What’s the worst thing that’s been said to you, following an attemp?

[thatlatealready]

I've got various incidents of things I've had said to me that stand out as being particularly bad:

-My dad calling me up to to say that he wouldn't be bothering to come to the hospital because I'm just attention seeking. He shouted at me down the phone: called me selfish, said I deserved to be dead, that he hoped I died, and told me to choose a more successful method so that other people don't have to put up with me anymore. I was about 13 at the time.

-The nurse at the hospital who I overheard talking to her colleague saying that she was leaving my cannula in wrong on purpose so that I'd suffer a bit more and maybe be put off attempting again. They also left me vomiting in a chair in the corner repeatedly for over eight hours. I couldn't even keep down water and was severely dehydrated by the time I left.

-Being told by a crisis lady very persistently that "this was all just a big cry for help".

-An ambulance driver who lectured me on how my choice of method was ineffective (she was right, but still)

-A conversation I had with a toxicologist who offered to put a DNR order on me because there was no point in trying to keep me alive if I was just going to attempt again. I think she was just testing the waters because she got pretty annoyed when I said yes, of course, I want to die, but I wasn't certain that that was an okay thing to be offering to a patient who was clearly mentally unwell. I never did get that order.

-The time I called Samaritans and the lady on the end of the line suggested that I just needed to have a nice cuddle with my dog after I told her I'd just tried (and failed) to hang myself.

-Another crisis lady who suggested I had BPD within five minutes of meeting me, and stormed off in a huff when I told her I'm almost certain I don't as I am lacking several of the key symptoms.

People really do have a knack for coming out with the worst possible things. An ex-girlfriend of mine recently joked that if she ever needed to find a bridge in the city, she'd just ask me "because it's likely I'd know". Admittedly, it was funny but also quite inappropriate given that I really do have a map of possible jumping spots saved.

That nurse shouldn't have said what she said, and I'm sorry that you went through that.

 

[unnormal9]

"Why won't you die?"
"Kill yourself already."
"Do you want your closure?"
"Try harder."
"Stop being a burden, make everyone happy."
"No one likes you autistic-schizo."

 

[cristata]

A few weeks after the attempt, my mom and I got into a disagreement. I ended up crying and she told me, "Stop acting crazy before you land yourself in a pysch ward." It wasn't related specifically to the attempt, but hearing that after the fact upset me.

 

[Dreadle]

What I'm seeing is there's a massive gap in knowledge which had been overshadowed by treating it as a symptom rather than a choice. That and the sigma around it makes it hard to talk freely without being judged, "we don't talk about Bruno" comes to mind.
The language used on the forum is also interesting, there are people who are reacting and people who logically choose it. Both are just as important and needs equally to be explored, validated and provide the freedom and means to carry out or what we believe is in our best interests.
I empathise with you, that those people have chosen their words poorly, I'm sorry.

 

[mirzani]

"Why won't you die?"
"Kill yourself already."
"Do you want your closure?"
"Try harder."
"Stop being a burden, make everyone happy."
"No one likes you autistic-schizo."

Oh, i feel this so much. If those words can kill, I've died dozen times already

 

[qwert3948]

''do it then'' while i was standing with half my body out of a window.

 

[mob]

Not AFTER an attempt, but when I was sick with a severe case of pneumonia (which could've ended fatally) and in intensive care for a week, a nurse saw my scars and laughed, saying "Did you cut yourself? Sorry, but then I can't take your fear of needles seriously"

After my first attempt, my sister told me it was for attention because there's no way it would've worked and my 14 year old self should've known that it wouldn't have killed me.

Edit because I just remembered something; when I was vomiting the whole time after my attempt, my mom seriously asked me if I was pregnant because she thought of me as a whore. First of all, I was FOURTEEN.