Discussion Tips for writing a suicide note

[xyzzy]

Do you guys have any tips for writing a suicide note? I want to keep it short but at the same time, I want to let my parents know that it wasn't their fault, nor anyone else's fault.

I want to explain why I'm doing it but I don't really have a specific reason for it - I'm spoiled and have had a great life and I feel ashamed when I see the rest of you guys posting here about the awful trauma you've endured. Explaining why I'm committing suicide would take too long and would just turn into a childish rant about me, me, me (I tend to do that, making things about me).

I want to tell them to feel happy for me or forget about me and get on with their lives and feel the freedom, do what makes them happy but any way I try to say it it ends up sounding so callous. I'm taking their only child away from them, and even though he's a repulsive good-for-nothing self-centered jerk, they still love me because they raised me. In a way, my ctbing is extremely selfish because of that, especially since I don't even have a good reason for it.

I don't know how to say all that in a short, simple note that's also heartfelt. Do you guys have any suggestions? I was considering just not leaving a note but that would be even more hurtful, not leaving them with any explanation.

This is what I have so far (in English). It's not very good.

Mom, Dad,

I'm sorry I'm leaving you like this. I just want you to know that this isn't your fault. It's not anyone's fault. I'm only doing this for my good. I know I'm being selfish and I'm sorry but I really can't bear staying here any longer.

I hope that once I'm gone you'll see what a burden I was to you. I don't even really have any reason to go, I'm just a lazy coward who doesn't want to face all the minor inconveniences of life. The fact that I can so uncaringly and needlessly take your son away from you should show you what kind of a person I am.

You can be happy for me or angry at me or feel anything else you want but please don't be sad about this. I really hope you guys get some hobbies, enjoy life while you're not too old.

Again, I'm very sorry. Please take care of each other.

Love,
xyzzy

 

[jodes2]

I'm the same, I would write something very similar... Assuming I'm not too lazy for that even. Your note looks good

 

[Littlewittlelight]

Do you guys have any tips for writing a suicide note? I want to keep it short but at the same time, I want to let my parents know that it wasn't their fault, nor anyone else's fault.

I want to explain why I'm doing it but I don't really have a specific reason for it - I'm spoiled and have had a great life and I feel ashamed when I see the rest of you guys posting here about the awful trauma you've endured. Explaining why I'm committing suicide would take too long and would just turn into a childish rant about me, me, me (I tend to do that, making things about me).

I want to tell them to feel happy for me or forget about me and get on with their lives and feel the freedom, do what makes them happy but any way I try to say it it ends up sounding so callous. I'm taking their only child away from them, and even though he's a repulsive good-for-nothing self-centered jerk, they still love me because they raised me. In a way, my ctbing is extremely selfish because of that, especially since I don't even have a good reason for it.

I don't know how to say all that in a short, simple note that's also heartfelt. Do you guys have any suggestions? I was considering just not leaving a note but that would be even more hurtful, not leaving them with any explanation.

This is what I have so far (in English). It's not very good.

I am thinking more and saying I am a burden can make it seem like I did it for that reason and they can end up blaming themselves I have so much I don't even know how to prove I am dead when the time comes because I would have to run away and there would even be a police report I am just thinking and trying not to even think about running away that already is a pain but have no choice other than forest or going far my customs are so long the rituals I am feeling bad more about the consequences not about me the gatherings the drama and hurting my mother. It's so stupid that I have to think more about the consequences not rhe reasons but being a burden won't do the job for me. How does it sound? Does it feel like they shouldn't have made you feel like you a are burden I can relate and saying that because I am a burden but they wouldn't want to hear that after I am gone and blame themselves.

I'm the same, I would write something very similar... Assuming I'm not too lazy for that even. Your note looks good

Do you think writing being a burden would work I am thinking of not saying anything just that take care of yourself and I am free from pain and hapiness both I don't feel anything anymore please try to take care of yourself and the family I am even thinking of not mentioning anything like blame because I have seen some before and I saw they found a way to name themselves most of the time I am just so confused and doomed that I don't want to think about anything.

 

[xyzzy]

I am thinking more and saying I am a burden can make it seem like I did it for that reason and they can end up blaming themselves I have so much I don't even know how to prove I am dead when the time comes because I would have to run away and there would even be a police report I am just thinking and trying not to even think about running away that already is a pain but have no choice other than forest or going far my customs are so long the rituals I am feeling bad more about the consequences not about me the gatherings the drama and hurting my mother. It's so stupid that I have to think more about the consequences not rhe reasons but being a burden won't do the job for me. How does it sound? Does it feel like they shouldn't have made you feel like you a are burden I can relate and saying that because I am a burden but they wouldn't want to hear that after I am gone and blame themselves.

Do you think writing being a burden would work I am thinking of not saying anything just that take care of yourself and I am free from pain and hapiness both I don't feel anything anymore please try to take care of yourself and the family I am even thinking of not mentioning anything like blame because I have seen some before and I saw they found a way to name themselves most of the time I am just so confused and doomed that I don't want to think about anything.

I'm so sorry you feel so distressed. I have no idea what you're going through but I hope things get better for you. Maybe "burden" wasn't the right word to use. You and I and everyone else didn't choose to be here; in the end, our faults are not our fault. It sounds like your family cares about you. Is it possible for you to open up to them about how you're feeling?

 

[makethepainstop]

I liked this example they had a few posts down. But I'm too lazy to borrow it for myself. I hope things work out for you. Life is certainly not fair or always fun.

 

[Littlewittlelight]

I'm so sorry you feel so distressed. I have no idea what you're going through but I hope things get better for you. Maybe "burden" wasn't the right word to use. You and I and everyone else didn't choose to be here; in the end, our faults are not our fault. It sounds like your family cares about you. Is it possible for you to open up to them about how you're feeling?

I can't talk about everything and what I have talked about I don't want to talk about it anymore either. Thanks for the kind words and thanks I hope it just gets better for everyone I don't know or whatever happens it just brings peace to them and yes that word wouldn't make them feel any better I felt. I am sorry it's hard to even say a single word because there are these people around and for people like me there are a lot of other people to give their opinions maybe he meant this by this word maybe he meant this and that.

 

[theboy]

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/ivxp-suicide-note-template.97085/

This guy made a suicide note template.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think that for me I would personally explain why I chose to do this and say things like there's nothing that you could have done to prevent this. It would be to try and give those left behind some understanding and closure. But after all, only you know what you should write, it's a personal thing deciding what to write in notes. I wish you the best.

 

[xyzzy]

I'm kinda lazy and part of me was hoping for advice like "hey stupid, this is what you need to say: ..." but you're right, only I can determine what I need to say. Thanks for the template, that was very helpful. I think I now have something decent. I guess it doesn't matter if it's not perfect because it's not being graded or something :P

 

[FrozenMango]

I think the decision to write a suicide note, what to write, and where to leave it depends on the person. It is a very personal decsion and everyone is different

 

[DonTellMeToStayAlive]

This might help

HOW TO WRITE A SUICIDE NOTE

 

[makethepainstop]

Well for the love of God, WRITE LEGIBLEY! A suicide note is no good if they can't read it.