Stupid things that people say

[BipolarGuy]

As we all know, depression isn't caused by a failure to lay there for 3 hours on a daily basis with cucumber over your face, while an orange woman massages your feet.
But what stupid things do people suggest as a way to feel better?

I'll kick it off:

- "You need to look at it from a different perspective".
Ok Julia, I'm facing homelessness, have no money or job despite trying, and have been clinically depressed for years and am not getting any help. What perspective would you like me to look at this from?

- "You just need to stop thinking so negatively".
My life is making me feel negative.
My life isn't the way it is because I'm having 'the wrong thoughts'.

 

[catalepsy]

I once had someone tell me that depression is often caused by alcohol or drug addiction, but I always felt that was putting the cart before the horse.

 

[Good4Nothing]

I once had someone tell me that depression is often caused by alcohol or drug addiction, but I always felt that was putting the cart before the horse.

I firmly believe drug and alcohol addiction are NOT diseases - they're symptoms, usually of undiagnosed mental health issues.
But if people can conquer their addictions by believing they're diseases, more power to them.

 

[Mm80]

I once had someone tell me that depression is often caused by alcohol or drug addiction, but I always felt that was putting the cart before the horse.

Totally agree with this. Its that old question. Do people drink because they are depressed, or are they depressed because they drink ?
It is what it is. I fucking hate that saying it doesnt add nothing to a situation and is a waste of words.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

"I love you"
"You can trust me"
"I respect you"

 

[BipolarGuy]

"I love you"
"You can trust me"
"I respect you"

Don't forget

"What you tell me stays between you, me and these four walls"

 

[Soulless Angel]

There's always light at the end of the tunnel

Yea and so fucking what susan, do those hurdles magically disappear because I want that light? Nah its ok ill stay in the dark

Life is what you make it
Is it? What if I make it better or try too but assholes always get in the way?

 

[BPD Barbie]

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

Fucking gold, I love when people say shit like this.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

"It happened X years ago, just move on!"

Problem is I'd rather know where I'm moving to first before I go anywhere.

 

[Deleted member 18655]

"You deserve to be happy. It will happen."

This makes me crazy! I don't deserve to be happy, as evident in a miserable life in which it hasn't happened. It might as well be a tattered bumper sticker on a rusty old car.

 

[Squiddy]

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem "
Bitch my problem is permanent!

"Others have it worse"
Never knew it was a competition Karen

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

"Others have it worse"
Never knew it was a competition Karen

i hate this one especially. you can't use another person's suffering to say that another person shouldn't be suffering. that's stupid. people will feel pain regardless of whether or not somebody has it worse than them.

unless karen is working to solve every single issue in the world ever, i don't want to hear it.

 

[Squiddy]

i hate this one especially. you can't use another person's suffering to say that another person shouldn't be suffering. that's stupid. people will feel pain regardless of whether or not somebody has it worse than them

unless karen is working to solve every single issue in the world ever, i don't want to hear it.

Exactly. Pisses me off

 

[Deleted member 17331]

"After the storm comes the rainbow"... Holy shit

"Others have it worse"
Never knew it was a competition Karen

Knowing that there are people in a worse situation was supposed to make you feel good? Because, wow... It terrifies me.

It makes me furious, I hear it every day, and from people who don't even know about my personal life...

 

[overcomingfear]

Treat others (friends) the way u wanna be treated. Suddenly everyone's polite. Dumbest shit ever, whoever said that hasn't lived

 

[BipolarGuy]

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

I once had a relative (hippie type) suggest that I should go and see a witch to try to clean my soul (basically).

 

[puppy9]

"Others have it worse"
Never knew it was a competition Karen

They probably spend their time on gore sites. *watches gore video = *feels good (because others having it worse).
It can be interpreted in many ways. Yeah that quote pisses me off. Fuck those sadistic fuckers.


Get a job and your mental illness will go away poof.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

I firmly believe drug and alcohol addiction are NOT diseases - they're symptoms, usually of undiagnosed mental health issues.
But if people can conquer their addictions by believing they're diseases, more power to them.

Honestly, I think I agree with you. I've never heard of a "normal, happy" person falling into addiction. It's generally those afflicted with trauma, extreme unhappiness, mental illness, etc.

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

Yessss. This pisses me off more than the mindset shit. I've tried both and they haven't helped me, I'm so tired of having them suggested to me.

 

[Soulless Angel]

Give it time
How much damned time karen, 5 mins, 5 weeks, 5 months, 5 yrs 5 fricking decades? 38 years in and still waiting....

Have patience
Nah it's OK, it's not like I've already waited years already

 

[Squiddy]

They probably spend their time on gore sites. *watches gore video = *feels good (because others having it worse).
It can be interpreted in many ways. Yeah that quote pisses me off. Fuck those sadistic fuckers.


Get a job and your mental illness will go away poof.

Oh I've gotten the why not get a job thing a million times. It's so annoying. Not sure how that's going to help me at all

 

[BitterlyAlive]

Oh I've gotten the why not get a job thing a million times. It's so annoying. Not sure how that's going to help me at all

It gives a sense of "purpose" And it seems like a lot of people lowkey think you're worthless scum unless you have a job. It's awful

 

[Squiddy]

It gives a sense of "purpose" And it seems like a lot of people lowkey think you're worthless scum unless you have a job. It's awful

Yup :( it is awful. I feel like a lot of people think I'm worthless scum because I'm on disability and some have told me to get a job to have a sense of purpose

 

[Mm80]

Its ok not to be ok...

No. its not ok to not be ok. In fact its dogshit to not be ok.

 

[BitterlyAlive]

Yup :( it is awful. I feel like a lot of people think I'm worthless scum because I'm on disability and some have told me to get a job to have a sense of purpose

They probably mean well, but it seems like it's really just kicking you while you're down. If only people could be in your shoes for a day or two. Then they may have more understanding.

 

[TheQ22]

I firmly believe drug and alcohol addiction are NOT diseases - they're symptoms, usually of undiagnosed mental health issues.
But if people can conquer their addictions by believing they're diseases, more power to them.

I agree, I started srinking to try and deal with the emotional and other stress in my life, I didn't get the stress because I drank, I drank because of the stress, and I think it's the same for most others too.

Sometimes you don't even realise that there is stress there that you're trying to cover up.

 

[Squiddy]

They probably mean well, but it seems like it's really just kicking you while you're down. If only people could be in your shoes for a day or two. Then they may have more understanding.

Yeah, that'd be nice

 

[catalepsy]

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

I work 12hr nights in a glass factory. When I get home I feel like I got heat stroke at least twice every shift after dragging a bus through a Vietnamese swamp. That shit advice is whack.

Yup :( it is awful. I feel like a lot of people think I'm worthless scum because I'm on disability and some have told me to get a job to have a sense of purpose

I have a decent job and I'm here right along with everyone else. It doesn't give you a sense of purpose if the only purpose you can see in it is generating money for the office-dwelling Elysian denizens who haven't known a day of work in their entire lives. To those lucky folks, all of us are worthless scum, disability or not.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I once had someone tell me that depression is often caused by alcohol or drug addiction, but I always felt that was putting the cart before the horse.

Exactly! God, I can't believe how naive the "professionals" can be.

'Have you thought about changing your diet/exercising more?'

Well fuck me, why didn't I think of that before.

Actually, there was a point in time for me where that could've worked to my amazement. That ship has long since sailed, though.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

" Just get over it"- no you think I haven't tried!??
"Have you tried therapy"- I can't afford it
"I love you"- was all lies of a sociopath who destroyed me