""Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.""

[Smelly_ballz]

My least favorite phrase in existence. It is so shitty to tell people that their problems are temporary when you don't know the person or when they really aren't. Sometimes it is a permanent solution to a permanent problem. It can also undermine what the person is going through.

 

[donewithlife1]

it's not general you're right but it could be also that sometimes

 

[stoiccactus]

it is a dumb cliché that people say, stuff like that drives me nuts. like, yeah I guess its probably true but how does that help anyone?

 

[zombiegirl]

it's a temporary solution to a permanent problem. i will be back

 

[Smelly_ballz]

it's not general you're right but it could be also that sometimes

Sometimes people might be in temporary problems, but I think a lot people who succeed in suicide aren't doing it to solve a temporary issue. I understand that it can be true tho, I just hate when people say it. Especially when it's a lie.

 

[Yaffle]

Shows no understanding of the suicidal mind.

 

[Kit1]

And it is extremely insensitive and hurtful - absolute lack of empathy and understanding.

 

[february in alaska]

I also find it funny just because they themselves are admitting that it is a solution. A permanent solution sounds fantastic. A permanent solution promises it won't ever happen again

 

[C:/]

The quote implies that you haven't weighed out all other options available. There is the standpoint of suicide being a impulsive thing, but the common misconception is that there is no planning going into a suicide.

 

[oneeyed]

What if the problem is temporary but reoccurring so often it wears you out to your breaking point?

Sometimes you get some interesting bs answers when you reply with that.

 

[Gonnerr]

Suicide is a permanent and good solution to a permanent problem aka life.

 

[Tobacco]

It's bold to assume that all problems are temporary. There must be situations that will remaing with you for the rest of your life.

 

[BlockHammer]

It depend on the person that's suicidal, the word "temporary" itself it's a subjextive matter, like how you detemine a temporary thing. I heard that some people cure their depression for about 8-10 year, and for me it's a fcking long time. Nobody cen determine this thing, everyone have their own standard or limitation

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Those people who say that can finance my life for me then.

 

[ilikemoais]

Average frase that they heard from somewhere else and say it just because they have no idea how to actually help someone with suicidal toughs. Fr if u dont know how to actually help someone dont say cliche things, that just make us feel worse

 

[Duality]

Yes this is definitely something that people hear others say, and then repeat on because it sounds 'good'. I hate this phrase, I've heard it so many times from my friends, teachers, counselors, therapists, psychiatrists, etc.

Everyone who has said this to me was really privileged and had very little hardships in their life.

If my problems are so temporary, why am I still feeling this way years later? Besides, CTB should be a choice regardless of one's own situation, making the 'temporary problem' point moot.

 

[Vesiira]

My least favorite phrase in existence. It is so shitty to tell people that their problems are temporary when you don't know the person or when they really aren't. Sometimes it is a permanent solution to a permanent problem. It can also undermine what the person is going through.

UGH I ALSO HATE THIS PHRASE SO MUCH. "Temporary"?????? There are people that have problems that are for LIFE. Things that CAN'T go away. That's more than just temporary. We have usually felt the way we feel for YEARS. After going through so much hurt, it feels like it will be forever. And it might. They don't get that some things aren't temporary.

 

[sserafim]

My least favorite phrase in existence. It is so shitty to tell people that their problems are temporary when you don't know the person or when they really aren't. Sometimes it is a permanent solution to a permanent problem. It can also undermine what the person is going through.

I also hate this phrase. For me the problem is life itself and having to live life, it'll always be a permanent problem for me. Neurodivergence will stay with me for the rest of my life, I'll always have ADHD, social anxiety, and be on the spectrum. These problems are not temporary, and the latter (the most debilitating/severe/annoying one) can't be cured. I basically have trouble socializing and being a human being. This is a permanent problem and can't be solved.

 

[jackrussell]

i also hate this phrase. i've had suffered from depression for decades and it has gotten worse from taken psych drugs. for me it's a permanent problem that can't be solved.

 

[Darkover]

life's the permanent problem and death is the solution
life's the permanent problem and death is the solution

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's a very strange statement too. Like- what's so bad about a permanent solution? Do they prefer quick fixes then? Slapping a bandaid over the problem?

I do get it that they're insinuating that all problems pass. I doubt they have a clue though. That person could well have been suffering for years, even decades. There's nothing to stop more problems arising in the future too.

Plus, it makes it sound so simple and exterior. Many people realise that it's just as much about us as people. Our inability to cope with whatever life has chucked at us. That may not be something we feel we can substantially change. Illness of any kind isn't always fixable. It may be a matter of having to change who we are too- to better cope in this world but- what if we don't want that? The statement also totally dismisses choice. What if I'm tired of dealing with all these problems?

 

[Unknown21]

This phrase enough to make me ctb, bc who doesn't want a fucking permanent solution to even temporary problems.

 

[ABSOLUTION]

How the fuck would someone who would say something like that know what's temporary?
They are the same kind of people that poorly rationalize everything you say to them rather than actually being helpful.
I don't even bother talking anymore, I've finally realized it's worse than if I didn't speak at all.
I wouldn't even care either if they didn't make it so fucking hard to get the job done as a direct result of that dumb perspective.

On the other hand, I can interpret it as how the "temporary problem" is temporary because of the "permanent solution".
Who said the permanent solution was necessarily the wrong one?

 

[Deleted member 65988]

A permanent solution?

Well then, that should suffice as an answer to every problem life could throw at you. Although, I suppose in this context, people say it because it's intended to show how much of extreme suicide is to all the problems life could throw at you which are temporary in comparison to taking your life which is a forever thing however, for me, suicide isn't an answer to life gone awry but the solution of the problem of life being that you are forever subject to whatever painful things may happen to you even up till the moment you draw your last breath.

I can't think of any shortage of problems in life that are terminal and they can happen to anyone so why shouldn't we have reason to choose the one solution that fixes every single problem which is never to experience them again.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

A permanent solution is always the best and preferable to anything else. If I found a permanent solution to the problem that makes me suicidal I wouldn't need a plan and ready method to CTB bc the actual problem would be solved.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I also find it funny just because they themselves are admitting that it is a solution. A permanent solution sounds fantastic. A permanent solution promises it won't ever happen again

Exactly this. Like when would you ever want a temporary solution over a permanent one? It's ironic that people would always want the permanent solution over a temporary one when it comes to all aspects of life but, as soon as suicide is concerned, suddenly, to them, the temporary solution is more preferable. They really didn't think this through at all

 

[username8888]

My least favorite phrase in existence. It is so shitty to tell people that their problems are temporary when you don't know the person or when they really aren't. Sometimes it is a permanent solution to a permanent problem. It can also undermine what the person is going through.

Your words made me tremble for good. I respect your idea

 

[tiger b]

Given one day every star will be gone from the sky, yes human life on this planet could be said to be a temporary problem. Quote actually makes sense in this context.

Hitting whoever mindlessly utters the quote with a frying pan is an even better solution.

 

[deadbody]

I hate that statement. Some people suffers for decades.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Yes this is definitely something that people hear others say, and then repeat on because it sounds 'good'. I hate this phrase, I've heard it so many times from my friends, teachers, counselors, therapists, psychiatrists, etc.

Everyone who has said this to me was really privileged and had very little hardships in their life.

If my problems are so temporary, why am I still feeling this way years later? Besides, CTB should be a choice regardless of one's own situation, making the 'temporary problem' point moot.

Just wait till you're a decrepit 90 year old, then things will really get good.