Society tends to have these stupid double standards when it comes to selfishness. People tell you to prioritize your needs above anyone else's and "love yourself before you love others" but then when it comes to suicide that's when they tell you to think of your family and friends. It's atrocious. What's worse is that sometimes these same people tell you to suck it up when you're at your worst, and then instead of helping you THEY LEAVE YOU to deal it on your own, which is incredibly difficult especially for someone who is part of a marginalized group. Then those people only go boohoo after you die. If you really want to eliminate suffering then PLEASE don't make it so difficult for the other person. Everyone will eventually get tired of saving themselves all the time, because as human beings we have our limitations, and we weren't born to survive on our own.