Discussion Valentine's Day urggh

[sadgirl2002]

I didn't even know it was Valentine's day when I woke up this morning, I rarely even check the date. Only until I actually looked at the date an hour after I woke up, it clicked to me. The day doesn't mean much to me anyway, it never did, it's just a normal day for me like any other. I hate this day only because it's like people only give flowers and show love on this day but what about the other 364 days? It's stupid and pointless. I hope everyone on here is feeling okay today.

 

[highlyvolatile]

Today just hurts especially more because I had not been coping well with the ending of my 3 year relationship. He has moved on already and yet I still love him.. He broke up with me and I - it hadnt dawned on me that we were really through. Originally we had plans to see sonic movie together today, that was before he met the person who caught his eye. But theres so much pain in my heart. I spend a lot of time crying because someone I used to lay my head next to and cuddle up with at night no longer loves me. No longer cares about me. And he still has some of my games and things. I need them back but he is so uncomfortable with the idea of me being around I dont think that I could get them. I just.. i feel so shitty that I was so easily replaced. ... I know its possible to find love again but I really do miss him. I want him to care about me again but im a damn fool. My heart aches badly and I want it to end.

 

[waterbottleman]

I am familiar with those feelings all too well.

I've been around for 29 Valentines days, only during one of them was I in a relationship.

I really hope I won't be around to experience a 30th Valentine's Day, honestly any day in the year alone. I'd rather be dead.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Ha. I appreciate the candor and lightheartedness here. I have in fairness been showering her in loving messages and all because she's been melting down herself due to her professional life....but maybe I'll back off and just not say much until I'm supposed to see her (if I can withhold from spiraling before then )

Trust me..just tell her that u love her n that ur gonna give her some "space"..that is the last thing she is gonna wanna hear..then BOOM! u got her!...Ur welcome..I accept cash, no checks plz

 

[Meretlein]

Ha. I appreciate the candor and lightheartedness here. I have in fairness been showering her in loving messages and all because she's been melting down herself due to her professional life....but maybe I'll back off and just not say much until I'm supposed to see her (if I can withhold from spiraling before then )

I think that's a good idea. She might realize she misses you if you back off for a bit. Take my advice with a grain of salt, I obviously know very little about this situation.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Today just hurts especially more because I had not been coping well with the ending of my 3 year relationship. He has moved on already and yet I still love him.. He broke up with me and I - it hadnt dawned on me that we were really through. Originally we had plans to see sonic movie together today, that was before he met the person who caught his eye. But theres so much pain in my heart. I spend a lot of time crying because someone I used to lay my head next to and cuddle up with at night no longer loves me. No longer cares about me. And he still has some of my games and things. I need them back but he is so uncomfortable with the idea of me being around I dont think that I could get them. I just.. i feel so shitty that I was so easily replaced. ... I know its possible to find love again but I really do miss him. I want him to care about me again but im a damn fool. My heart aches badly and I want it to end.

OK, have u tried telling him that u "met" someone? He might b comfy in knowing that ur home lovesick but the minute he hears ur attn is on someone else, he might all of sudden want u back..men can b funny like that..n That usually works..If he checks u out on social media, get dressed up,make up,etc n post pics, u could go where he hangs out, works(if retail), but make sure ur all dolled up..just a few tips that I have used in the past that work..but don't let him know that ur home heartbroken!!! Let him think ur LIVING IT UP!!

 

[highlyvolatile]

OK, have u tried telling him that u "met" someone? He might b comfy in knowing that ur home lovesick but the minute he hears ur attn is on someone else, he might all of sudden want u back..men can b funny like that..n That usually works..If he checks u out on social media, get dressed up,make up,etc n post pics, u could go where he hangs out, works(if retail), but make sure ur all dolled up..just a few tips that I have used in the past that work..but don't let him know that ur home heartbroken!!! Let him think ur LIVING IT UP!!

I hadnt thought of that, but to be honest I dont think he'd really care. He probably would say "Oh, thats great, I'm happy you found someone" and that would be it. what makes me sad is thats probably exactly what he'd say. I dont think he cares about losing me. But thank you for the advice. ♡

 

[Lostandfound7]

I hadnt thought of that, but to be honest I dont think he'd really care. He probably would say "Oh, thats great, I'm happy you found someone" and that would be it. what makes me sad is thats probably exactly what he'd say. I dont think he cares about losing me. But thank you for the advice. ♡

Hmmmmm..n when did u break up?

 

[Epsilon0]

I passed by the flower shop on my way to work, and it was full to the brim with red roses in various arrangements, shapes and sizes. Some looked really cheap wrapped in glittery silver paper, others were tall and stiff as if made of hard wax.

