Discussion teen suicides.. how did they do it?

[namida]

all the time i see news articles, videos, etc about very young teens and preteens who commit suicide due to online bullying. and i just always wonder.. how? how were they able to push through it? is it because their brains arent developed enough to be afraid of what could happen if they fail?

most of the time in these teen suicide reports, the kid hung themselves. sometimes i hear about them cutting enough that they die of blood loss. im only talking about the confirmed deaths here. but i just cannot imagine a kid being able to go through with that so quickly? it always seems like its very spur of the moment, like it happens so fast that the parents/siblings of the kid are unaware until they find the body.

ive tried to commit suicide since i was 12, in a multitude of ways. however i have a low pain tolerance so i rarely ever cut, but ive tried to hang myself more times than i can count and i ALWAYS stop when i feel myself unable to breathe or i feel pressure in my head/neck area. is this just my natural instincts fighting to keep me alive? or is it that my brain is more developed to be afraid of the consequences? i admit when i was younger i took pills like they were candy and didnt care if i got liver damage by surviving. so maybe they just don't have a concept of something so permanent yet.

i wish there was a way i could trick my brain to be less caring of survival like that. ive had many spur of the moment suicide attempts where the only thought going through my head is that i must die, and i WILL die, but i still always give up in the end. i just can't imagine how a kid is able to figure out how to hang themselves properly and carry through with it, yet i cant?

i feel bad saying that, because as much as i want to die im still saddened when others take their life, especially so young. it feels wrong to be jealous of them. but i still wish i had that lack of foresight to just do it.

 

[Fulminare]

As someone who struggled with suicide back when I was a teenager, I don't think I was as afraid of death than I might be now. I acted more impulsively and went "Fuck it, everyone else makes this look easy, how hard can it be?". The thought of failure didn't cross my mind. But I can't speak for others.

Children also have a different understanding of death, hence why they cope with a passing of a loved one differently than an adult would. It depends highly on the age of the individual though. Makes me wish I could go back to my first attempt, it was very easy for me back then.

 

[Rainy_days]

Why single out teens? I feel the same way about anyone who kills themselves with strangulation, knives, drowning, etc.

 

[namida]

Why single out teens? I feel the same way about anyone who kills themselves with strangulation, knives, drowning, etc.

i single out teens because i think they dont fully grasp what they're doing in the moment and that once they're dead, that's it. they want to end the suffering they're feeling in the moment and it's often unplanned. but you have a point about the drawn out methods. i've heard of people even setting themselves on fire as a method of suicide. perhaps these people reach such a breaking point that they realize drastic measures must be taken to ensure success? that the physical pain is worth it because it will all be over soon? ive thought that way about something like jumping in front of a train. im sure the death isnt entirely instant- ill probably feel all of my bones shatter for a few seconds at least. though im still too much of a coward to go out in such a brutal way. the chance i could survive it is too high to risk it.

 

[Rainy_days]

i single out teens because i think they dont fully grasp what they're doing in the moment and that once they're dead, that's it. they want to end the suffering they're feeling in the moment and it's often unplanned. but you have a point about the drawn out methods. i've heard of people even setting themselves on fire as a method of suicide. perhaps these people reach such a breaking point that they realize drastic measures must be taken to ensure success? that the physical pain is worth it because it will all be over soon? ive thought that way about something like jumping in front of a train. im sure the death isnt entirely instant- ill probably feel all of my bones shatter for a few seconds at least. though im still too much of a coward to go out in such a brutal way. the chance i could survive it is too high to risk it.

Yeah I tend to visualize those last moments too and it is pretty terrifying. Regarding teens, I would guess that most of them are able to grasp the finality of death. I don't know though, it's been a long time since I was that age.

 

[byebyered]

I get shocked when I see kids under 13 who figure out how to pass survival instinct. It's so sad. I read an article one time about an 8 year boy who hung himself because he was being bullied at school.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Can't speak for them but I know my reactions and emotions to things were even more intense when I was young. Things like bullying REALLY hurt me back then- it can feel like the end of the world. I think- as you get older- while it's still unpleasant, the reaction maybe isn't as extreme. I think their feelings of hurt, fear and humiliation are maybe higher to drive them to do it... Maybe.

 

[MideonNViscera]

As someone who very nearly hung himself to death in his closet as a teen on a whim, yet can't manage to do it with months of preparation as an adult, I'd say it has something to do with our brains not being fully developed at that age. The specifics I can't really speak to, but it's common knowledge that our brains work differently until we're 25 or whatever the age happens to be.

