Discussion What were the first reactions of people when you "came out" as suicidal?

[tommyhalpinkelly]

When I mean came out, shared your feelings. For me, it was generally something that my peers didn't like and then the principal reported to my parents that I was "disturbing" classmates. At first parents ignored I was suicidal but when I was suspended from school and said I wanted to kill myself that's when my parents got mad.

I hoped to find some refuge in the internet but I discovered that this would not be the case at all. It seems that the vast majority of people on the internet and in real life are anti-suicide.

 

[Shewaitsforme]

At first the doctors were doing their usual keep me in hospital but eventually thay wares off, it was more a case of covering their backs. Got passed the the home team that wore off after 2 weeks, GP that wore off. As long as you dont do anything they just think its passed and you wont do anything. Well my nitrogen has just arrived so its now up to me

 

[Final Escape]

When I mean came out, shared your feelings. For me, it was generally something that my peers didn't like and then the principal reported to my parents that I was "disturbing" classmates. At first parents ignored I was suicidal but when I was suspended from school and said I wanted to kill myself that's when my parents got mad.

I hoped to find some refuge in the internet but I discovered that this would not be the case at all. It seems that the vast majority of people on the internet and in real life are anti-suicide.

One friend called the cops on me lol! Most people are disappointed to hear about it but they are understanding. It sucks that u have to fear talking about it to the wrong person. You could end up in a phsychiatric unit and possibly worse off depending on your circumstances. I don't believe hospitalization or threat of being committed is good for suicidal people. It's not like we are crazy and everyone who thinks about suicide is in imminent danger to themselves or others. It would be less scary to get help if u can come in voluntarily and no threat to u for feeling suicidal.

 

[Xerxes]

Counselor came to my house when I was 17, flanked by police officers and I was thinking, "Oh shit, what did I do now." She came to me and asked I'm alright and if I could sign this form that let them know that I won't kill myself in 24 hrs. I signed it, they said, "we hope you feel better". And they left, and I went back and took a handful of sleeping pills, and 3 weeks later dropped out of HS.

 

[Final Escape]

Counselor came to my house when I was 17, flanked by police officers and I was thinking, "Oh shit, what did I do now." She came to me and asked I'm alright and if I could sign this form that let them know that I won't kill myself in 24 hrs. I signed it, they said, "we hope you feel better". And they left, and I went back and took a handful of sleeping pills, and 3 weeks later dropped out of HS.

Scary huh! Sounds like a terrible way to handle a suicidal person.

 

[Miss clefable]

Don't think anyone cared

 

[Final Escape]

I learned something the other day which made sense as to why most people don't care. They may think, and rightly so, that you should never allow yourself to care more about someone than they care for themselves. Sounds cold but it makes sense. I think people do care, it's just very hard to help people unless the person is able or willing to cooperate. Sometimes u have to convince someone to even want to live. It's hard to do that if someone is very deeply despairing and feeling beyond hope. This can be complicated of course, since a person may be reluctant to want to be helped because of addiction or untreated mental illness. I think u have to be gentle and patient if u want to convince someone that cooperating is going to pay off. When you are suffering it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[TAW122]

I never came out as suicidal (for the fear of involuntary commitment, getting a mark on my record, and other consequences), but I did have discussions about death and right to die. Needless to say, usual pro-life responses are what I got, illogical arguments and just about every logical fallacy you can think of that comes out of their mouth. Fuck it, at best it's a waste of time and energy and at worst, they treat me like a child or become concerned and distrustful of me. I just never bring up the subject again with them.

 

[Roph]

Originally, it caught them off guard and they re-connected to make sure I was okay. Several years later, it's back to the way things were and we're rarely in touch.

 

[Lifeisatrap]

The usual involuntary commitment and having to be on pills for the rest of my life.

 

[Jen Erik]

When I was in my 20s, I told one of my parents that I was suicidal; their response was, "Don't you fucking kill yourself in my house, you selfish piece of shit."

