What's the worst thing a proffessional has said to you?

[Silent_cries]

We all know how shitty they can be sometimes. I'm not even going to deny how sick I am of them rn. I'm pretty sick of everything honestly. So yeah, what bs have they said to you?

 

[sserafim]

"You should exercise! It's good for you."

 

[Deleted member 8119]

"You should exercise! It's good for you."

It's true though, moderate exercise is linked to physical and mental well-being.

As for me, I was told telling my problems to my therapist is victimist behavior. I mean, what the hell did him expect?

 

[Dayrain]

I was asking for a regular normal treatment option, which is proven to be helpful, widely prescribed and absolutely appropriate, because I got it prescribed later by another one. He literally said: "Go and search for another doctor who thinks like you."

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I had a social worker laugh at me in grade 10 for talking about my concerns over getting into a good university. I know it's kind of a dumb thing to get upset over but it was something that was stressing me out a lot at the time. She was the last social worker I ever had and she was my least favourite out of all of them.

 

[Sad_Autistic_boy_101]

1) When I went to the doctors for a self injury I was worried about. She told me that I was so selfish for putting my family through all of this.

2) When I had a adult mental health assessment and a week before it my father figure CTB and I did not know this, he was meant to be attending the appointment with me but he didn't show. I told them that something was very wrong and I kept discussing it repeatedly with them during the assessment, They told me that he obviously didn't care about me and I need to get over it and continue with the assessment.

 

[Silent_cries]

Pretty sure there are worse things that has been said to me before, but this is the worst one I can think of rn: "You shouldn't have therapy bc it just makes you even more unstable."

Apparantly I'm a lost cause

Btw same psychiatrist refused me any medication and wouldn't treat me at all. Fucking dickhead!

As I'm writing this, I actually remembered one that is worse: "you should've been in prison, I'm sure you'd do just fine there." He thought I was a sociopath, when in reality I was just psychotic and rly mentally messed up.

 

[theboy]

you have incurable disease

 

[Malaria]

I had a psychiatrist basically tell me that if I don't like the mental health treatment I'm receiving, that's my fault. I also had that same psychiatrist ask me, "Why are you said about your grandmother dying if she's going to die anyway?"

 

[NSA]

My last doc didn't want to up my Adderall dose when I told him it wears off too soon because I don't have a job. What, I do t deserve to be semi-functional for more than 6 hours a day because I can't work??? Fuck you man.

did convince him in the end but it really sucked having to.

 

[Silent_cries]

My last doc didn't want to up my Adderall dose when I told him it wears off too soon because I don't have a job. What, I do t deserve to be semi-functional for more than 6 hours a day because I can't work??? Fuck you man.

did convince him in the end but it really sucked having to.

At least you get meds to help you. I get none at all and I desperately need something for my unbearble anxiety. Not even swallowing a battery on impulse due to the anxiety is enough to get anything apparantly. I fucking hate the system!

 

[NSA]

At least you get meds to help you. I get none at all and I desperately need something for my unbearble anxiety. Not even swallowing a battery on impulse due to the anxiety is enough to get anything apparantly. I fucking hate the system!

Yeah system sucks. Only way I even got diagnosed was to do my own research and "present" in a way that read "adhd" to normies. Half these guys don't know shit and the rest don't take medicaid.

I had a psychiatrist basically tell me that if I don't like the mental health treatment I'm receiving, that's my fault. I also had that same psychiatrist ask me, "Why are you said about your grandmother dying if she's going to die anyway?"

there are no words

 

[Silent_cries]

Yeah system sucks. Only way I even got diagnosed was to do my own research and "present" in a way that read "adhd" to normies. Half these guys don't know shit and the rest don't take medicaid.

there are no words

Yeah, they're pretty infuriating. I've never had any mental illnesses diagnosed bc they just blame everything on my autism, bc why bother spending effort on diagnosing me when they can just use my autism to "explain" everything and get it over with? Fucking retards! Yes, I used the r-word! Sorry, not sorry!

 

[noname223]

"It would be easier for you to simply give up (instead of going through more therapy). And you are smart enough to know that."

She was aware I was and am very suicidal over a long time period. She gave me up and ended the therapy after this session. I told it to my mom and when my mom asked/messaged her about that my therapist lied to my mom. She also said some others thing in this last session which hurt me. But it was probably the truth.