All in all, a grotesque display meants to lure foolish men like flies to a stale sugary drink left too long on the porch on a hot day.

Other than that, I quite like Valentine's day. In the same way that I like dead insects in my drink.

 

[BearNoMore]

Trust me..just tell her that u love her n that ur gonna give her some "space"..that is the last thing she is gonna wanna hear..then BOOM! u got her!...Ur welcome..I accept cash, no checks plz

I did say that and she immediately started to vent to me and talk about her current issues (the ones outside of our relationship woes). Maybe coincidental, maybe not haha. I gave her some supportive words and told her to reach out if she needed any help, but otherwise I'd continue the space until I see her Sunday.

It's probably healthier for me too anyways, it's not even like it's just some tactic to get her back. I was getting too invested in trying to communicate before and anxious awaiting her reciprocation.

I'll send some bucks your way for the advice

 

[Lostandfound7]

I did say that and she immediately started to vent to me and talk about her current issues (the ones outside of our relationship woes). Maybe coincidental, maybe not haha. I gave her some supportive words and told her to reach out if she needed any help, but otherwise I'd continue the space until I see her Sunday.

It's probably healthier for me too anyways, it's not even like it's just some tactic to get her back. I was getting too invested in trying to communicate before and anxious awaiting her reciprocation.

I'll send some bucks your way for the advice

Lmbo! OK wait, so u have a "date" with her for sunday?

 

[highlyvolatile]

Hmmmmm..n when did u break up?

We broke up early december but were close still. Id come over and such.

 

[BearNoMore]

Lmbo! OK wait, so u have a "date" with her for sunday?

Date? Maybe. It'll be the first time we've seen each other in person since we split last week, so I'm not sure what to classify it as. We agreed to that yesterday afternoon briefly.

Initially we were supposed to be together for Valentine's Day though and had plans for the day/night prior to the breakup. I took her canceling today's plans and ignoring my initial exceptionally loving message and photos as her basically saying, "the romantic part of our relationship is over" but that she'd see me Sunday and maybe try to still be part of my life.

Do you know what I mean? Honestly it's been such a confusing situation because until the past two days I got only a few words a day out of her and even the past two days we haven't communicated a fraction of how we used to. I'm in this ambiguous gray area.

- Bear
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[Eren]

It is really just a symbolic day, but it reminds me that I am and always will be only for several reasons, one of my main reasons for ctb.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Date? Maybe. It'll be the first time we've seen each other in person since we split last week, so I'm not sure what to classify it as. We agreed to that yesterday afternoon briefly.

Initially we were supposed to be together for Valentine's Day though and had plans for the day/night prior to the breakup. I took her canceling today's plans and ignoring my initial exceptionally loving message and photos as her basically saying, "the romantic part of our relationship is over" but that she'd see me Sunday and maybe try to still be part of my life.

Do you know what I mean? Honestly it's been such a confusing situation because until the past two days I got only a few words a day out of her and even the past two days we haven't communicated a fraction of how we used to. I'm in this ambiguous gray area.

- Bear
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Ok So was the break up mutual? I'm just trying go understand what approach u should take..more info on the break up, if u like..

 

[BearNoMore]

Ok So was the break up mutual? I'm just trying go understand what approach u should take..more info on the break up, if u like..

No, the breakup was from her end. It was sort of a confusing ambiguous thing though. I basically had to ask for what she was thinking and when I asked if she wanted to be with me she said, "For right now, I don't think I can". I don't want to hijack this post so maybe you can read a bit of my thread as I've been discussing it in there in more detail.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/final-days-why-has-it-never-gotten-better.31667/

 

[Lostandfound7]

No, the breakup was from her end. It was sort of a confusing ambiguous thing though. I basically had to ask for what she was thinking and when I asked if she wanted to be with me she said, "For right now, I don't think I can". I don't want to hijack this post so maybe you can read a bit of my thread as I've been discussing it in there in more detail.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/final-days-why-has-it-never-gotten-better.31667/

OK will read it

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Valentine's day was the day my life went to hell years ago...I hate today. All I ever wanted to be loved. So in short....fuck Valentine's day.

 

[tom90]

This day is breaking me. I split with my girlfriend a week ago and still have the gifts I was going to give her. I wished her Happy Valentines Day at midnight and sent her cute photos of us and pictures of the card she gave me last Valentines Day and a note I'd saved....she didn't even respond. I don't see how she can just say NOTHING. I can't take it and it's pushing me.

Fuck. This. Day.

Wow, that is rude.
But even my ex wont respond to simple message like "hi, how are you?"
Which is weird, because even now, she is the nicest and caring person I have ever met.
I just don't understand, no one does.