Venting Threats

[elizabethisworthless]

Woke up to my stepdad shouting at me and threatening to kill me cause my mum let me have some of there food last night and making me cry the urge to kill myself right now is high again

 

[Angina]

Woke up to my stepdad shouting at me and threatening to kill me cause my mum let me have some of there food last night and making me cry the urge to kill myself right now is high again

Step one, kick him in the nuts, break some sh*t on his head in self defense.
Step two, call the Police, not some Bobbies for f*ck's sake, call a SWAT team.
Live on !

 

[Sinai Silence]

I don't understand why he would be so awful to you from something so trivial. He sounds like a real caveman and should be treated like one.

Next time he's like that with you just throw the food in his face if he cares about it that much.

Is there anyway you would be able to stay at a friend or family's house if you feel you needed to get out?

Next time he threatens you don't hesitate to call the police if your safety is at risk. Citizens Advice can provide some useful information.

Don't let that steptwat get the better of you. Show his room temperature IQ ass that you're not gonna let him push you around without consequences. Stay strong Elizabeth

 

[KiraComplex]

I don't understand why he would be so awful to you from something so trivial. He sounds like a real caveman and should be treated like one.

Next time he's like that with you just throw the food in his face if he cares about it that much.

Is there anyway you would be able to stay at a friend or family's house if you feel you needed to get out?

Next time he threatens you don't hesitate to call the police if your safety is at risk. Citizens Advice can provide some useful information.

Don't let that steptwat get the better of you. Show his room temperature IQ ass that you're not gonna let him push you around without consequences. Stay strong Elizabeth

im not saying dont call 12, but they do jack. the abuser is usually "oh theyre autistic/mentally ill/just having a panic attack" and the cops are usually on a rush to do the next report so they'll believe them. best thing to do in an abuse situation is to run away with your shit and find a place. tough situations.

 

[Soul]

If you can't go to a friend's place to stay, you can leave the house and start looking for a safe houses for people fleeing domestic violence. I don't know the hotline numbers to call for help but someone here from your country (UK?) should be able to post some specific numbers for you to try.

The main thing is go get to a safe place. You can think about police reports and so on later. x

 

[Step40]

If you can't go to a friend's place to stay, you can leave the house and start looking for a safe houses for people fleeing domestic violence. I don't know the hotline numbers to call for help but someone here from your country (UK?) should be able to post some specific numbers for you to try.

The main thing is go get to a safe place. You can think about police reports and so on later. x

I completely agree with this.
You need to get away from this situation.

 

[Angina]

Yeah, sure, don't call the emergency, don't call the Police, just run on your own.
You guys are nuts.
He will hunt her down eventually.
People pay taxes for the certain forces to protect them. That's how the modern society works.

 

[KUA]

Woke up to my stepdad shouting at me and threatening to kill me cause my mum let me have some of there food last night and making me cry the urge to kill myself right now is high again

Elizabeth, once lockdown is over please go to a woman's refuge and start a new life away from your step dad and mum. I'm from the UK and can help you if you want

 

[Soul]

Yeah, sure, don't call the emergency, don't call the Police, just run on your own.
You guys are nuts.
He will hunt her down eventually.
People pay taxes for the certain forces to protect them. That's how the modern society works.

I'm simply advising her to make it a priority to get to a safe place, *then* calling the appropriate assistance.

Calling police to her home seems likely to turn into a he-says-she-says in which the police are likely to avoid taking sides and if she's still there she'll be in for angry repercussions.

 

[elizabethisworthless]

Elizabeth, once lockdown is over please go to a woman's refuge and start a new life away from your step dad and mum. I'm from the UK and can help you if you want

I'm simply advising her to make it a priority to get to a safe place, *then* calling the appropriate assistance.

Calling police to her home seems likely to turn into a he-says-she-says in which the police are likely to avoid taking sides and if she's still there she'll be in for angry repercussions.

Step one, kick him in the nuts, break some sh*t on his head in self defense.
Step two, call the Police, not some Bobbies for f*ck's sake, call a SWAT team.
Live on !

Police were called out last time they didn't do nothing except give him a warning I have no where to go as in family or friends wise either so I have no safe place to go to since nothing can help just feel like the best way would be to end all this I hate my life anyway this stress just adds onto it I would probably get in more trouble for doing that and defending myself also I'm worried would physically hurt me even more I feel so alone like there's no help because no one listens when I try get help feel so lonely and want to end because I'm tired the abuse. My mum and my Nan says that it's normal and he has every right to take his anger out on me if that's what helps him calm down. No one cares hardly in this world feel so hopeless and stuck here just want to disappear

Elizabeth, once lockdown is over please go to a woman's refuge and start a new life away from your step dad and mum. I'm from the UK and can help you if you want

Please help I don't know how to go about this

 

[Angina]

Sh*t... Can you ask some local thugs to beat the sh*t out of him? Put him in the hospital? Many criminals don't tolerate wife beater scumbags.

 

[Soul]

Please help I don't know how to go about this

@KUA, are you here? Elizabeth needs your help finding a safe place. Waiting for lockdown to end isn't practical; there must be somewhere she can go *now*.

