Resource To reliably recover from something like trauma, one has to understand

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Imagine any difficult problem. Just close your eyes and get a rough picture of something, it can be undefined. Now imagine trying to solve this problem, except without much of an understanding of the problem ...?

Wouldn't that be frustrating, feel hopeless and like a struggle?

What that means is, understanding has to be the first step to reliably solving any problem-- understanding is what opens the door.

I've personally not found anyone more clear on trauma than Timothy Fletcher:





Solving is still hard, there are lots of good and bad attitudes and methods and so on, but it's almost impossible without understanding first. Now imagine the same problem from before-- except now, instead of a lack of understanding, you have total understanding. You have a genuine clarity and wisdom towards the problem. What happens then? (I'm not saying some kind of omniscience is possible or should be a goal, but it's worth imagining what it would do and what it would mean)

 

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Imagine any difficult problem. Just close your eyes and get a rough picture of something, it can be undefined. Now imagine trying to solve this problem, except without much of an understanding of the problem ...?

Wouldn't that be frustrating, feel hopeless and like a struggle?

What that means is, understanding has to be the first step to reliably solving any problem-- understanding is what opens the door.

I've personally not found anyone more clear on trauma than Timothy Fletcher:





Solving is still hard, there are lots of good and bad attitudes and methods and so on, but it's almost impossible without understanding first. Now imagine the same problem from before-- except now, instead of a lack of understanding, you have total understanding. You have a genuine clarity and wisdom towards the problem. What happens then? (I'm not saying some kind of omniscience is possible or should be a goal, but it's worth imagining what it would do and what it would mean)

I agree. Only recently I've started to really understand my issues.
Im still on a self discovery journey, and it's definitely helping alot and will probably help more in the future as I understand more about myself.

Before that I just didn't realize how broken I was.
I didn't think my situation was normal but I
took it for granted mostly, blamed it on the wrong things and dismissed it at times because I thought I was close to solving things.
I was deep down the rabbit hole, inside this bubble created by my bad experiences.

What I'm trying to say basically is that I atleast understand that im in that bubble now, and that allows me to see outside it sometimes.

I ultimately failed with everything because I just wasn't approaching things the right way and I wasn't equipped to deal with my issues.

But now after learning from my mistakes im hoping for things to work out and im giving life another shot.