What are those things you cannot cope with right now?

[ronigail9]

there has been this helicopter going around in circles near my house for the past 30 minutes and I can't sleep because it's so loud. It is upsetting me a lot, The extremely loud and aggressive noise is giving massive anxiety and I wish I could explain how much anxiety I have with coping with life in general to get some kind of pill but then I have anxiety about how I would explain it and I doubt I would know how properly. The whole things makes me go down a rabbit hole of worrying about coping with hearing helicopters for the rest of my life and never getting relief from my anxiety because so many things about life bother me.

What specifically is hard for you to cope with at the moment?

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Right now, I am struggling with the fact our 7 yr old boy killed our pet hamster last night, I am struggling with how to deal with this I am also struggling with so much noise around me I can't cope wtih so much noise

 

[nooo2]

Everything.

 

[Pistolero114]

Life. In all it's facets. It hurts to care and even more to on keep living.

 

[Castles]

The fact that tomorrow my ex gf is taking me to court for five years of child support even though we were together for four of those years. That and full custody just because she resents me. My life is fucking garbage.

 

[woxihuanni]

I'm so sorry, noise is pure pain.

I woke up this morning with the thought of how a couple well-conditioned society pawns see my strength as my weakness, and that is hard to cope with. Not because they matter as such, but because I know how destructive that sort of thing is in general and there is nothing I can do about it. Talking to such people is like talking to a wall.

Kids, do not invalidate anyone, even people who will extend the middle finger at your invalidation. Because it takes environment resources to extend middle fingers and a fairy dies every time we have to do it.

 

[737492]

having zero friends or significant other despite trying so hard to form connections with others. I'm very suicidal but good at making myself seem like a well-adjusted person, so it's not like my negativity is pushing anyone away.

 

[lofistos345]

Brain fog and feeling null. Lack of energy. I feel like I have no soul.

 

[ProlongedSentence]

Being trapped.
Unable to take the steps I want - due to being the only parent that stuck with a challenged adult.
Feeling guilty for feeling this way but so clinically depressed I can't stop my constant yearning for blessed relief.
The CPTSD symptoms
The scars that will not go away no matter what
People actually invalidating what I have and continue to go through.
Being So absolutely desperate from the despondency and total desolation of hope and Joy that I am actually shaking - totally sober - from the NEED for this to END. NOW.

 

[Sweet emotion]

Right now, I am struggling with the fact our 7 yr old boy killed our pet hamster last night, I am struggling with how to deal with this I am also struggling with so much noise around me I can't cope wtih so much noise

Omg I hope you dont have other pets.

 

[Wayfaerer]

That I can't talk about what I can't cope with.

 

[bakedbombshell]

Currently, being surrounded by people doing better than me knowing everything i've done wrong is my fault

 

[Lonely Music]

having zero friends or significant other despite trying so hard to form connections with others. I'm very suicidal but good at making myself seem like a well-adjusted person, so it's not like my negativity is pushing anyone away.

This is so true. Very hard times for me now. I think about suicide constantly because of these reasons

 

[ChristopherWalken]

Currently, being surrounded by people doing better than me knowing everything i've done wrong is my fault

Doing this, comparing yourself to others, I think is the root of so much dysfunction in the world. I struggled so hard for all my adult life trying to get ahead, to make something of myself, that I ended up focusing too much on work and business than my kids. Now here I am and the thing I can't cope with is missing my sons. I was with them their entire lives but now I can't even talk to them. Thought I was doing the right thing securing a good financial future for them but if I'd just accepted my meager wage and spent more quality time with them I wouldn't be where I am today, totally alone.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Omg I hope you dont have other pets.

We have another hamster but her cage is high and he is allowed NO where near her!! We were last year told by the school and other professionals that he is on the spectrum and showing signs of ADHD, Now in the last few months they are blaming his behaviour on me, saying I am causing him to do things like this....!!!
Either way, its so hard to keep calm with him about this!!

 

[Amz_Falls]

My injuries

 

[puppy9]

People

 

[AngelOfDeath01]

I can't cope with seeing the faces of the "close people to me" knowing that I might CTB soon.

 

[Supersadmommy90]

I can't cope with my pleasureless, affectionless life without any hope of future pleasure or romantic affection. Unfortunately.