For me I wasn't scared at all as a teen, and just went for it, full collapse into the noose and unconsciousness quickly followed, briefly. As an adult I have this expectation of being able to make it easy, and when it isn't, I give up and try to figure out something else.

Even when I was in my early 20's I was able to do full suspension, and the only thing that saved me was the rope breaking. I could never even entertain that idea now.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Impulse.

 

[Midnight-rain]

As someone who's been suicidal since 10 years old but have never attempted, I have a different experience. For years after I became suicidal I was petrified of death. I wanted to die but I was still coming to terms with my lack of religious beliefs to "comfort" me. If there was no afterlife, what then? Wasn't sure if I was happy with the thought of nothingness back then (now I am).

I've also been a cautious person since I can remember. So I thought, 'how can I possibly die? I don't know how. I don't want to fail.'

Important to note that I had things and people I was staying alive for. That is no longer the case but it stopped me from attempting.

 

[FuneralCry]

It really does make suicide sound so much easier than it actually is when you hear of so many succeeding. I think that it's impossible really to know what went through the minds of those people that managed to be successful, maybe many who succeeded with hanging just got so desperate to leave, they didn't overthink the method and then they managed to free themselves from this world. But those who succeed certainly are fortunate.

I so envy and admire very young people who manage to ctb. I see so much beauty in refusing to delay the inevitable and voluntarily preventing a lifetime of potentially extreme suffering, at least to me the less years spent here in this cruel, horrific world the better. I really wish that I died when I was much younger but sadly I'm still here trapped in the same existence.

 

[my-end]

My pain when I was young was much more blinding and acute. Now I'm more aware in general with an entire grieving of life upon me.

 

[bolt]

I had the same question today. How do they follow through so easily....

 

[jessisme]

all the time i see news articles, videos, etc about very young teens and preteens who commit suicide due to online bullying. and i just always wonder.. how? how were they able to push through it? is it because their brains arent developed enough to be afraid of what could happen if they fail?

most of the time in these teen suicide reports, the kid hung themselves. sometimes i hear about them cutting enough that they die of blood loss. im only talking about the confirmed deaths here. but i just cannot imagine a kid being able to go through with that so quickly? it always seems like its very spur of the moment, like it happens so fast that the parents/siblings of the kid are unaware until they find the body.

ive tried to commit suicide since i was 12, in a multitude of ways. however i have a low pain tolerance so i rarely ever cut, but ive tried to hang myself more times than i can count and i ALWAYS stop when i feel myself unable to breathe or i feel pressure in my head/neck area. is this just my natural instincts fighting to keep me alive? or is it that my brain is more developed to be afraid of the consequences? i admit when i was younger i took pills like they were candy and didnt care if i got liver damage by surviving. so maybe they just don't have a concept of something so permanent yet.

i wish there was a way i could trick my brain to be less caring of survival like that. ive had many spur of the moment suicide attempts where the only thought going through my head is that i must die, and i WILL die, but i still always give up in the end. i just can't imagine how a kid is able to figure out how to hang themselves properly and carry through with it, yet i cant?

i feel bad saying that, because as much as i want to die im still saddened when others take their life, especially so young. it feels wrong to be jealous of them. but i still wish i had that lack of foresight to just do it.

I have felt what you give voice to here. xox

 

[アホペンギン]

I get shocked when I see kids under 13 who figure out how to pass survival instinct. It's so sad. I read an article one time about an 8 year boy who hung himself because he was being bullied at school.

Its sad how people as young as 8 feel the urge to ctb to escape this world, even I felt that way at 8..

 

[StolenLife]

As someone who was suicidal since I was 12 years old, I feel that my emotions were much stronger during puberty, for example when I was angry my anger was so strong that I was capable of hurting myself and others and would often do it. Nowdays, while I do get angry, it's more of just ''eh, whatever". So I think it might have to do with unstable hormones maybe and the way the brain developes.

 

[Lulzacruel]

it always seems like its very spur of the moment,

well, there is your answer sir

of course teenagers do not lend attention to such things like chance of faliure

if you were an emotional teenager would you care about the method as long as you think it will succeed?

 

[Sapphire]

I think it's because most teen suicides are impulsive, and they aren't mature enough to completely understand the consequences of their actions.

I made an attempt when I was a teenager. It was very impulsive. I only waited a few days after deciding to do it. It seems ridiculous now, but it never occurred to me that I could fail or that there could be serious consequences if I failed.

There was no SI at all. I spent the day doing normal things like usual and was calm as could be. I wasn't afraid of dying. I didn't hesitate for more than a few minutes beforehand.

Now as an adult, it's much harder to go through with it. I tend to overthink things and become too anxious to go through with it.