Being sexually abused and ignored is the worst, no one truly cares about you, they just think you are making it up for attention, lying to get them in trouble, breaking up with them. Especially men too, women experience shame but when men try to report sexual abuse its basically laughed at, shameful.
exactly. The police officers and the courts cannot understand that if someone is reporting a sexual violence there might be high chances that there is a base for non consensual actions. It really takes a lot of will for someone to start the lawsuit, because it inflicts shame and depression if the denunciation will be rejected. It is shocking how the court can close quickly these investigations, without a proper interrogation, without collecting all the witnesses and evidences that have been suggested.
In the case of women, the sexual aggression can be far more heavy psychologically and, yes, men are believed not to ashamed for such things.
But there is much more than the psychological side and it is the fact that a sexual abuser is very likely a person that is sexually obsessed and he carries diseases. And no one would accept to be ruined for something that wasn't consensual and intentional.
In my specific case, I was invited to a private place and the person was interested in a sexual date. I never accepted to have any physical contact and I didn't get into intentional contact with the person, because I feared diseases a lot and I had bad vibes that this could have been the case. But when I reported this to the police, their first response was: you were adult and you accepted a date, so there is no crime for sexual abuse. Like if someone that is put under the effect of drugs can promptly stop the aggressor from committing something non consensual.
I received the response from the court in the middle of the covid pandemic, when everything was closed, and they asked me to request the reasons for their decision within 2 weeks. I didn't know that my case had been sent to the court already and that the process would have been so fast, so I didn't have a lawyer. It took some time to understand how to contact them; I asked to my family to send them a fax, as they were not accepting phone calls or emails; and now, 1 year later, I still haven't had a response.
So that's what happens: they run some very quick investigations, they probably ask a few questions to the person, they don't search for the witnesses that have been suggested and they trust that the aggressor is telling the truth. After that they report that they will close the case, unless you are willing to pay big money to hire a lawyer that will do the work that they should have done.
It is a humiliation that will keep coming back. It's no surprise that those poor girls ended their life.
Every time that I go to a doctor for my health problems, they recommend me to go to do some psychotherapy; they probably fear that I will break down, soon or later. And I pretend that I'm fine with the psychological aspect of this, as I do not want any sort of control on what I will decide to do. Because what the victim desires most is justice for how his/her life has been ruined.
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