What's your relationship with your family like and does it have an impact on your mental health?

[𝗟𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗹𝘆]

What's your relationship with your family like and does it have an impact on your mental health?


My relationship with closest ones is difficult. It's so amazing at times but yet so shit at others. I feel like they don't know how to react when I'm at my lowest and just keep attacking me for it as if that was my fault and I chose to be this way which makes it worse. It's tiring and confusing. I feel like all I am to them is a burden, like I ruin their perfect family picture. I'm sure they love me but I'm also sure they would be better off without me. Though there are good moments with them for some reason the bad ones outweight all of it in my head.

 

[makeitstop___]

Big part of why I'm here today. The wounds of conditional love and no support system. No one to count on.

 

[BlazingBob]

My family is horrible. It's completely fragmented and extremely hostile. It's profoundly affected my mental health. No family gatherings, no birthday celebrations, zilch. It's very depressing and lonely especially when you don't have a spouse or family of your own.

 

[gbi2]

I don't see any of them I don't know who is alive or dead. My dad disowned me when I was young and when I moved away from my birthtown when things were going bad, I had planned to help otehr relatives and that went wrong when one of them badly miscalculated their financial situation. With no-one willing to accept responsibility for this bad calculation happening before it affected me, responsibility was left on me to sort it out and when I couldn't it was assumed the problem happened when I got involved. so I had to cut myself off from the rest of my family. Soem weren't involved but I knew from experience there would be no peace from "Why don't you give them a call I'm sure they will try and help" when they just wouldn't.

The thing is, since I did that I've taken more chances that I know I would have taken if I was still hearing their (bad) advice. Not that life has gone well since, (hence being here) but if there was a suitable analogy, "I've jumped from a plane and someone sabotaged my parachute but before I found that out I had a great time believeing I had taken a well calculated risk that was going to pay off, in spades."

It was the right decision to cut myself off but I suppose had I not have, I wouldn't have been here (in my situation, not the website) now because I'd have taken advice which would have been all about doing nothing that could result in any reward other than a meaningless promotion. But I think I'd have possibly been at this website now, knowing I listened too much and didn't try and make something of myself.

I got a bit lost thinking that through, might not make sense.

 

[stxrdustprincex]

i'm not particularly close with any of my family. my parents were probably the root cause of all my mental illnesses - i barely had a childhood because we moved so much and i grew up surrounded by adults instead of people my own age. my mother is a psychiatrist and she treats me like one of her patients when i just need her to be my mom. my father is better now but our interactions from when i was younger still haunt me. they constantly misgender and deadname me, even when i correct them, which makes it hard to enjoy any time spent around them. i hate visiting them.

 

[WonderingSoul]

My relationship with my family is terrible. I hate them. My current position in life would be way better and healthier if I was born into a different family. Whenever they don't get what they want or when I mess up, all they do is shout and say terrible things to me. It has happened to me so many times. I wish I could just escape from them, but if I did I wouldn't have any support system. I'd probably just be homeless, but I'd like to CTB before that happens.

 

[kilowatt]

It's one of the main reasons I'm going to CTB. I just had a rough childhood and I'm still not over it I guess.