 

[Thoughtforms]

Therapist contacted my parents and dr so now I'm on suicide watch
They are not handling it well my heart breaks
I feel terrible I want to cry for them all the time but I can't help feeling this way

 

[worldexploder]

I told my aunt in 2008. Nothing happened.

 

[jay35]

I was outed by a failed attempt due to chronic pain. Lots of hate & disrespect from medical community. Abandoned by doctor. Family doesn't want to be bothered or inconvenienced by future attempts.

 

[Kdawg2018]

My family and partner suggested the hotline

 

[OkTotti]

No one knows or will never know.. this is my decision and my decision only...

 

[DariaBuPL]

I once cried in my class and my teacher asked me what's wrong, so I told her that I'm self harming and want to kill myself. She was terrified and send me to the psychologist, but they didn't really help. Also, they informed my mom about it, but she just hugged me and said that it is going to be okay. Of course it never did.

It was like three years ago from now and I never stopped thinking about suicide. But I didn't want to do it yet, because of my great grandma. I can't even imagine what would happen, if one day she would wake up and someone said that I'm dead. So I was waiting for her own death, so that she doesn't have to deal with mine.

I told about my plans to my friend, that was with me from the start of all of this. He didn't understand, why would I wait and try to do it again. He was also kinda angry and pissed off. But then he apologized and said that he understands my decision. And that's pretty much it.

 

[Jiva]

I not told it to anyone in my real life. I talk about it here only.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

When I came clean about it spawning from the usual mental diseases I got the same routine responses from the same talking voice mail machines following the same protocols over and over again, my family wasnt much help either. Alot of people know that Im suicidal, local authorities have me on SW, everybodt knows what i am and guess what? They really dont care about me and only care that i dont act out in free will that would be an insult to their culture/religion, they want that mixed race fuck_up to continue working the jobs they dont want to while talking to the people they dont want to, theyre the real npcs.

 

[Toenditall]

My family and partner suggested the hotline

If I had a pound for everytime I got told that I'd never have to worry about money ever again same as the old one I'm always here if you need to talk one even though I've told them loads of times talking never helps me

 

[Smashingairwaves]

My friend and I always joked about wanting to die. We realised we were both 100% serious. My mum found out when I went to the school counselor and asked to be put on antidepressants. He referred me to a doctor, who wouldn't do anything until I allowed him to tell my mother. I was so desperate to feel better that I let him. It did not go down that well.

My mother got over it for a bit and took me to all my appointments.

Got given prozac. For six months I felt normal. I wasn't breaking down all the time. Had mad problems with my mum though and moved out at 17.

I was busy with work and all, prozac wasn't working as well anymore and I didn't have the time or money to go to the doctor.

Realised even with antidepressants I still wanted to die

And that's my story

 

[OthelloToOblivion]

I told a friend who wa with someone else who knew me. They got so worried they turned up at a co curricular and ended up seeing my mum. Told her everything, she then took me home, had a very awkward conversation with parents (under 18 still living with them). Dad thought it was attention seeking, mum was worried but wouldn't go against that. three months later, I've started self harming and am trying to learn how to tie a noose, while daily debating jumping in front of a train.

 

[Vegrau]

Got mad calling me crazy and get madder. I look them in the eyes and say I will do it.

 

[Vegrau]

My friend and I always joked about wanting to die. We realised we were both 100% serious. My mum found out when I went to the school counselor and asked to be put on antidepressants. He referred me to a doctor, who wouldn't do anything until I allowed him to tell my mother. I was so desperate to feel better that I let him. It did not go down that well.

My mother got over it for a bit and took me to all my appointments.

Got given prozac. For six months I felt normal. I wasn't breaking down all the time. Had mad problems with my mum though and moved out at 17.

I was busy with work and all, prozac wasn't working as well anymore and I didn't have the time or money to go to the doctor.

Realised even with antidepressants I still wanted to die

And that's my story

When the man I love died my mother joke about the money I gave him to finish his university. I dont get what they want at all.