What do you do when you feel crushed?

[Dingusguy]

It's a genuine question though it is for selfish reasons. Recently life has been really hard, and I just don't know how to cope anymore. I have the Urge to CTB everyday pretty much all the as of right now.
I tried my usual coping mechanisms such as trying to zone out to music, distracting myself wit games, distracting myself with my pets or getting drunk but it isn't helping at all, I can't sleep, I don't feel like eating despite being hungry and I can barely gather the energy to get out of my bed or chair whenever I find myself in either of them.

I've had these sort of "dips" in my mood or mental health whatever you want to call it before but it usually doesn't last as long as it has this time. So I just wanted to ask what you guys and gals and other peeps do to cope or at least to try keep a somewhat level head until you can manage to be in your own skin again?

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

 

[MundaneMoths]

I get there all the time, it hits the hardest when I lose my desire to play video games, thats when I know it's bad cause they are my biggest cope+. Try challenging yourself with something new. Depending on the amount of disposable income you have, that could be a new hobby or project, or just exploring a new part of the city you live in. Novelty can really pull you up, but I completely get the feeling. For me, it does eventually pass for a time before it comes back. I try to enjoy those times while I can.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I commence binge eating and signaling to everyone that I'm absolutely going to kill myself.

 

[Dingusguy]

I get there all the time, it hits the hardest when I lose my desire to play video games, thats when I know it's bad cause they are my biggest cope+. Try challenging yourself with something new. Depending on the amount of disposable income you have, that could be a new hobby or project, or just exploring a new part of the city you live in. Novelty can really pull you up, but I completely get the feeling. For me, it does eventually pass for a time before it comes back. I try to enjoy those times while I can.

I will try to explore the town I live in then. It might help, as for new hobbies I am not sure what I can pick up currently since I am in between jobs and thus I don't have much disposable income. But thanks for the recommendations I appreciate it :)

I commence binge eating and signaling to everyone that I'm absolutely going to kill myself.

I suppose that is one way to do it, but I never understood binge eating, for some reason when I am down I just can't eat at all (Blessing in disguise probably as I could do with losing some weight)
But thanks for the reply anyways

 

[Argo]

When I feel crushed? If my life is in danger constantly?

If that happened tomorrow, and showed no sign of going away, I would dedicate 100% of all free time I have, to sitting down and just observing the mind as patiently and diligently as possible, without any kind of fighting or interpretation or judgement. You can't resolve something you are not precisely aware of, and something that isn't crystal clear. If negative emotion is crushing and threatening, then we're by definition lost in it-- we cannot see it clearly or see past it. We're too busy being it, to see it. It's too captivating just like a dream is so hypnotic that it masks even the very fact of dreaming itself. The way to see past it is to sit down and observe. If I was in any kind of personal hell, whether it's mental like a major fear or extreme sadness, or if it was physical, like if I was locked in a dungeon and tortured daily, that is what I'd do in every scenario.

 

[Callie Arcale]

I cry, I surf this forum.

 

[damyon]

Nowadays, I just accept it.

From the perspective of "Why resist the flow of things?"; Wouldn't pushing against the tide only make things harder?

~~~

Let us consider the inverse of the situation.
You are incredibly happy, literally on cloud 9; everything is going for you.
What would you do?

Maybe contemplating that idea will help.

 

[Dingusguy]

Nowadays, I just accept it.

From the perspective of "Why resist the flow of things?"; Wouldn't pushing against the tide only make things harder?

~~~

Let us consider the inverse of the situation.
You are incredibly happy, literally on cloud 9; everything is going for you.
What would you do?

Maybe contemplating that idea will help.

I guess accepting it and letting it run it course might help, not like anything else I tried has worked so far.

As for what I would do if I was at my peak happiness?. I have no clue, I haven't been genuinely joyous or ecstatic about anything for a long time, I can experience joy of course but it is always short lived so I am not sure what I would do if I was always happy and feeling as if everything was great. I will actually think about that. It is an interesting question. Thank you.

I cry, I surf this forum.

Yeah that's fair, not the worst way to spend the time feeling like shit I suppose

When I feel crushed? If my life is in danger constantly?

If that happened tomorrow, and showed no sign of going away, I would dedicate 100% of all free time I have, to sitting down and just observing the mind as patiently and diligently as possible, without any kind of fighting or interpretation or judgement. You can't resolve something you are not precisely aware of, and something that isn't crystal clear. If negative emotion is crushing and threatening, then we're by definition lost in it-- we cannot see it clearly or see past it. We're too busy being it, to see it. It's too captivating just like a dream is so hypnotic that it masks even the very fact of dreaming itself. The way to see past it is to sit down and observe. If I was in any kind of personal hell, whether it's mental like a major fear or extreme sadness, or if it was physical, like if I was locked in a dungeon and tortured daily, that is what I'd do in every scenario.

