Discussion What the longest time you gone with out sex

[Mort]

Me its bin about ten years and well as i am an ugly bugger i had to pay for it . When i first pop my cherry i was 25 and you guessed it had to pay for it . But the thing is i was like a tube of pringles ones you pop you cant stop LOL . At one point i was doing it every other day lets just things soon got out of hand next thing i know after 10 years getting my end away i was 20 grand in debt . So learnt that i need to control my self better so one way thays why i gone so long with out getting my end away. In fact i dont trust myself to start it up agen as i more than likey to go over bord and end up in debt ones more . Any way my looks have not improved so be hard to find sum lass who would want to have sex with me paid or unpaid . Mind you unpaid sex will never happen got better odds at winning the lottery than haveing a freebie LOL :)

 

[DetachedDreamer97]

All my life... and I'm 22 so far.

 

[Mort]

All my life... and I'm 22 so far.

You may one day your still young enough:)

 

[DepressionsAHo]

Longest time? 19 years
Second longest? 2

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

Its been around 4 months..... people seem to want to have sex with me but its me holding back because i believe i should have some respect...yes that was drilled into my fucking head , sometimes i think why can't i just have fun why not but then ill judge myself again and hurt even more!!!

 

[Woodnote]

23 years. So my entire life.

 

[Kikoo Loool]

After three years, I paid for it.

 

[Jean4]

Since 1999

 

[Sweet emotion]

Its been around 4 months..... people seem to want to have sex with me but its me holding back because i believe i should have some respect...yes that was drilled into my fucking head , sometimes i think why can't i just have fun why not but then ill judge myself again and hurt even more!!!

I'm guessing you're a girl. Don't worry. There's nothing wrong with having a sexual partner that you go to when you need to. I wouldn't be sleeping around with people I don't know just for safety reasons but if you're going to CTB you may as well have all the joy you can before you do it.

 

[Wayfaerer]

27 years, my entire life. Going to be fixing that next weekend if all goes according to plan. If I'm able to get my paycheck in february of next year and delay CTB until april/may, I'll be having a lot of it.

 

[TAW122]

About 45 days since I last had sex with someone. I was a virgin until age 29, which was I decided it was a bit late, but not too terribly late. While there isn't any objective consequence to being a virgin (like physical health or some horrible disease etc.), I was so sick and tired of being that way and also really curious about what sexual intercourse felt like. So to me, losing my virginity was not just to get rid of a silly label, but also to fulfill my knowledge and curiosity of sexual intercourse. After losing it, I felt 'liberated' and at peace. So back to the topic, you could technically claim that I did not have sex for almost 29 years (or more than a decade if you count from age 18 and onwards).

 

[exhausted]

4 years 3 months now. Best decision ever.

 

[deflagrat]

My entire life. And from the looks of it the rest of my life. I don't really want to waste money on a prostitute (it's not like I have that much money), and it's illegal in my country. To make things worse I have had sexual anhedonia since I was 21, which sometimes gets worse and sometimes gets better (to an extent). It's just like life, it's full of dissapointments no matter where you look. I am basically a total failure, the only thing I look forward to is death.

 

[Margimet]

Months, I don't know exactly. I don't miss sex, I miss physical contact, being touched, cuddled, spooning, holding hands and feeling loved.

 

[mothfly]

Still virgin, 23 yo. Though I don't see any point in it anyway, like without love it doesn't make any sense for me. And love itself isn't enough to make me catch my will to live so it would only result in the other person being hurt, thus no sex for me, besides romantic dates with my computer screen and certain pages, if you know what I mean

 

[NeCkDeEp]

10 months is the longest I've been without sex

 

[Soulless_Angel]

are we talking just sex, or are we talking how long we have gone with any kind of sexual intercourse, regardless of whether consensual, rape or abuse?

 

[LonelyLight]

A few weeks

 

[Final Escape]

I can't comment because mine is weird.

 

[CuriousAboutThis]

I can't comment because mine is weird.

How weird? I mean no matter how weird you don't have to comment but if would be interesting but know the people in my life they would claim me to be a virgin and then ask "are you sure it wasn't a dream" that is their way of lying or hiding their tracks because they know they took advantage of me and yes it was one of the few, many, reasons why I snapped and nearly killed people and myself but I know they'll lie about it I wish I had the evidence and I would show it to all of you for all that I've done and what they've done to me.

 

[spanishguy22]

Don't know the people who helped me lose my virginity would claim me to be a virgin I lost my virginity when I was a little kid from a girl named @name@ who would claim that to be true if she was honest but I probably don't have a soulmate anymore so suicide only if peaceful may I live in peace and die in peace.

You shouldn't name her publicly like that. You should remove her name.

 

[LonelyLight]

You shouldn't name her publicly like that. You should remove her name.

Agreed

 

[spanishguy22]

I imagine if I had sex previously with a healthy brain I would have enjoyed it some. Severe depression killed my libido and any joy I could have in it. So I felt nothing when I tried it. I can get aroused but it feels empty like everything else so it isn't worth it.

 

[Empty Smile]

Does masturbation count as having sex?

 

[CuriousAboutThis]

You shouldn't name her publicly like that. You should remove her name.

Don't worry I knew it would get removed
And besides her first, second/middle, and third/last name is quite common so I don't think anyone here would even know which one I was talking about but she was my first and will always will be my first until I am dead or until we all lose our memories.

 

[almaranthine]

Well, I was coerced into losing my virginity when I was 17. After that, I believe the longest I went without was about two years, but it's hard to say without thinking about ill memories though. Just recently got out of an abysmal, abusive relationship this past September wherein I was forced to have unprotected sex at the other person's demand. Now I find myself willing and content to be celibate. I practice temperance to the best of my ability. The only time sexual fantasy licks at my consciousness is at that strange time in between dream and wakefulness. I rationalize that I do not consent to the dreams therefore they don't constitute my own desires. Other than that, I feel nothing and I celebrate it.

 

[Morphinekiss]

Going on 4 years. Don't miss it.

 

[almaranthine]

Still virgin, 23 yo. Though I don't see any point in it anyway, like without love it doesn't make any sense for me. And love itself isn't enough to make me catch my will to live so it would only result in the other person being hurt, thus no sex for me, besides romantic dates with my computer screen and certain pages, if you know what I mean

Sex without love is empty, but some people find comfort and pleasure in that emptiness. Sex with love can be agony though. Unless the lover is committed to you there is the inevitable separation that follows when they part from your bed... whether they spend the night or not. If you love them, the torrent of doubts that pounds you afterwards can be devastating. Even more devastating, they can choose to move on and leave you full of love and alone.

Going on 4 years. Don't miss it.

I hope to feel that way. 4 months in and I don't mind if that turns into 14 years. Not going to lie though I don't really want to exist for another 14 years but whatever.

 

[End Piece]

I think there's been times where I've been dry for like over a year at a time since I've been sexually active... damn I lost my V card so young. :/

 

[Taki]

A wide range of periods. I often have casual sex but usually feel incredibly depressed after. Still doing it though, under the illusion that some connection will come from it. No fucking chance of that happening. The last time I had sex with someone and felt any connection, that was a long time ago.

Feeling disgust after sex is worse than no sex.