintaining most friendships would mean being dishonest about who I am, it would be a burden to pretend and they wouldn't know who they are friends with. I also don't enjoy irl interactions and conversations. I distanced myself from most people and being alone makes my life easier, except when it comes to networking, in this sense I'm at a disadvantage as so many things can be sorted through connections.

I think this is also a societal expectation, similar to romantic relationships, to have a social circle. The society and its rules make no sense to me, so they can shove it. I don't have family either, I don't even believe in blood bonds. Some that I unfortunately got to know were the reason I grew up traumatized in the first place.

I wish I could live somewhere entirely by myself and never see anyone again. Dealing with other people is the worst part of my existence.

 

[Pluto]

I'm very close to having no family or friends. I could name one uncle who I might see every year or 2. Likewise one sister who I have superficially associated with. Definitely nothing substantial.

As far as connecting with other people, very few people relate to both the trauma and the lack of success in recovering. Many people have had trauma but end up being reasonably successful, while others have never been through it at all so cannot relate. Both would view me as negative or uninspiring when I am just honestly expressing my situation - though I rarely do speak to anyone about it since it only makes things worse.

People can say that being isolated makes it easier to CTB knowing that no one would miss me, but it's also the reason I am inclined to CTB in the first place.

 

[OceanBlue]

very few people relate to both the trauma and the lack of success in recovering

This is so true. Trauma becomes valid and inspiring only if you overcome it, the "makes you stronger" narrative. Otherwise it's shunned, like death.

 

[Heavenbound]

I have some family left, and they are local, but we very seldom interact.
I have a few friends but they live far away, and we are only in contact by telephone and email, and it's getting increasingly less often.
So, I'm not exactly totally alone, but then again, I'm not invited to birthdays or holiday dinners either. It's complicated.