I agree, I do not want to potentially influence a lifetime of holidays for others in a bad way for those who might care; however, those in my life, knowing I have a brain injury and can barely function - have actually made my condition worse, including assault 3 weeks after a severe concussion.
And yet still I would wait if I had time. January is out for me as well due to birthdays.
I am hoping that the letter I leave will mitigate some pain (if they actually care) - but they don't, I think they will be relived.
I really wish I would have done it sooner.
You make a very good point though. If I could wait, I would just because of the time of the year.
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