I've posted before about my situation.
Fell into depression, destroyed my relationship. Devastated me.
Not my only reason to ctb but a big one.
Can't physically separate as too intertwined.
Hurts every day.
Had failed attempts.
Found out "ex" is drinking.
Figure I'm gonna ctb anyway, maybe it'll be her wake up call.
Now I find out she's pregnant.
Crap. What now.
I'm too dumb to give advice... But I don't understand how going to the eternal sleep can wake someone up. Especially since people who know people who did S are more likely to do it too.
Can the kid be yours? Feel free to contact her. Maybe?
I don't think you destroyed your relationship by being depressed. But "we can only share what we already have" so I chose to stay single until I blossom more... Because I got tired of my codependency & sucking each other's soul away. I wanted to figure myself & my life out... Fix issues & trauma. But I never could alone.
I don't know what happened... But I think she drinks because she tries to cope with her own depression. I don't think I could handle a lover who is person depressed like me, I can't even save myself, it'd break my heart to be unable to comfort a loved one & watch them suffer. I could break up out of helplesness & self loathing. If the lover was awesome, I'd break up feeling like an unworthy burden. So unless you were violent in some way, I don't think being sad or hurt ruin relationships. Good people stay... But easier said than done...
I don't think depression ruined my life. I think depression is how it feels when life seems ruined. I fought hard to improve it, just to see it get broken harder. I'm tired...
Sometimes it's best to stay out of the way... Sometimes offering help as a friend might be kind... I don't know, my last lover was 20 years ago...
But I'd be curious to know if the baby was mine... I don't think I want a mini me to suffer life after I'm gone... But children can bring the best out of people sometimes.