Discussion What do you want to happen after death?

[littlesadcake]

Same as title. How do you think people will react to your death once it happens? Will any friends, family etc be sad?
On another note, do you believe in the afterlife of any kind? Soul to float around like a ghost, go into another body, start a new life elsewhere, nothingness, or isekai ?
I think I would like for my mum to be able to move on from my death in as healthy of a way as possible. The only thing holding me back at the moment would be her. I hope to not affect the people around me too much in a negative way. I would also like my soul to float around for a little bit more to see the reactions at least until my mum gets better. I'm pretty sure it will just be nothingness though which isn't a bad thing either

 

[GreenTree]

Pubs open. Football matches on TV. Delicious food. No mental hell. Peace.

 

[littlesadcake]

Pubs open. Football matches on TV. Delicious food. No mental hell. Peace.

Do you mean you want these things or how these things will still happen afterwards? As in how life moves on?

 

[orca87]

Nothing.

 

[MrShino]

They will be sad, of course. But it is just how life is, it is unpredictable, it involves loss of loved ones. We all experience this, and it's never easy. Still, it is part of the experience of life here. Some day we shall meet again, and the reunion shall be better because of it. By the time apart, we learn to appreciate each others presence even more. I will be moving on, perhaps to another dream, another journey. Perhaps to another place, another time. Perhaps floating on the clouds in the sky, singing with the birds of spring. Perhaps, well.. - who knows? Hopefully, where I really belong, where I am myself.

 

[dreamscape1111]

Pubs open. Football matches on TV. Delicious food. No mental hell. Peace.

All of that belongs to the time before death!

 

[greyblue_bian]

Nothing. No funeral. No acknowledgement.

 

[cogmachine]

hopefully to be forgotten and cease to exist in any form. all trace of existence to be wiped would be ideal.

 

[umjammertranner]

I think I would like for my mum to be able to move on from my death in as healthy of a way as possible. The only thing holding me back at the moment would be her. I hope to not affect the people around me too much in a negative way.

The only person who's stopped me from ctb in the past when thinking about how they'd be is my younger brother, i'm too detatched from everyone else to care enough about that or think about it too much. I know it'll be devastating to my family but my brother is the only one who's pain of me dying outweighed the pain of meyself living.
As for the others in my life? They'll be sad and act like i was this wonderful person who brought joy into people's lives (funny that considering people barely speak to me) then forget about me after a year or so. maybe less.

As for an afterlife, I have no idea and i don't really like thinking about it. I'm agnostic but i've been too beaten down by the world to believe in a divine presence or loving creator. In reality i think there will probably be some return to the general energy of the universe or something, but i don't like the idea of that considering how shit the universe can be. If i end up in hell then so be it i guess, it would validate my feelings towards myself and the cruelty of the universe.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

It doesn't really matter what I want. What matters is what the reality is. Nothing in the observable, interactable world points to there being anything after....

 

[theocean]

What I want most of all, is understanding. Those who know me are aware of how traumatic and fucked up my life has been. I hope they're able to see who I am, and not see some imagined person who just could have miraculously risen above everything and lived to be old and content instead. I dont want anyone to think of "what could have been" or how tragic it was. The few people who care enough to remember me, I hope, understand that.

I lost the only person who ever mattered to suicide, and though the pain was searing at first, I have come to love and respect her and the time we shared far more with each passing day. She was open about it, and stated early in our relationship that she knew she would die before she turned a certain age, and she knew she would do it herself. She knew what she was doing, and planned out every detail perfectly. She chose the time, she chose the setting, and she chose when she was ready. But she also chose to spend those final years of her life with me. And that alone speaks more than her death ever could. We were two damaged strays who took each other in, nurtured the best life we could, and said goodbye when we said we would. It hurt losing her. But the hurt is gone, and all that remains is the joy we shared. It didn't die with her, and it won't die with me. Those close to me know all about what happened, and that same respect and acceptance is all I want.

As for the afterlife, I have my own beliefs and I hold onto them very strongly. But in the end, death is the great unknown and ultimately the great unifer. If there is nothing, if there is heaven, if there is hell, if there is a complex array of emanations and archons, nothing changes for us here on earth. I greet the end of this life with dignity and satisfaction. If there is another life, I hope I will be able to do the same there too.

 

[MrShino]

What I want most of all, is understanding. Those who know me are aware of how traumatic and fucked up my life has been. I hope they're able to see who I am, and not see some imagined person who just could have miraculously risen above everything and lived to be old and content instead. I dont want anyone to think of "what could have been" or how tragic it was. The few people who care enough to remember me, I hope, understand that.

