I understand it as I get that their families need someone or something to blame and campaign for . I think my parents would get angry about ss too so will make sure they don't find evidence of it on my phone.
Interesting that so many parents are so confident their child would be alive if it wasn't for the site though. There's always other ways , i found methods from journal papers, news articles, tv shows before I found here . If someone wants to find it they will. But I also don't think it's fair people saying that the father should blame himself. We have no idea what their relationship was like . Yes some people their family and/or traumatic childhood is a factor but for some it's not a factor at all. People with loving supportive parents ctb too. We can't possibly know from the article and i dont think fair to make assumptions about someones parenting from their understandble reaction during grief
Also the way the article talks about how should've checking his phone and stuff and 'good kid' etc. makes it sound like he was a minor not 23. Doesn't make it any less sad but you can't protect an adult in their 20s from the internet …
I agree with this wholeheartedly. My dad is an amazing person, he has prevented my from CTB many times because I don't want to put him through the pain. I also know if he knew about this site he would blame is in part for my suicide, despite my over a decade long battle with severe depression and my history of suicide attempts dating back long before I started using this site. There are SO many reasons someone may decide to CTB that do not involve family, or even other people at all.
I agree this website has become a scapegoat, but I don't think it's always a case of family using it to avoid personal responsibility. Losing a child is an unimaginable loss, and it being a suicide makes it even harder to process. It is natural to want to point fingers. Denial and anger are part of the grief cycle after all. Absolutely some suicides have something to do with the family and it is true denial, but it is wrong of us to assume that. Again, I don't agree in blaming this site, but try to have some compassion for the families without automatically assuming it had anything to do with them.