telling her my plan would be fucked up and evil right?

[unwilling_lich]

like, telling my best friend whos struggling herself that im gonna jump off the bridge by her house by the end of the month would be an awful thing to tell her and i shouldnt tell her right?

i mean thats why my ex fiance left way back when, id tell her my plans and eventually it was too much for her to bare

idk why tf i want to tell her so bad when i know its a bad idea

 

[TheHolySword]

I confessed my plans to someone, it made everything a lot worse. I wouldn't recommend it. It didn't do anything for me, it hurt the other person. There's just no point in it, in my opinion and experience at least. Write her a note to read after instead.

 

[VigilanteWithViolin]

it seems to me that this may be a desire to share your thoughts with someone in order to hear their thoughts in response (without judgment or something like that) or a simple desire to speak out. Ideas about ctb are very difficult to carry around, and people often want to at least hint at them. not for the sake of attention or salvation (although it happens) It's just for the sake of being heard.
maybe you want to tell your friend because she's struggling with it herself and you realize that she can understand your feelings...
I've had similar experiences, even though my expectations and reality never matched, and my relationships with those people became even more strained.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

Yeah, blurting out your suicide plans to a close friend like that is a bad idea. It sounds impulsive.

What would you hope to gain from doing that? Maybe there's a more low-key approach you could take if you have an actual goal to accomplish.

 

[JustHere1]

This is someone who's suffering themselves. If you already know they have trouble bearing more mental burden (trauma, not care), then be conscious of this and protect them from that pain. In this situation I would not inform them, but you do have support from this forum.

 

[unwilling_lich]

yall are right tbh, thabk you

it sucks the 2 people who know me best (her and my ex) i cant talk to abt the 1 thing thats most pressing to me, every time she asks what im thinking abt i cant give an honest answer, i gotta have like backup default answers but im like a notoriously bad liar lol

 

[Forever Sleep]

Do you want her support to maybe try to recover deep down? Is it because you want to warn her so that it's less of a shock for her? Or, is it more that it's such a worrying thing to be contemplating and you want her support without her trying to stop you doing it?

If you want her help to possibly try to recover, you could tell a half truth. Say you are experiencing suicidal thoughts which, you don't have plans to act on but, you're struggling to live with them, maybe.

If you're hoping people will support you with your decision as well as supporting you emotionally on the run up, I think that is quite a lot to hope for. It maybe depends on their ideas around the right to die. How they perceive your problems and life. I imagine they have to accept that there's really no other good alternative. I think a lot of people struggle to do that though.

Plus also, the legal implications I suppose. No one wants to get in trouble for assisting a suicide or be quized as to having knowledge but not acting on it eg. from angry family members looking for someone to blame.

Sadly, I think it's a tricky position to put someone in. I suppose that's why somewhere like here is so valuable. Maybe not the same as real life but, we can support one another annonymously.