I lost the only person who ever mattered to suicide, and though the pain was searing at first, I have come to love and respect her and the time we shared far more with each passing day. She was open about it, and stated early in our relationship that she knew she would die before she turned a certain age, and she knew she would do it herself. She knew what she was doing, and planned out every detail perfectly. She chose the time, she chose the setting, and she chose when she was ready. But she also chose to spend those final years of her life with me. And that alone speaks more than her death ever could. We were two damaged strays who took each other in, nurtured the best life we could, and said goodbye when we said we would. It hurt losing her. But the hurt is gone, and all that remains is the joy we shared. It didn't die with her, and it won't die with me. Those close to me know all about what happened, and that same respect and acceptance is all I want.

As for the afterlife, I have my own beliefs and I hold onto them very strongly. But in the end, death is the great unknown and ultimately the great unifer. If there is nothing, if there is heaven, if there is hell, if there is a complex array of emanations and archons, nothing changes for us here on earth. I greet the end of this life with dignity and satisfaction. If there is another life, I hope I will be able to do the same there too.

What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing!

 

[JudasIscariot]

I'd like for those closest to me to acknowledge my suffering and blame the people partly responsible for my suicide and torment. I wouldn't want those closest to agonize over my suicide although it may be inevitable. A funeral would be nice I guess. All hopes or preferences are rather pointless since I won't be here to witness them.
I don't believe in an afterlife although one would be nice.

 

[ptolemaea]

i'd like to be cremated, no funeral. i'm sure my friends will be sad, and i do feel guilty about that. as for my family, i don't care. i don't believe in any kind of afterlife or reincarnation, and i eagerly await the nothingness after life

 

[GreenTree]

All of that belongs to the time before death!

How do you know.

All of that belongs to the time before death!

Not necessarily. Pubs are open in hell. Cigarettes. Beer etc

 

[Mimi_]

My mom and sister are probably going to be the two only people to be saddened by my death. But they will move on.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

There's no one to be sad from my dying, so that isn't an issue. Nope, don't believe in any afterlife or heaven or hell, just nothingness. I hope it's only nothingness, just like it was before I came into this existence.

 

[Viranamari]

My relatives would probably be sad and think I wasted my life despite having 'so much potential' to succeed. I expect them to follow my path. When I finally succeed in suicide, they would then long for suicide and might succeed. I do have a few friends but I could barely care what they would think. I don't believe in the afterlife as it's not scientifically proven. I believe after death, there is nothing. No memory or conscience. Similar to before we even existed. At the same time, there would be no suffering which is why nonexistence sounds ideal to me.

 

[charlotte_]

i sure hope that i could just cease to exist for millions of years, like a lifelong peaceful sleep. if not that, then i hope i'll be able to live in a better world, as less suffering as possible

 

[liffey]

A part of me selfishly wants people to care about my death so I feel like I actually matter to them, but logically I would prefer to all memories associated with me to be erased. I don't want to bring down people I care about just because I don't want to live. In reality, what I can hope for is to minimize the time it takes for them to move on, and I'll do everything properly to explain my motives.

I don't wish to go to heaven, I just want to never exist again. My life is objectively good, but I just don't want to experience anything.

 

[FuneralCry]

It doesn't matter how people would react to my death. Death is simply the most normal and inevitable thing, all that we are destined for is to die and just be forgotten about. My existence is completely meaningless and insignificant, I very strongly believe that we just return to nothingness after we finally exit this world where we won't even have awareness of the fact that we are gone. Non existence is all I wish for and is what I consider as being ideal, as it's the absence of everything. Life in itself is the true problem that could only ever be solved by death.

 

[Sluggish_Slump]

ideally nothing but we don't really have control over what happens after our death

 

[heavyeyes]

I guess it doesn't really matter what happens after I'm gone. I would hope the few friends and family in my life would be able to move on and continue on with their lives. As for the afterlife I'm not sure. I had a few paranormal experiences back when I was a kid so maybe there is something like an afterlife out there.

 

[outrider567]

Nothing after death

 

[angeliccry]

peace within myself, some form of understanding.

 

[blackwidow92]

I just hope there's nothing, hopefully it's just like sleeping

 

[chr74]

hoping its like before being born, ie. shit going on in the world and universe but you not having to be a part of it :)