Is anybody else here who comes from a dysfunctional family the "lost child"?
Was just reading up on the different roles of a dysfunctional family and that is exactly what I am. The lost child.
Lost Child: The quiet child spends most of their time alone, avoiding the family and its dysfunction. The lost child often makes a conscious effort to avoid causing trouble. They fade into the background, which unfortunately leads to their needs being unmet and ignored.
Or if not, do you fit any of the other roles?
Scapegoat: The family's black sheep is often blamed for the problems within the family. In behavior akin to bullying, parents will often single out, leave out, and blame the scapegoat as the problem child, making them feel like they don't belong.
Golden child: The good child is favored or idealized by one of both parents, often to an unhealthy degree. The golden child can do no wrong in the parents' eyes and receives preferential treatment, less criticism, and more approval and validation than their siblings.
Mascot child: The comic relief or the family clown uses humor and mischief to alleviate tension or divert attention away from the family dysfunction.
Enabler: The enabler or caregiver protects troubled family members, covers up dysfunctional behavior, and assumes responsibility so that the family maintains the look of normalcy instead of a full-blown crisis day after day. The enabler allows the dysfunctional member to worsen to keep the family peace. Usually, an enabler is a parent, but it can also be a child. Parentification occurs when the child is the enabler and takes on parental duties, such as household chores, cooking, or caring for younger siblings.
Mastermind: the opportunist gets what they want by using the family dysfunction to their advantage.
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Was just reading up on the different roles of a dysfunctional family and that is exactly what I am. The lost child.
Lost Child: The quiet child spends most of their time alone, avoiding the family and its dysfunction. The lost child often makes a conscious effort to avoid causing trouble. They fade into the background, which unfortunately leads to their needs being unmet and ignored.
Or if not, do you fit any of the other roles?
Scapegoat: The family's black sheep is often blamed for the problems within the family. In behavior akin to bullying, parents will often single out, leave out, and blame the scapegoat as the problem child, making them feel like they don't belong.
Golden child: The good child is favored or idealized by one of both parents, often to an unhealthy degree. The golden child can do no wrong in the parents' eyes and receives preferential treatment, less criticism, and more approval and validation than their siblings.
Mascot child: The comic relief or the family clown uses humor and mischief to alleviate tension or divert attention away from the family dysfunction.
Enabler: The enabler or caregiver protects troubled family members, covers up dysfunctional behavior, and assumes responsibility so that the family maintains the look of normalcy instead of a full-blown crisis day after day. The enabler allows the dysfunctional member to worsen to keep the family peace. Usually, an enabler is a parent, but it can also be a child. Parentification occurs when the child is the enabler and takes on parental duties, such as household chores, cooking, or caring for younger siblings.
Mastermind: the opportunist gets what they want by using the family dysfunction to their advantage.
Dysfunctional Family: Signs, Examples, And Types
Signs of a dysfunctional family include conflicts, hostility, emotional abuse, rigid rules, stifled emotions, aggression, and poor communication. A
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