TW- Am I Alone?

[Mx_Pathetic]

I recommend not reading this if you are sensitive to SA topics, etc.

Am I alone when I say one of the reasons I don't want to be alive is because of how scary the world we live in is?
I came across a reel on instagram that has made me quite disgusted and disturbed. It was of a granny saying "I wonder why they get r*ped" to a girl in her 20s because of the clothes she was wearing (For everyone's information search "clothes from r*pe victims" and you'll see clothes have nothing to do with anything someone does to you) Now even though what she said is disgusting in its own sense. The comments is what had me stunned. Many MANY men were saying "Granny's right, w granny" or "she's not wrong, walk around with money hanging out of your pocket and someone's gonna snatch it" or "If women didn't wear such clothes then people wouldn't r*pe them" I checked all of the accounts I saw that commented such awful things and they all happened to be MEN! What's even worse is some of their accounts showed that they had a family…kids, wives. Now that's only some of the awful and mindless things some of these men said, trust me there was worse. Now I'll be honest some of those comments might be troll comments to make people pissed- however in saying that. 1- It doesn't make it right. 2- Most of them probably weren't "joking". Now if you didn't get mad or even disgusted at the comments I shared with you. Then leave because that shows me that you're small minded and have no sympathy.
Anyway I went to go talk to my brother about it knowing that he is a decent human being- however I'm slightly thinking otherwise at the moment. He's response is why I'm double thinking it. He said "women rape things too, animals, etc" my first thought was "Where? Where the reports." (In saying that I know there are many reports but not enough to make women more dangerous then men) I think I was just stunned in the fact that he straight up said "women do those things too" like yes I know they do but that's not what I was talking to him about, which is why I was stunned-
Now in no way am I saying women don't do awful things too, however in saying that the percentage of women doing awful things like that compared to men are ATROCIOUS. I'm so for real when I say "not all men but always men" and I stand by that. (I saw this as I experienced something in my past and he's response was "I'm autistic" he didn't take accountability or apologise. He did years later but that's not my point)
I mean ffs men never take accountability for themselves, there are more reports everyday of men r*ping women, men, kids, animals, items and even deceased things. Like how does that not open the eyes of people. The world in my opinion and from what I see daily, whether it's on the news or face to face, is a down right awful place. A place I'd rather not live in. Sure there are beautiful things that should want to make me live for but the bad things definitely over way that. In saying all this, I don't wish to live along side such disgusting human beings. I know this post was targeted towards men however in my overall opinion, humans are all and all monsters, men and women.
Am I the only one who wants to die because of the world we live in? I'm not saying it's my main reason, I'm not even saying it's in my top 10 reasons however it's definitely something that crosses my mind a lot when I think about why I want to ctb in the first place. Do you?

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

Rape isn't even about sex. It's about power and control.

Unfortunately, that older woman would've been taught that, so that is why her mindset is still the same, and she hasn't educated herself over the years, because she believed what she was taught.

When a rape victim goes to court, her sexual history etc gets looked into. Wtf. Bet if that was a man, it would be different. I once watched a video of a court hearing and the JUDGE mentioned the victim wearing a thong, so therefore she 'wanted it'. Wtf. Men always get away with it.

Men CAN help themselves, they decide not to, because to them we are merely objects, nothing else. And the longer society continues the way it is, in accepting this bullshit, it'll never ever change, and the abuse we suffer will continue. I wish I was safe to walk alone at night or in general. You never know what's going to happen, just because of the pure fact of being a woman.

Women do rape too actually, but usually those closest to them (partner, siblings, kids etc - and strangers, but not as much as men), and it isn't anywhere near as common as men do. I think it's important to remember this, because just because you haven't heard of it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. It DOES. Men are less likely to report, because disgustingly so, they are mocked. They are made to feel less of a man, which is disgusting behaviour. Men get raped by women too, please don't forget that.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

First off, you do realize that women say the same things, right? This isn't a "man vs woman" issue, rather it's deeper than that. There are a lot of cases of women who victim-blame rape victims. It's quite common actually. Just as how there are cases of men who don't do this type of shit. A proper discussion on this issue can't be held until we also start calling out other women for doing this instead of just focusing on men. I've heard a lot of cases of women who say this shit. Hell, I've heard my mom say shit about stuff like this that borders into victim-blaming territory.

Secondly, in the case of rape and gender statistics, we cannot blindly trust statistics here. Men aren't as likely to report having been raped and, in some parts of the world, due to how rape is defined it makes it so that said men cannot even report what happened to them as rape. In some parts of the world, rape is defined as involving penetration and sometimes is even specified as involving being penetrated by a penis. This means that both male and female victims of rape at the hands of an afab person cannot legally have what happened to them recognized as rape. That's not even getting into the number of times in which I've heard men talk about being raped and groomed by women very casually, not understanding that they were raped and/or groomed. I remember once going through an entire comment of men talking about being raped and SA'd as children by older women and a lot of them refused to even play with the idea that they may have been victims, instead rationalizing the entire thing. It's a disturbing pattern that also extends to other issues, such as emotional and physical domestic violence (I've literally had to watch my dad rationalize his ex-gf's and my ex-stepmother's abuse towards him before). Of course, there is the issue of men using what are other men's serious traumas to brush away women's issues, such as in the case of your brother. Still, I couldn't help but feel the need to mention this anyhow, because women do often do very atrocious things and get away with it.