I suppose I could sit down and observe it? Or study it even. Maybe I could write down what I felt and thought in a book or on an app or something to keep track of it, might help distract me if nothing else.
I appreciate the input thank you

 

[Alltheywanted]

Whenever I feel like so, I visit this site and write down my feelings. It doesn't help much but even a little is better than a nothing.

 

[Dingusguy]

Whenever I feel like so, I visit this site and write down my feelings. It doesn't help much but even a little is better than a nothing.

I will try and start writing down my feelings, I do have and old diary type book I never used for anything anyway. Might also improve my handwriting that way

 

[Argo]

I suppose I could sit down and observe it? Or study it even. Maybe I could write down what I felt and thought in a book or on an app or something to keep track of it, might help distract me if nothing else.
I appreciate the input thank you

Closer to the opposite of that actually, not to write it down(although that's a good idea, it's just a different approach), that means you're trying put it into thought. Also not for distraction, that mean's you're running from it rather than observing it without judgement or reaction. Whatever is happening is already happening, no need to force anything right? It's just a matter of gently and carefully looking.

Of course, any time.

 

[Dingusguy]

Closer to the opposite of that actually, not to write it down(although that's a good idea, it's just a different approach), that means you're trying put it into thought. Also not for distraction, that mean's you're running from it rather than observing it without judgement or reaction. Whatever is happening is already happening, no need to force anything right? It's just a matter of gently and carefully looking.

Of course, any time.

Ah I suppose I misunderstood you, I still appreciate the response but I will try the whole writing it down and see how that goes. If that ends up not doing it for me I may try and simply obverse my mental state and thoughts. Perhaps I could treat it like some sort of meditation? Never did that before maybe it's time to try that at some point. Either way thank you again.

 

[Unsure and alone]

I'm in that state of hard to just get up.
And just existing feels painful.
I wish I could break out of it.
When so little costs so much.


It's not even like I don't have some goals to get done.
I just can barely fight through this right now.

So in other words I'm watching this thread because I could use some ideas for easing this too.

 

[Dingusguy]

I'm in that state of hard to just get up.
And just existing feels painful.
I wish I could break out of it.
When so little costs so much.


It's not even like I don't have some goals to get done.
I just can barely fight through this right now.

So in other words I'm watching this thread because I could use some ideas for easing this too.

I am sorry to hear that, I have also had days where getting out of bed seems dauting. So I hope you find some ideas among all of these you might be able to use. I certainly found a few I will try

 

[Unsure and alone]

I am sorry to hear that, I have also had days where getting out of bed seems dauting. So I hope you find some ideas among all of these you might be able to use. I certainly found a few I will try

Thanks.
I hope you feel better too.

Unfortunately the TV show I was binge watching is helping less right now.

I wonder if I should bother asking the recovery section how on earth do I do something that's more processing/ dealing with it.
Figuring out what is behind it.
when feeling like this.

Or maybe just go for lethal soon ?

I think life might be easier if I either recovered or there stopped being any reason to stick around
And I just took the way out .

 

[Dingusguy]

Thanks.
I hope you feel better too.

Unfortunately the TV show I was binge watching is helping less right now.

I wonder if I should bother asking the recovery section how on earth do I do something that's more processing/ dealing with it.
Figuring out what is behind it.
when feeling like this.

Or maybe just go for lethal soon ?

I think life might be easier if I either recovered or there stopped being any reason to stick around
And I just took the way out .

Ultimately it is up to you, I guess the recovery section might have some helpful tips at least I hope so. As much as I am not against ctb when someone has lost all hope or reason to stay (been there myself and failed two attempts a long time ago) I do think it is better if someone can recover or get better.

I agree with the idea that there is no point in suffering just so suffer, but I also think there are things in life worth experiencing, and if someone can recover and become happy as a person that is obviously what I want for them.

So if you ask me, so long as you have a reason to stick around or the will to keep trying I would go for recovery and improvement. Personally I feel the urge to ctb, everyday but I gave myself reasons to stick around despite not wanting to.

1. I got something that relies on me for them to live. I got pets. Two of em, and I love them to death.
2. I have friends and family I do not wish to hurt with my passing. So for better or for worse I am stuck here for now.
3. There is no easy way to ctb where I live, I don't have access to guns, SN, or many other resources. So the options am left with are not rather enticing to me.

Sorry for the little rant.
Not sure if it was at all helpful. Point of it was. I hope you get better and recover, as I will also work towards that.