What Triggers You? What Turns on Your Alarm Bells?

[NZkiwi]

For me I have realised that as I practiced ACT/CBT/EMDR/mindfullness more intensley over the last few months, all my triggers have turned off, I don't experience the feeling just the thought.

Unsure if this is the meds, it feels like I am on anti-matter
Nothing really matters anymore / life not worth living

Things that before gave me tightness in my chest, my gut to turn... dont

but i know from reading about others stories, things still trigger them

Curious what your experiences are.
Do things matter to tou still?
Still affected?
Triggered?

 

[wehamuho]

ableism hits too close for me, i go in an attack when i see ableism or policies against disabled or arguments against safety nets, makes me spiral into dread and anger and sadness y'know? i cant cope with that at all

 

[telekon]

Not eating for a significant amount of time

 

[Pluto]

 

[trying ungracefully]

Loneliness gets me. If I get triggered into feeling alone because someone canceled hanging out with me it makes me feel like shit and suicidal. I feel like they don't care about me with how many times they cancel and it makes me spiral.

 

[2Sensible]

watching people argue, especially my mom and my stepfather, i have a huge pic of stress after that and i feel really tired

 

[Insufficent]

Unlogical behavior. Demandin things to be done and belittling required work for said thing because lack of knowledge of required effort of said task.
"All you do is press button and click mouse it cant be that hard. Just do it so that it can be done"
For my perspective these requests are equal to putting a gallon of water in half a gallon container without spilling it.
Oh and blaming without evidence. Just because i stand next to something broken dosent mean that i broke it.

 

[LRkin]

Loneliness on one hand, and prolonged exposure to humans on the other one. Especially watching them interacting with each other and having fun, because I don't usually get it. And witnessing toxic relationtship unfold. And negligence towards children or pets.

 

[NZkiwi]

watching people argue, especially my mom and my stepfather, i have a huge pic of stress after that and i feel really tired

yeah i get that

im a grown as adult and when i hear just loud talking from neighbours accross the fence for a split second i wonder if its a domestic

 

[byec560]

Loneliness gets me. If I get triggered into feeling alone because someone canceled hanging out with me it makes me feel like shit and suicidal. I feel like they don't care about me with how many times they cancel and it makes me spiral.

This and anything relating to love can set me off tbh. It sounds kinda incel-ish but thinking about everybody who is cruel and mean to me being happy with people who care about them while I'm alone, feeling like shit, and staring at the ceiling in the dark makes me feel something deep in the pit of my stomach. I just wish I had a hug or somebody I could tell how I'm feeling but it just feels so impossible. Really makes me sad tbh.

 

[hughmun9]

passive aggressive shit, the more subtle the more triggering. particularly annoying when coming from a 'nice' people-pleaser person. I just don't know how to navigate these dynamics.

 

[limenlux]

- Suggesting that suffering builds character as an excuse to enjoy the suffering of others.

- Suggesting that the suffering of others is the result of cosmic justice, karma, divine punishment, insert just-world fallacy bullshit here.

- Sitting around staring at your devil screen laughing and/or finding entertainment value in footage featuring the suffering of others.

- Defaulting to performative obliviousness and tactical nihilism when confronted about the above behaviors.

- Observing all of the above behaviors suddenly become unconscionable to the people who exhibit them when they're finally the ones suffering.

 

[violetforever]

being ignored is the worst for me

 

[Spite]

Being ignored. Seeing teenagers/young people in general. Seeing people in friend groups hanging out and having fun.

Going out anywhere is almost impossible for me because of this. Even doing grocery shopping for 10 minutes can be a challenge. If I'm not at work I almost always rot away in my dark room because I want to avoid people as much as I possibly can.

 

[WirelessConnections]

My biggest trigger is rejection. It can show up in a lot of different ways. Being given a weird look or tone of voice, someone not replying fast enough, etc.

 

[violetforever]

Being ignored. Seeing teenagers/young people in general. Seeing people in friend groups hanging out and having fun.

Going out anywhere is almost impossible for me because of this. Even doing grocery shopping for 10 minutes can be a challenge. If I'm not at work I almost always rot away in my dark room because I want to avoid people as much as I possibly can.

oh i dread seeing other people having relationships that i dont have and never will. its mostly seeing a happy mother/father and their child but sometimes friendships too.

My biggest trigger is rejection. It can show up in a lot of different ways. Being given a weird look or tone of voice, someone not replying fast enough, etc.

yep and i catch it quickly and my mind goes straight to thinking the worst. this is such a bad habit of mine that ive never been able to change. i think everyones out to get me and has underlying motives. is it even a bad habit if ive always turned out to be right more times than not though?…

 

[TwistedNightmares]

Seeing families having a good time together and being functional in general. I grew up in a neglectful household with an emotionally abusive mother (I am unfortunately still stuck with her). My father was completely absent. Because of this, I will never understand what it is like to be in a loving, normal family, and that hurts me the most when I think about it.
I have a few other triggers. This is my main one.

 

[StarsAbove]

For me I have realised that as I practiced ACT/CBT/EMDR/mindfullness more intensley over the last few months, all my triggers have turned off, I don't experience the feeling just the thought.

Unsure if this is the meds, it feels like I am on anti-matter
Nothing really matters anymore / life not worth living

Things that before gave me tightness in my chest, my gut to turn... dont

but i know from reading about others stories, things still trigger them

Curious what your experiences are.
Do things matter to tou still?
Still affected?
Triggered?

Relationships in general