I already have my CTB method all ready to go, it's just day by day , it's so heavy for me to know what this is going to put my mum through, I cannot tell her, it's going to have to be a surprise, she has been there for everything in my life and I know it's going to absolutely crush her, any tips on what I should do in this situation maybe sit down and talk with her to try and see if she will see my side of this?
Rn110bg101
I want to go home
- Apr 18, 2019
- 412
She will absolutely report you to the cops, trust me. Pro-lifers will never see our point of view no matter how you tell them. Better to write a note.
x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
This is a very sad situation, but only you know how your dear mum will react to you telling her about your plan to ctb.
Is there another family member you can talk it through with? Someone who will break the news to your mum gently, and look after her afterwards?
Is there another family member you can talk it through with? Someone who will break the news to your mum gently, and look after her afterwards?
Conker
Specialist
- Oct 22, 2019
- 351
i mean, if you love her that much are you sure this is the correct choice? would a change of circumstance be enough to keep you around for a while longer? I mean this with respect, and yeah a surprise would be the way to go unless you've got a method that ensures instant death even by the time anybody else arrives.
x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
I don't it's really just her and I all others live across the way , I'm not worried about myself leaving, I'm worried about what she will do when she finds out,
Nothing changes the fact that I love my mum , I'm just worried for her after , she will be distraught
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x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
Then if you are really desperate to CTB, you must find someone who will look after her, support her and be there for her. You owe her that at least.
Blank Dreamer
Seeker of Dreams
- Sep 11, 2020
- 72
Sorry to say but there is nothing that you can do to ease her pain about losing you. Suicide, losing a loved one, is a life changing experience. So many things can happen to those that are affected by your loss. Some people can move on, some don't. Some will even CTB due to your loss.
Must be a difficult situation for you. I couldn't care less about mine when my day arrives.
Must be a difficult situation for you. I couldn't care less about mine when my day arrives.
x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
I think so, but I'm fairly new myself, so I don't know how to pm yet.
Try clicking on my profile picture and see how it goes from there.
not-2-b-the-answer
Archangel
- Mar 23, 2018
- 8,965
Sorry for what you are going through.
If you move the cursor over a members name it will bring up a box to either start a conversation or start a chat. I noticed that when I tried it over yours the box didn't come up yet. I know that you have to have so many posts before you are able to PM though. Not sure of the # you need.
x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
Sorry for what you are going through.
If you move the cursor over a members name it will bring up a box to either start a conversation or start a chat. I noticed that when I tried it over yours the box didn't come up yet. I know that you have to have so many posts before you are able to PM though. Not sure of the # you need.
Thank you
not-2-b-the-answer
Archangel
- Mar 23, 2018
- 8,965
You're welcome
You should be able to PM... when I moved my cursor over your name the box came up.
x~Sophia~x
Always give 100% - unless you’re donating blood.
- Sep 10, 2020
- 1,361
You're welcome
You should be able to PM... when I moved my cursor over your name the box came up.
I think the problem is that Tina Turner is a very new member and doesn't have the facility to pm yet. Thank you though.
All washed up
Experienced
- Oct 31, 2020
- 232
Hello
So sorry about your predicament
You should be able to PM after you've been registered for 24 hours and made around 5 posts.
Take care
Didymus
Clutching at invisible straws
- Dec 11, 2018
- 348
I can see ur point and empathise as I m in the same situation as u. It is something that is holding me back plus the fact that I m gutless and can't overcome my SI. But I guess this is a no win situation for us as whatever we do or say , even if ur mom knows abt ur plan to ctb beforehand coping with it is totally another matter.
MiseryLovesMyCompany
Arcanist
- Oct 8, 2020
- 482
You can't tell her if you want to go through with it. She will be devastated and you can't do anything about that. The only thing you can do is do not think about her, as great pain is inevitable for her. I'm sorry you are in a tough situation but there's really not much to do apart from you accepting the consequences of your ctb.
woxihuanni
Illuminated
- Aug 19, 2019
- 3,299
Every time I see someone talking to birth famiy members I am confused. How is possible for mama to say 'Great, go ahead?'.
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