Isadeth
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- Jun 12, 2020
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Do you ever wonder what others will say about you after you're gone? I often wonder.
Everyone loves you when you're dead.
Everyone loves you when you're dead.
The guilt aspect is absolutely dead on. It's sweet of you to wait and prolong your own suffering so you don't risk the possibility of ruining your parent's anniversary.I think people will be very, very sad. I've always been a bit of a teacher's pet - they've always liked me too, though. I've gotten pretty close with some of them and we've had some amazing and insightful discussions. They'll probably feel pretty bad because they didn't notice things have been so bad, or because I didn't open up to them. You know how people tend to feel guilty. My coworkers will probably understand that this is why I like working in the ER so much, because I can really relate to our patients who are suicidal and like being a person that they can just talk to, and hopefully feel validated afterward from (awkward wording, my apologies). My friends will hopefully be expecting this, so I hope they're not too shaken up or hurt. My family will be devastated. My parents will feel horribly guilty and likely fall into depression, my brother will be hurt, my uncle will likely be angry and upset (because we've talked about suicide before).
But...I just can't keep suffering and being such a damn burden and a waste. It's so painful. I would love to just kill myself soon, but I have to wait so things like my parent's anniversary aren't ruined by my suicide.
That's fairly harsh as far as responses go. :( I wish we could view how we're gonna be remembered, or if we're remembered. Also, what others would say regarding us. It really bugs me when people pass and everyone jumps to be the "best friend" then later they never mention them again.Irresponsible p****...
Sad though... Wanna watch Love Island?
We need to recruit a new guy...
I think that about sums it up
DBD
People really do move on with their lives fairly quickly. They say we have three deaths. 1. Your body 2. Burial or what have you and 3. When someone utters your name for the last time. ♡I think at first everyone will be shocked, but as people are they will just live their pathetic lives on in few month
Oh, yeah, local gossip.... My town reminds me of Salem's Lot, so you can imagine how that'll go lmao. Sorry if this sounds bad, but I hope you can be remembered by more than your method :( You're a human being and deserve to be remembered as such.The guilt aspect is absolutely dead on. It's sweet of you to wait and prolong your own suffering so you don't risk the possibility of ruining your parent's anniversary.
Aside from my family and friends grieving, I expect the local gossip if word gets out... but it'll settle down eventually. Then I'll only be remembered by my method when/if ever brought up in conversation.
I'm sorry you're suffering so much. ♡
Feel this brother but it is irrelevant. We are the blink of an eye on the infinity of irrelevance so I don't care.That's fairly harsh as far as responses go. :( I wish we could view how we're gonna be remembered, or if we're remembered. Also, what others would say regarding us. It really bugs me when people pass and everyone jumps to be the "best friend" then later they never mention them again.
That's so sweet you won't put your parents through burying a child. ♡ you can't be that much of a "useless piece of shit" if you're being so selfless. XxI don't want to kill myself before my parents are dead (they still love me, don't know why since I'm useless piece of shit) so there won't be many people to say anything about me. Most of those guys won't be even surprised.
That's very true. In the end it doesn't really matter. We're here, then we're not.Feel this brother but it is irrelevant. We are the blink of an eye on the infinity of irrelevance so I don't care.
DBD
You don't have anyone you can think of offhand that would grieve your absence? I hope you're remembered and thought of more than just a "good riddance" and an unattended death.Probably nothing. Maybe "good riddance". I'm nobody. It would be one of those people that you find out are dead years later and just say "figures", or "huh".
That's so sweet you won't put your parents through burying a child. ♡ you can't be that much of a "useless piece of shit" if you're being so selfless. Xx
Ugh the common, "I'm so sorry for your loss." Crap. That's annoying. But I understand it since most people don't know what to say in those situations. Your friends and family will probably reminisce for years to come. I'm not sure if they know of your struggles/pain, but if they do, it'll probably be of comfort that you're free of them. XxProbably the obligatory "he was a nice person, he'll be missed" but aside from that not an awful lot, because outside of a small friend group and my family I don't speak to anyone. Some people just think of my as a weird creepy guy and will probably just laugh at me and speculate over why I killed myself.
I'll be forgotten by most within a month or two.
Coming from a parent that has lost two children, doing that for them is the kindest and most loving thing you can do. Because trust me, it's a pain that's indescribable. It's heartfelt you're protecting them from that. ♡Well, at least I can do this one thing for them...
Do you mean both friends AND family? I know everyone will know why I ctb. But still, I know it won't make it easy on them. Well, most of them. I know a few will do the same as you describe, just out of spite. I know I won't care after I'm gone, but for some reason it upsets me. Mostly, because like you, I've always tried to be genuine, kind and get what you get type of person. Where there isn't/wasn't any wondering of my intentions or being. Of course that hasn't stopped people from trying to paint me as the bad guy. I always say, "it is what it is."They won't know my reasons. They will make assumptions about it like everything else about me. I've been the most authentic person my whole life, very obvious about my intentions and who I am, very open, and yet always viewed and defined as otherwise. They will say whatever their filters of perception decide, and as always, I will have done what I did to myself to them as if an attack, when they aren't remotely involved, or I will have in some way just been inherently wrong. They'll decide for themselves what I was wrong about and how, and they'll be as clueless as they were when I was alive and right in front of them. People will wonder, but they didn't ask when I was alive; whenever they wondered, they provided the answers for themselves. This will be no different, I just won't be around anymore to answer, so there's nothing for them to reject and redefine, and they won't be able to reject me for calling it out. They'll probably say I've proven them right.
Oh I really wish it would be like that with my family, but I fear it will not be that easy.People really do move on with their lives fairly quickly.
I meant more with friends. Family is a different story. They'll probably mourn until their last breath. But their grief will shift. It will transform from agonizing to eventually really sad but livable. Death is not easy for family. At least not a loving family. It's awful, and time, while it can mend, never fully heals. ♡Oh I really wish it would be like that with my family, but I fear it will not be that easy.
Do you mean both friends AND family?
I think we're all a little "out there"... but you're right, anything to make them feel better and help them through their grief."He was mentally ill, there's nothing we could have done" Lies but whatever stops them killing themselves
You're right. Once you're gone will it really matter? Then again, what if you're able to "stick around" and hear them shit talking you? HahaHypothetically speaking,
if I'm ever gonna commit suicide, should I care what other people/family think of me?
I don't think so.
Is that good? I think I'm doing them a favour. My mums terrified I'm going to commit suicide. If she knew why it would be a lot worseI think we're all a little "out there"... but you're right, anything to make them feel better and help them through their grief.