 

[Felodese]

After failed TMS for my treatment resistent depression: " Well, if treatment didn't work, then maybe you don't have depression."

Telling a psychiatrist I about severe depression and SI: "You can't just threaten suicide when things don't go your way"

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

One of my therapists once told me that I'm not evil at all even though I had just finished telling her exactly what makes me evil. Some of the worst bs I've ever heard in my life.

 

[lemonbunny]

"It would be easier for you to simply give up (instead of going through more therapy). And you are smart enough to know that."

She was aware I was and am very suicidal over a long time period. She gave me up and ended the therapy after this session. I told it to my mom and when my mom asked/messaged her about that my therapist lied to my mom. She also said some others thing in this last session which hurt me. But it was probably the truth.

is it possible to report them for this type of behavior? i feel like she shouldn't be allowed to handle any more clients if she's going to treat them like that.
if she couldn't make you feel better than she should've acknowledged that she's at her wit's end and refer you to someone else or something, not just literally tell u to give up lmao. it's not even about the truth, it's about doing her job

 

[Silent_cries]

is it possible to report them for this type of behavior? i feel like she shouldn't be allowed to handle any more clients if she's going to treat them like that.
if she couldn't make you feel better than she should've acknowledged that she's at her wit's end and refer you to someone else or something, not just literally tell u to give up lmao. it's not even about the truth, it's about doing her job

Now I can't speak for their exact situation, but that would probably be very difficult. For one, unless there was someone else with them in that appointment, witch I doubth, It'll be rly hard to prove it. Secondly, no one is going to belive a mentally ill person from my experience bc in their eyes we're "too sick" to understand what we're talking about. The only way they might have a chance at getting her fired is if they somehow manage to get in touch with other clients or ex-clients of hers who's been through the same or similar and get them to report her as well, but that's difficult to do and there is still no guarantee she'd get fired then either. It short summary, you're basicly screwed if you're the patient in the situation and have no definitive proof. I completely agree with you though, that woman should never work as a proffessional. That's just horrible!

 

[Kit1]

I am terrified of masks and masks were used during some rape incidents when I was aged before 5/6. When covid started, I basically stayed indoors. Once I opened the door to find some children with masks in November 2021 (which I have no memory of) and was given CPR after passing out and came round to face medics. So my medical notes have this write ip in my notes.

Anyway in May 2022, I had taken an overdose and ended up in the A&E of the local hospital. Someone had put me in a wheelchair and I woke up to being in the middle of A&E with everyone quaking the covid masks - I must have either passed put or dissociated and I started to have really bad flashbacks. Anyway I was seen by a nurse briefly and begged him to let me wait alone - and suggested end of a corridor or bathroom cubicle and he just told me strongly to "go and sit down". I managed to straggle out of A&E into the car park and to this day, I don't have much memory of the next few hours - again passed out or totally dissociation. Anyway I was admitted hour later for the antidote, discharged three days later - have taken overdoses since and been unwell as well. Never returned to A&E though - would rather die than go through that. That nurse brought the whole nursing industry into disrepute - he is not fit enough to be a human being, let alone a nurse.

 

[zeecen]

Had a crisis worker called to my highschool back in the day. Showed him the cuts on my arms and he was just like "oh i think you should just go home for the day".

Had another crisis worker come to my house, same place. Lady sections me for no reason, always been cooperative so told her about everything. The police show up expecting me to be combative af cus I've been sectioned yk, and they just find me chilling in the living room playing oblivion on the ps3. They were like "why are we here?"

Eventually got the section lifted after getting taken the ER because, again, the section was unnecessary as I was always cooperative with treatment. Turns out the lady who sectioned me sectioned every case she had that weekend, she was a substitute.

Another one when I was really little, like 8. Get a psychiatrist from the same place those crisis workers are from. Tell him I want to kill myself. He just smiles at me and says nothing.

With all that said, I do have tons of positive experiences too. They're not all incompetent or heartless, though a lot are genuinely horrible.

 

[Silent_cries]

Had a crisis worker called to my highschool back in the day. Showed him the cuts on my arms and he was just like "oh i think you should just go home for the day".

