Not to anyone in particularβ¦
You do know it's possible to move between someone who enjoys their life and cope, and someone who doesn't. It's possible to move between these perspectives throughout your entire life.
I started out as an abused child, but then I've worked happily, with minimal issues, enjoying my life, seeing the world, watching myself and others develop and blossom for 35+ years. Then, I started to get the CPTSD flashbacks and the suicidal thoughts again. I can still see that others have joy in the way they live their life. But mine is very much diminished. I still enjoy things, but the daily reminders of being raped outweigh this.
What's shite is being somewhere like SaSu, where I hoped for a more understanding environment, but instead I'm faced with criticism of my life choices - parent, worker, LGBT, even being an 'older' person. I give myself enough shit and while I respect the rights of others to have their own opinions, when people openly criticise my choices (and don't just focus on the shit that their life has dealt them), I get a bit pissed off and reactive.
And, I suspect this is part of my upbringing and potentially closed mind, but I do look at some comments and think to myself how utterly privileged some people are to be in the position to criticise how others live their lives - and I admit, how immature I feel some people's thinking is.