if you finally hit the last straw should you consider the feelings of family/friends not to do it or say screw it and don't care how they feel and do it anyway
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throwaway123
Hell0
- Aug 5, 2018
- 1,446
If you finally hit the last straw you wouldn't be here.
Anyone serious about ctb ought to try to everything possible to minimize the impact on family, imho. This means making sure it's not one of them who finds you, primarily. Also setting your affairs in order so there's less for them to deal with as executors of the will. If you can afford it, make a lawyer executor perhaps. Trying to choose a method by which they won't be haunted by images of a messy and horrible end, even if they weren't the ones to find you. Someone is going to have to identify the body as well.
Writing letters. On the one hand it might increase their distress or make a last contact to leave them with, on the other if there's no letter it might be easier for them to think of it as something impetuous where you weren't thinking clearly and not think of you as suffering and alone for a long time, or they may feel the severing of the link more acutely.
I'm surprised this doesn't get more comments in this forum.
Writing letters. On the one hand it might increase their distress or make a last contact to leave them with, on the other if there's no letter it might be easier for them to think of it as something impetuous where you weren't thinking clearly and not think of you as suffering and alone for a long time, or they may feel the severing of the link more acutely.
I'm surprised this doesn't get more comments in this forum.
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I totally agree with that, do you have any idea about how to make sure about that??
I was thinking about leaving my place and go somewhere where i couldn't be findable such as deep nature, like i'm in Europe so almost every part of Europe is easily reachable by train or plane, and i don't mind spending some last 100/200 euros if i'm dead. But even if that would be beautiful (to see a last amazing thing before dying) i'm kind of afraid of it
I feel like i didn't find every solutions about this problem
You just joined so research in here, that's what it's here for. Think and research in a way that is true to yourself and minimizes trauma for yourself and anyone who will be traumatized. Then think again as clearly as possible about if it's what you really want.
Yep that's what i'm doing but it feels like almost eveybody here don't care about their family or even want to make them suffer so i'm not lucky with it ahah
But i'm confident i'll find a way :)
Lara Francis
Enlightened
- Jun 30, 2018
- 1,627
I think when you have truly hit the last straw, there is only one objective in your mind and that is to die and you are not in the frame of mind to think of anyone other than yourself
They will always be hurt by what you'll do, no matter the kind letter you leave behind.
All you can do is say sorry then go forth.
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All you can do is say sorry then go forth.
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Why are you asking us?
You know the truth. Be honest with yourself. You are not stupid. You know the answers. Just be honest with yourself.
You love your family? Tell them. Make sure they know it 1000%. Say it a billion times until they know it. Literally.
Can you fix your life? Are you just sad because you are fat/ugly/broke/"dumb"/"uneducated"? Are your problems fixable?
You know this. You are the one who knows. We don't. No one does. You know.
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself these questions. It is your life.
You do what you want. But to save your soul you have to be honest with yourself. Honesty is power.
I admit I am stupid, weak, get scared easily, a piece of fucking trash garbage scumbag. My body is a joke, my health is fucked, I am out of shape. I am more fucked than anyone in this universe. The worst one.
But being honest with myself I found the one thing that saves my soul and that makes me happy. The one thing that is good in my world.
You know the truth. Be honest with yourself. You are not stupid. You know the answers. Just be honest with yourself.
You love your family? Tell them. Make sure they know it 1000%. Say it a billion times until they know it. Literally.
Can you fix your life? Are you just sad because you are fat/ugly/broke/"dumb"/"uneducated"? Are your problems fixable?
You know this. You are the one who knows. We don't. No one does. You know.
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself these questions. It is your life.
You do what you want. But to save your soul you have to be honest with yourself. Honesty is power.
I admit I am stupid, weak, get scared easily, a piece of fucking trash garbage scumbag. My body is a joke, my health is fucked, I am out of shape. I am more fucked than anyone in this universe. The worst one.
But being honest with myself I found the one thing that saves my soul and that makes me happy. The one thing that is good in my world.
if u still have any semblance of actual friends and family then just go get help lol. You're not gonna kill yourself
Smilla
Visionary
- Apr 30, 2018
- 2,549
Smilla
Visionary
- Apr 30, 2018
- 2,549
And if they've already seeked help but it hasn't worked or made it worse?
MiserableBastard1995
Experienced
- Mar 17, 2018
- 291