 

[welshie84]

Not being able to work because of my constant mood swings is making my debt impossible to see a way out of

 

[Supersadmommy90]

Not being able to work because of my constant mood swings is making my debt impossible to see a way out of

Have you considered self-employing? This could somewhat mitigate the performance
anxiety created by dependence on an employer. Working directly for your clients completely changes the business dynamic. I have never been able to cope with bosses looking over my shoulder personally. A client may be more understanding regarding your personal issues than an employer. "

Just think of a service or product you see a need or a market for and go from there, preferably something that gives you a sense of satisfaction or pleasure. It;s important that there be an emotional reward for you in your work if you're anything like me. This is a tangible neurochemical dopamine brain -reward type of deal.

Ironically for me personally business is one area I excel in and do not feel suicidal over. It gives me great pleasure and I would say that pleasure is remarkably enough one of the things barely sustaining me. If you don't get pleasure from some type of work and toil then I can see how one could lose their sense of purpose.

 

[Dawn0071111]

This is so true. Very hard times for me now. I think about suicide constantly because of these reasons

Same here.

 

[bakedbombshell]

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Doing this, comparing yourself to others, I think is the root of so much dysfunction in the world. I struggled so hard for all my adult life trying to get ahead, to make something of myself, that I ended up focusing too much on work and business than my kids. Now here I am and the thing I can't cope with is missing my sons. I was with them their entire lives but now I can't even talk to them. Thought I was doing the right thing securing a good financial future for them but if I'd just accepted my meager wage and spent more quality time with them I wouldn't be where I am today, totally alone.

That's really deep actually. But personally from a daughters perspective abdul some of my friends, it's still possible to mend your relationship. If my dad tried harder i would too. I would appareciate your financial help sooo fucking much. Literally if i was your son and i read that(you probably shouldn't show them this haha they might nothing understand and freak out unjustly being on a sucoixe forum cause you're their dad but if you expressed it like that I would break down not knowing you felt like that) Dads , like mine, hold onto their emotions and pride and don't communicate the necessary things people need to hear once in a while. But i don't know your situation i'm just tryna help

 

[ChristopherWalken]

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That's really deep actually. But personally from a daughters perspective abdul some of my friends, it's still possible to mend your relationship. If my dad tried harder i would too. I would appareciate your financial help sooo fucking much. Literally if i was your son and i read that(you probably shouldn't show them this haha they might nothing understand and freak out unjustly being on a sucoixe forum cause you're their dad but if you expressed it like that I would break down not knowing you felt like that) Dads , like mine, hold onto their emotions and pride and don't communicate the necessary things people need to hear once in a while. But i don't know your situation i'm just tryna help

Thanks I wish it were as simple as that but my ex has poisoned their minds against me and I believe the lack of time I spent with them over the years is what's made that possible. I'm not one to hold on to pride, I did my best to communicate, but it was too little too late. Believe me it's a truly impossible situation or I wouldn't be here. I've been through all sorts of crisis in my life but this one is the extinction event.

 

[woxihuanni]

My stomach. If it acts like this with food, don't know what the fuck it will do with SN. Always had a stormy relationship with stomach, though.

 

[gingerplum]

We have another hamster but her cage is high and he is allowed NO where near her!! We were last year told by the school and other professionals that he is on the spectrum and showing signs of ADHD, Now in the last few months they are blaming his behaviour on me, saying I am causing him to do things like this....!!!
Either way, its so hard to keep calm with him about this!!

Being "on the spectrum" is one thing; deliberately killing animals is another. That's so concerning to me that I would have him in a therapist's office tomorrow.

 

[SuicidalSymphonies]

Falling in love a second time and being left behind again, the people around me... I have high anxiety at the thought of living another day... It starts shortly before I go to bed and lingers with me all night until I wake up again just as I feared... I'm bothered by my doctors and I'm worried someone will try to get me put in a hospital.

 

[clownangel]

I haven't properly slept (using the term loosely tbh...) in a couple weeks so I'm extra drained and dealing with being a person in general has been an extra pain.

My main concern/struggle right now though is that my SO is going back home to his family in about a week and even though I pretty much need him to leave cuz I haven't had a break in months I'm worried about having to deal with things myself & also worried that having one less person in the house will push my ideation further.

 

[Darkhaven]

I cannot cope with my disease.
And it's not just "right now" it's for life.
I have been living for a whole year in a deep depressive state because of it, and i cannot seem to forget about it.
I think about this everyday. And i simply can't face life anymore.
I am unable to acept having a neurological disease at the age of 22. And i never will.
I just want all of this to be over.

 

[SlackJim]

cannot cope with having no money