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- Aug 31, 2020
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Off topic and suicide discussions are so big, it makes me kinda sad.
True, but the rate of posts is a lot slower, too. I know this is a suicide forum, but idk... it still makes me sad I guess.I think this one is the newest out of the 3
That's fair, I'm only really paying attention today, anywaysI don't even pay attention to what forum I'm posting in. I just hit the "New posts" button occasionally and see if anything interests me.
I noticed it a couple months ago and yeah it makes me sad too that members here are suffering/strugglingTrue, but the rate of posts is a lot slower, too. I know this is a suicide forum, but idk... it still makes me sad I guess.
That's fair, I'm only really paying attention today, anyways
Off topic and suicide discussions are so big, it makes me kinda sad.
Yeah, it's truly sad... I think most people join this community because they want to find ways to ctb and they don't even look at the recovery section...
Yeah, this community is awesome I'm glad you also like it here.I came only to do research on SN and getting meto, but after I registered I started looking at the other sections. The community here is much less horrible than Reddit, so it's nice to be here.
I've never received encouragement to ctb on here and that's forbidden on this website, it's pro-choice, not pro-suicide.I'm new with having an account here, but I've lurked for awhile. I found this website while I was in crisis, and honestly, it's pretty fast and easy to find the information that you need about a method here if that's what you're after. The discussion on the suicide part of the forum, however.... I don't know. It kept me here. At first, I related to what I was reading and enjoyed not feeling like I was the only one who felt like this (let's be honest, mental health crises make us pretty myopic). But eventually, it made me actually not want to kill myself anymore. It seemed sort of... sick, I guess. Like, glamorizing or making a spectacle of one's death, subtle encouragement toward others to make this choice. It seemed pretty clear that if that's not how you see suicide, you aren't really welcome on the suicide discussion section. I continue to read some of it, but I try not to make posts there unless it touches on an area of my non-suicide related expertise and I can't contain myself (Lord knows I'm a pain-in-the-ass know-it-all).
But, the thing is, I still think about killing myself everyday. I want to be able to talk about those feelings, even while rejecting that killing myself is a forgone conclusion. You can't do that on other websites, or even with friends/family in real life without some freaking the F out. So, I still have a need for a place like this -- and clearly the only place I can exist on this website and not feel like a dick is in the "Recovery" portion of the forum. I suspect there are probably others here who feel like this too. I don't know. I wish there were more posting here.
I've never received encouragement to ctb on here and that's forbidden on this website, it's pro-choice, not pro-suicide.
Okay, I totally understand. It's really sad to see people leave and there are also many goodbye threads where I had to cry because I personally spoke with those people or really enjoyed seeing them around here.Yes, yes, I know. I honestly don't think anyone is directly telling anyone to off themselves (at least not that I've seen).
It's subtle. For example, it seems that many people here have issues with making social connections in real life; they are lonely. And then everyone who posts a "goodbye" thread gets lots of people -- even those they have never interacted with -- giving them attention, expressing positive thoughts for them, etc. Pages worth. If they then post photos or give a play-by-play of their death, they get even more attention and positive feedback. Is anyone telling them to kill themselves? No. But is there a subtle (likely unintentional) encouragement? Yes. Not necessarily for the person who made the thread, but for those watching who need that kind of positive regard and attention.
There are other examples of course, but that one seems pretty obvious.
It is what it is. But, it's not something I would be comfortable participating in.
I see where you're coming from. For some people it may be the most positive attention they'll ever get so it is probably somewhat enticing. I hope that people don't decide to commit to ctb just because of 5 minutes of fame thoughYes, yes, I know. I honestly don't think anyone is directly telling anyone to off themselves (at least not that I've seen).
It's subtle. For example, it seems that many people here have issues with making social connections in real life; they are lonely. And then everyone who posts a "goodbye" thread gets lots of people -- even those they have never interacted with -- giving them attention, expressing positive thoughts for them, etc. Pages worth. If they then post photos or give a play-by-play of their death, they get even more attention and positive feedback. Is anyone telling them to kill themselves? No. But is there a subtle (likely unintentional) encouragement? Yes. Not necessarily for the person who made the thread, but for those watching who need that kind of positive regard and attention.
There are other examples of course, but that one seems pretty obvious.
It is what it is. But, it's not something I would be comfortable participating in.
Yes, yes, I know. I honestly don't think anyone is directly telling anyone to off themselves (at least not that I've seen).
It's subtle. For example, it seems that many people here have issues with making social connections in real life; they are lonely. And then everyone who posts a "goodbye" thread gets lots of people -- even those they have never interacted with -- giving them attention, expressing positive thoughts for them, etc. Pages worth. If they then post photos or give a play-by-play of their death, they get even more attention and positive feedback. Is anyone telling them to kill themselves? No. But is there a subtle (likely unintentional) encouragement? Yes. Not necessarily for the person who made the thread, but for those watching who need that kind of positive regard and attention.
There are other examples of course, but that one seems pretty obvious.
It is what it is. But, it's not something I would be comfortable participating in.
It's nice to read that someone else sees what I see. I attracted a lot of heat for saying something similar in a thread of the "suicide" forum. I described it as a culture and tried to explain how culture removes elements of choice or at very least influences it. Even that isn't really very accurate to say. I just know that there is something that doesn't sit well with me and it is independent of my personal struggles with suicide.Yes, yes, I know. I honestly don't think anyone is directly telling anyone to off themselves (at least not that I've seen).
It's subtle. For example, it seems that many people here have issues with making social connections in real life; they are lonely. And then everyone who posts a "goodbye" thread gets lots of people -- even those they have never interacted with -- giving them attention, expressing positive thoughts for them, etc. Pages worth. If they then post photos or give a play-by-play of their death, they get even more attention and positive feedback. Is anyone telling them to kill themselves? No. But is there a subtle (likely unintentional) encouragement? Yes. Not necessarily for the person who made the thread, but for those watching who need that kind of positive regard and attention.
There are other examples of course, but that one seems pretty obvious.
It is what it is. But, it's not something I would be comfortable participating in.
I think it will be a great idea a forum website only about recovery.
I think it will be a great idea a forum website only about recovery. I dont even comment or read the goodbye threads. I will never encourage or discourage ctb.
I think it will be a great idea a forum website only about recovery. I dont even comment or read the goodbye threads. I will never encourage or discourage ctb.
Deleted my message.Hi I would like that too. A Recovery forum.
XHi I would like that too. A Recovery forum.