@elizabethisworthless, I'm not from the UK so I don't know the best place to phone, but here are some possibilities:

>> Call Refuge's National Domestic Abuse Helpline for free and confidential advice, 24 hours a day on 0808 2000 247. Visit the helpline website to access further information, a contact form and the live chat service. If you are in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.<<

Domestic abuse: how to get help

Find out how to get help if you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse.

www.gov.uk

The facts - Refuge Charity - Domestic Violence Help

The facts

www.refuge.org.uk

 

[JoeFailure]

Where approximately are you located? I'm sure we can help find you services to help you get out of there. That's definitely going to be the first step towards a better life.

 

[Soul]

How common is domestic abuse? - Women’s Aid

Domestic abuse is a largely hidden crime, occurring primarily at home. Women often don’t report or disclose domestic abuse to the police.

www.womensaid.org.uk

 

[Mayerling86]

Woke up to my stepdad shouting at me and threatening to kill me cause my mum let me have some of there food last night and making me cry the urge to kill myself right now is high again

Omg sweetheart, i really feel for you. That's awful. Is he there all the time?

 

[Soul]

We are SafeLives

We are SafeLives, the UK-wide charity dedicated to ending domestic abuse, for everyone and for good.

safelives.org.uk

Domestic abuse

Find out what you can do when you're fleeing from violence in the home, including finding emergency accommodation.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk

Domestic abuse - Victim Support

Domestic abuse is the repeated abuse of a person in an intimate or family relationship. It can happen to anyone - we're here to support you.

www.victimsupport.org.uk

@elizabethisworthless, can you phone some of those numbers and ask for help? If possible from a cafe or somewhere other than your home, if you can't think of a friend to go to. Another family member? One of your doctors or teachers, maybe?

 

[Despondent]

He threatened to kill you over food? There's something seriously not right with that. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that and you don't deserve that at all Nothing wrong with calling the police. No one should ever threaten anyone -- especially in such a way

 

[Angina]

Yeah, read all the government BS sites while being beaten.
You can call the pigs and push them to do something! Record it with your phone.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

It's horrible abuse you're going through. I really hope there is a way you can leave this situation. Even if you don't think it will make you better being away from toxic people can make a huge difference with your mental state. I hope things go well for you friend.

 

[Angina]

Virtual patting on the shoulder won't work. Awesome Wizard on the message board with almost 4K likes.
She needs a physical help.

 

[HeavyOne]

I feel your pain and I wish I could do more! You are not alone! We all do care about you!

Please...hold your strength, you are stronger than that little valueless man!

I called a friend living in UK, I'll write you back as I get some answers.

I will keep you in my mind! Sending you a strong hug!

 

[Soul]

Yeah, read all the government BS sites while being beaten.
You can call the pigs and push them to do something! Record it with your phone.

... People are trying to find some good help for Elizabeth, not advising her to get beaten. I feel her priority should be to get to a safe place where she can decide what authorities to contact.

You don't have to agree with that idea but please tone down your belligerence toward people who want to help her, ok? Thanks.

 

[Giraffey]

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808-2000-247
Open 24/7 every day (weekends included), it's usually less busy to call later in the evenings but whenever you get a moment of safety to phone them - please do. They are very good, will sit and listen and most importantly of all they can help you to formulate an escape plan and put you in touch with a local refuge. It's free to call, even from a mobile.

Some basic advice:

• Don't try to 'beat him up'. That is the worst possible advice, you will risk injuring yourself and escalating the abuse.
• If he hits you, or you're fearful that he might hurt you then call 999. The police have a legal duty of care towards you, which means that if you tell them you are being abused and that it is not safe for you to remain in your house, the police must take action, by law.
• If you find the police unsympathetic, you can ask to speak to a specialist domestic violence officer. These are often female officers who have received special training in dealing with abusive situations. Please don't let a bad experience with the police in the past stop you from asking for help.
• You don't have to CTB to escape this abuse Elizabeth, I know that may feel like the only way out right now, indeed it does for many men and women, but there are options.

Please, do reach out to the helpline number above (I can assure you, they are really wonderful), or drop one of us a PM and we will do our best to help you from where we are.

 

[KUA]

@KUA, are you here? Elizabeth needs your help finding a safe place. Waiting for lockdown to end isn't practical; there must be somewhere she can go *now*.

@elizabethisworthless, I'm not from the UK so I don't know the best place to phone, but here are some possibilities:

>> Call Refuge's National Domestic Abuse Helpline for free and confidential advice, 24 hours a day on 0808 2000 247. Visit the helpline website to access further information, a contact form and the live chat service. If you are in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.<<

Domestic abuse: how to get help

Find out how to get help if you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse.

www.gov.uk

The facts - Refuge Charity - Domestic Violence Help

The facts

www.refuge.org.uk

I will try my best. It's a joke in the UK. Other European countries with the same deaths have opened up much more than us. Elizabeth please DM me and tell me what town/ county you are in so that I can help you

 

[Deleted member 17949]

Virtual patting on the shoulder won't work. Awesome Wizard on the message board with almost 4K likes.
She needs a physical help.

Cool story bro, any form of encouragement still helps and 90% of the advice given here is pretty good anyway. It's not like I'm going to drive to the other side of England to tell her what to do in person.