Had another crisis worker come to my house, same place. Lady sections me for no reason, always been cooperative so told her about everything. The police show up expecting me to be combative af cus I've been sectioned yk, and they just find me chilling in the living room playing oblivion on the ps3. They were like "why are we here?"

Eventually got the section lifted after getting taken the ER because, again, the section was unnecessary as I was always cooperative with treatment. Turns out the lady who sectioned me sectioned every case she had that weekend, she was a substitute.

Another one when I was really little, like 8. Get a psychiatrist from the same place those crisis workers are from. Tell him I want to kill myself. He just smiles at me and says nothing.

With all that said, I do have tons of positive experiences too. They're not all incompetent or heartless, though a lot are genuinely horrible.

Ik there's good ones out there too, I've had a couple. Problem is they would never last, and once they quit I'd just go back to having shitty ones. It's rly hard to find good ones, let alone keeping them. >_<

 

[Abditory]

We all know how shitty they can be sometimes. I'm not even going to deny how sick I am of them rn. I'm pretty sick of everything honestly. So yeah, what bs have they said to you?

I went to the doctor recently, finally wanting help. I told him about what's going on and how I did not want to be put on medication again because it truly made me 10 times worse last time. I asked how I could go about getting a therapist or something similar instead of medication. I made sure my doctor understood my fear of getting on medication again and how I do not want them at all. However, he proceeded to tell me that he would not refer me to a therapist or psychologist and that he was deciding to put me on medication again, just a different brand, and it should work. "Therapy won't help you, only medicine" he said.
Spoiler alert: the medication, again, made me worse

 

[Silent_cries]

I went to the doctor recently, finally wanting help. I told him about what's going on and how I did not want to be put on medication again because it truly made me 10 times worse last time. I asked how I could go about getting a therapist or something similar instead of medication. I made sure my doctor understood my fear of getting on medication again and how I do not want them at all. However, he proceeded to tell me that he would not refer me to a therapist or psychologist and that he was deciding to put me on medication again, just a different brand, and it should work. "Therapy won't help you, only medicine" he said.
Spoiler alert: the medication, again, made me worse

Honestly, get yourself a new gp, he clearly just wants your money. He's not worth your time at all!

 

[Abditory]

Honestly, get yourself a new gp, he clearly just wants your money. He's not worth your time at all!

I'm thankful that I was able to switch doctors to someone who listens to me and was able to give me a referral. Now, I'm trying to deal with everything until I can get that call back, which honestly could take months depending on the waitlist. I am thankful, though, and I am trying!

 

[Dida]

"You should exercise! It's good for you."

I kid you not, my first and only therapist told me this after I told her about my PTSD, loneliness, suicidal thoughts since I was 8. She was like, "You should go to the gym you should get a girlfriend".

Well I took her shitty advice and I'm still suicidal. I'm fit and well getting a girlfriend is impossible if you are a neurodivergent male with a stutter. Also there isn't even a point as my lack of mental health will always get in the way.

 

[Silent_cries]

I'm thankful that I was able to switch doctors to someone who listens to me and was able to give me a referral. Now, I'm trying to deal with everything until I can get that call back, which honestly could take months depending on the waitlist. I am thankful, though, and I am trying!

I'm glad to hear that and I wish you luck! Being stuck with a bad doctor can rly suck!

 

[zeecen]

Ik there's good ones out there too, I've had a couple. Problem is they would never last, and once they quit I'd just go back to having shitty ones. It's rly hard to find good ones, let alone keeping them. >_<

Yes!! I completely agree. It always feels like for every 1 good one there's many more unhelpful or harmful ones.

 

[Silent_cries]

Yes!! I completely agree. It always feels like for every 1 good one there's many more unhelpful or harmful ones.

Yep, and it doesn't help that ppl are going to listen to them over you bc they think that the proffessional obiovsly knows better, smh
We need more proper proffessionals, man!

 

[Camper]

CSA When I described the sexual abuse I went through by a pedophile, the therapist told me it "sounded like I consented to it."

I've never, ever had a good experience with a therapist.

 

[ferret-in-a-sock]

"You're untreatable."

Never recovered from that to be honest. Made me very, very paranoid with any future therapist. After awhile, it became a self-fulfilling prophecy and I stopped going to therapy.