Discussion The Sex Factor

[Pluto]

G'day all,

Something I'm genuinely curious about. How many people would say that their primary reason to CTB relates to sex/gender or sexuality in some way? For example:

* LGBTQIA+
* Victim of sexual assault, pedophilia, misogyny, misandry
* Chronic issues achieving a healthy relationship due to various reasons

I would love to know the percentage because I wonder if it could even be a majority of us. In case you're wondering, I had two abusive/misandrist older sisters as a child and ended up with major social anxiety that made relationship attempts unsuccessful, which in turn led to a whole cluster of other psychological/financial/social troubles, so it's a firm 'yes' for me. Thank you for participating in my not-so-sexy survey.

 

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Losing the love of my life is the main motive but wouldn't say sex because i've tried rebounds and it hasn't changed anything

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Being a complete virgin at 27 is the main reason for my CTB though the factors that are the root of me being a virgin probably wouldn't go away even if I were to get it over with and hire an escort or something. I also feel like I would be unable to physically do sex even if the opportunity came around due to health factors that I don't feel like solving so there's that.

 

[motel rooms]

Victim of pedophilia

 

[Soapie]

honestly i think my sexuality has kept me alive for a good while. im a trans lesbian and hopenestly finding myself has been so nice,. but I can understand it turning from a good thing to ab ad thing in the blink of an eye. I've of course been the victim of dis icrimiungation throughout my life and that trauma staysd with you. i think folks who are suffering caused of their suexauality are incredibly brave. its s ofucking hard sometimes. homophiba and transphiobiua cuts deep . it really really really does. my heart goes out to those who lost their lives cause of that shit. its horrific

 

[Amumu]

Complete lack of touch. It has been proven it causes "depression" among other primates, and I rarely touch other human beings.

I very rarely have sex with people who don't give a shit about me.

 

[yive]

Is sex/sexuality a factor behind your possible choice to CTB?

yes

 

[marinekiwi]

I'd say no. It's rather that i can't stand people anymore. Can't force myself to trust anyone no more.
I've been through hellish, abusive relationships. Why can't I just be loved for what I am? IS it that difficult? Can anyone not utterly destroy me in every possible way once I start trusting them?

 

[LonelyBrazilian]

Yes, being a kissless virgin is one of the reasons why I want ctb

 

[trianglesplayhouse]

Im trans jts so hard being a male white tranny in an accepting country

Tbh my mom won't get me access to medical care and I want testosterone so

 

[Ch92921]

Yes because in my case its pathological.

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

Masochism, death fetish, hanging fetish

 

[Snake of Eden]

Yah. I hate my sexuality. It caused me nothing but frustration and pain. I turned from hypersexual to almost asexual as a result. I am not a fit for being a gay man and I failed as a result

 

[stevieu]

In a nutshell, my sexuality has been completely fucked up since I was 'groomed', sexually assaulted/molested/r@ped & drugged....whatever exactly it all was, at the age of 16, by an older man that befriended me online. This was shortly after 'coming out' as gay, so it was all rather an intense mix of emotions and hormones without all that happening.

The stigma that still surrounds many of my experiences and the feelings I've felt since then has pretty much made me feel suicidal ever since. It's all too complex to put into a coherent form, but that'll do for now I guess.

 

[grungeCat]

Yes. I'm 21 and I'm a complete virgin. You may think I am young and I have time but you should realize that most of my peers are after sexual initiation and I inevitably feel stigmatized. I'm unable to find a romantic partner due to my social awkwardness and mental illness. My sexuality is also disorted by a shameful fetish. Even if I manage to get a gf then probably I won't be able to enjoy vanilia sex which make my condition even worse.

 

[Hans Voralberg]

I literally absorbed all legal porn that was produced at this world and use my sexuality as a fuel to be succesfull in my academics and cope with domestic violence in my parents marriage(dopamine overdosing gave me real intellectual boost for nearly a decade of my 22 years old life) this wasn't placebo. I'm junkie for this now. I'm tired of this tense in my body and emotionall hunger of other human being. I was abusing a lot of gore and literally removed away the fear of my death. I saw corpses and death day by day when I had this phase. I can love but I can't be loved

 

[fox_wannabe]

The reason I fail at sex life is same as why I am suicidal so unsure.
Even tho sex was huge deal for me when I still believed I could "score" or find a gf. I used to have homosexual fantasies but It is not something I have problem with.

 

[Idontrecognizemyself]

I am queer and I cannot come out to my family. I think frequently about how I would respond if they found out, my partner often says "it's okay, you would have me still : )" it's not okay. There is no cushion in my heart for that kind of rejection and ridicule and disownment- I would have to die. A lot of my earlier ideation and probably just plain anxiety symptoms started when I was groomed, assaulted, stalked at 15-16, but in all honesty those don't matter much to my overall suicidality.

 

[callme]

Too far gone since I was a child. Always poor, socially inept, ugly, obese, boring and stupid. It is completely unfixable. Leo's youtube series can offer a way out as you've recommended, but if the one trying them is already settled in their life. Since this is not coming, I will probably die while never having had friends, never been looked at by a woman, never having talked to a woman and beyond doubt never dated.

I would never date. To me love or attracrion is like trying to snap an atom in half with bare hands.

 

[RealLostSoul]

Losing the love of my life is the main motive but wouldn't say sex because i've tried rebounds and it hasn't changed anything

my words man. exact same situation for me

 

[LONE WOLF.]

Have had No interest in sex since l lost my late wife!

 

[Rational man]

NO. I was abused though as a kid but also at 19. I have other reason for ctb.

 

[CatLove56]

Masochism, death fetish, hanging fetish

Callin me out nice

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Not expecting sex or love after my last breakup - not ever again …