Venting Ways to cope with loneliness?

[goodbad&ugly777]

My whole life, like literally my whole life I've never been someone's first. I've been told I am someone's first choice, or that they care about me a lot. But I've never actually felt it. I've only ever met one person who truly made me feel loved. And I ended up dating her and ruining it all. I don't know if I can live without her, I think about her constantly. My parents when I speak to them just keep their faces in their phones, completely ignoring me. Regardless of what I'm talking about. And I just feel a crushing loneliness constantly. Usually I just sit and play games all day, but I play multiplayer games with nobody else to play with. My one friend I used to play with dropped me this summer. And now every time I get on the game to relax, I can't help but remember how lonely I am. Anyways, does anyone have good advice on how to cope with the loneliness I'm feeling? I also just made my account and don't really know any of the terms people say and I'm honestly a bit nervous posting on here for the first time but, I don't know. Any advice/help would be appreciated.

 

[overusedusername]

When I was in school without many friends I got really into art. Almost all of my amazingly artistic friends grew up without a lot of friends, and that's how they got so good at what they do.

Could be any kind of solo hobby tbh.

 

[gattara]

When I was in school without many friends I got really into art. Almost all of my amazingly artistic friends grew up without a lot of friends, and that's how they got so good at what they do.

Could be any kind of solo hobby tbh.

i second this. any kind of artistic practice is so helpful for that urge to connect. i grew up drawing and writing because i had no close friends, sometimes no friends at all. you can write, draw, sculpt, arrange flowers. let your soul shine.

 

[sheburnedmedown]

Do you have pets

 

[goodbad&ugly777]

Do you have pets

Yes 2 dogs

When I was in school without many friends I got really into art. Almost all of my amazingly artistic friends grew up without a lot of friends, and that's how they got so good at what they do.

Could be any kind of solo hobby tbh.

I always wanted to try getting into art but I don't know like how to start, do I just like draw things I like on paper until I get better at drawing or?

 

[supremacyofdeath]

i talk to myself a lot. Journal a lot, type in my notes app. I used to talk to ai. It really is hard being alone, even harder when i remember i have a gf and yet im still just as alone.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

For me it's art, journaling, my pets, volunteer work and self study..

Volunteering helps a bit with interacting low key with others..

 

[skin ?]

uve prolly heard it already but journaling gen helps me a lot. i find i have a lot to say and no one to say it to for various reasons (having no real friends, being too weird, etc.), so my diary is kinda my best friend like that. when i cant be bothered writing i even just record myself in voice notes on my phone and talk about whatevers on my mind, and sometimes listen back to them just in the background. idk tho ive always liked writing and ive always talked to myself a lot lol, but i rlly hope u find a way to deal w feeling alone coz ik it sucks </3

 

[girl_with_a_plan]

I go to events. I've been going to art gallery openings in part because they often have free wine :) It allows me to be in a room of people but since I'm not part of the arts scene nobody interacts with me. I find doing art and hobbies really helps, but I think we need some social interaction. Going to galleries or talks is a way - I feel less lonely and kind of pretend that I'm normal, and I can do it by looking at the art. I've felt my life has often felt without any safety or ability for me to control my life, so the minute I feel any level of uneasiness about being in the gallery I just leave. It's very freeing - I control where I go, what I see, and engage with them or not. The arts heal me more than people ever could.

 

[CleanGopher]

My whole life, like literally my whole life I've never been someone's first. I've been told I am someone's first choice, or that they care about me a lot. But I've never actually felt it. I've only ever met one person who truly made me feel loved. And I ended up dating her and ruining it all. I don't know if I can live without her, I think about her constantly. My parents when I speak to them just keep their faces in their phones, completely ignoring me. Regardless of what I'm talking about. And I just feel a crushing loneliness constantly. Usually I just sit and play games all day, but I play multiplayer games with nobody else to play with. My one friend I used to play with dropped me this summer. And now every time I get on the game to relax, I can't help but remember how lonely I am. Anyways, does anyone have good advice on how to cope with the loneliness I'm feeling? I also just made my account and don't really know any of the terms people say and I'm honestly a bit nervous posting on here for the first time but, I don't know. Any advice/help would be appreciated.

Meditation, yoga, realizing focusing on what you can control can help a lot