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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
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Maybe you aren't jaded yet but, I imagine many people here are. I suppose there are lots of things we can become jaded with too. What do you suppose you became jaded or cynical, unenthusiastic about first?

I suppose chronologically, it was perhaps family first. Problems and split loyalties due to step relations. The prospect that maybe you can't even count on your own family members.

I think I probably then became jaded with the work place. How hard it was likely to be to get a job in what I studdied. I became pretty cynical about my career prospects early on although weirdly- I carried on chasing them.

Then, the workplace itself. The office politics. The ways companies seemed to reward and promote sociopaths! The way it treated its employees. Plus, the one or two individuals that seemed to get away with throwing their weight around- despite not being managerial.

I suppose that became mirrored in politics. I decided I didn't trust any of them. So, wouldn't even bother to follow the latest lie they were spouting.

Then maybe relationships. For many years, I so wanted a partner but then, I really observed partners around me and decided there were masses of downsides too. I more happily became cynical about relationships- it was nice to be free of all that longing.

With friendships, it was more the experience of being let down that caused me to be jaded there.

Then, when I had worked hard to get the career I dreamt of, the very top jobs turned out to sound dreadful- with 16 hour working days, unsupportive managers- which I heard from multiple sources. So- my sense of ambition became jaded.

I suppose there are still things about life I do often enjoy. Nature, games, films, music, food. Maybe you can feel jaded about them if the weather is awful or, the cost wasn't worth it. But still- I'm not sure even the good things are ultimately worth it. Food makes you fat for instance. It's not all good.

But then- finding myself so jaded with just about every aspect of life- it's hard to summon up the enthusiasm/ motivation to do anything. I suppose the only lucky thing for me is that it all happened over a reasonably long period. One thing after the other becoming a disappointment it wasn't worth pursuing.

I do feel so bad for people living with that level of disillusionment in their teens say. On the one hand- I think they're so much smarter than me! To have worked that all out so young. I probably had suspicions back then but, I delluded myself with hope. On the other though, I don't know what they have to start with in the tank to keep them going. How can you proceed when you don't have desire or hope? I think in general, generations are becoming more rebelious too so- I don't think obligation will necessarily be enough to force them now.

How about you? Are you jaded about specific things? All things? Nothing?
 
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Captive_Mind515

King or street sweeper, dance with grim reaper!
Jul 18, 2023
677
Yeah pretty much everything. I find little things to occupy my mind like fitness goals or new technology or being out in nature with my dog camping etc. I manage to make my life peaceful enough for the most part, but nothing seems important anymore.

Once my dog has had his fill of this life, I'm getting out with him. And I'm happy enough with that arrangement, as I have experienced a little bit of this life for whatever it was worth. (Not a lot…😂)

And I think I'm the same, I didn't figure out how much of a scam and a disappointment this life was until much later. Even in my teens, when my life was a total mess and I was very unhappy… for some bizarre reason I still had hope. I don't know if it's stupidity or some people are just naturally inclined that way at certain ages.

But I have definitely woken up from that naivety now, and the eyes are wide open… I actually think people underestimate how powerful boredom and disillusionment are in relation to whether someone values their existence. I don't think these factors are as trivial as they're made out to be.
 
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cemeteryismyhome

Paragon
Mar 15, 2025
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I was born basically already jaded somehow. But many things over time made me the perfectly infinitely jaded old man I am now. Too many to recall, here's a quick list off the top of my head, in no particular order:
1. going to kindergarten, and the whole school experience
2. father hating me
3. being a Jehovah's Witness, and realizing their deception and dishonesty, leaving, family disowning me
4. wife having a miscarriage when we first tried to start a family - and no help from people or institutions I trusted before
5. work - United States corporations HATE their employees, their own country, everything but money, they are pure distilled evil
6. marriage - sad to say
7. fatherhood - sadder to say
8. everyone lies, everyone hurts each other, no one is reliable
9. everyone dies, no matter what, so what the heck is the point
 
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skipping_stones

Every living creature on this earth dies alone
Dec 13, 2025
14
If I wasn't jaded already, becoming a student definitely finished the job.
Realizing that I'm the last generation of students that will be able to receive a bachelor's degree before the iron curtain falls on my country...The fact that my proffesion is one of the first ones that will be overtaken by ai, because people don't really care about integrity and because we can already see the changes in the job market... Something that I was dreaming about since I was a kid, like the only thing I thought I could be good at - is basically getting nuked before I even got the chance.
Added on the fact that the way we're being taught is so outdated and in some cases borderline stupid. My overall skills have gotten so much worse since I enrolled and all my friends share this sentiment. All while being surrounded by so many people who couldn't care less about what they're studying, cause they're here only because their parents made them enroll - and somehow they want this to be your problem...

Every single day is basically you feeling like you're becoming dumber, doing the most useless assigments without learning anything all while knowing that by the time you graduate, you:
A. May not even be able to find a job cause AI :)
B. Not find a job because your country basically fucked all humanitarian sciences without even the possibility of immigration because it is getting harder and harder to immigrate each year (besides, you probably won't be able to return....not while this regime is here) and it's not like any country likes having immigrants...

So yeah, came in with bright shining eyes and whimsy and ended up dumb, numbed and jaded. I don't even know why I bother with this atp, I guess just autopilot.
 
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starboy2k

starboy2k

whhaazzzzzuuupppp
May 21, 2025
447
constantly being told your personality is too much until you become a living shell made me jaded

constantly being told the decisions i make is stupid without any help or guidance has made me jaded

constantly being expected to live up to certain expectations without telling or showing me how to get there has made me jaded

constantly being told everything is my fault, then switching up the rhetoric when I start to isolate myself has made me jaded

constantly being lied to and abused by people who NEVER want anyone lying to or abusing them has also made me jaded

work culture has made me jaded
school/bullying has made me jaded
money has made me jaded
my sex life (no matter how much I miss it) has made me jaded
my own identity has made me jaded
suicide has made me jaded

i can go on and on…….
 
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