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AintNoWayOut
Student
- Jan 6, 2020
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anyone else fixate on how life would've turned out for them had it not been for a certain thing/set of things happening?
on one hand, i sometimes use it to cope by thinking "well even if it wasnt for x, y and z, life probably still would've turned out shitty, you were doomed from the start." but on the other hand, i often get obsessed over how much better things could/would have been compared to how they actually turned out... and its a tug of war between these two mindsets 24/7. my mind is a constant battle, thinking about an imaginary life where certain things didnt go so wrong, to distract myself from the horrible reality im in... and i cant fuckin stop myself from doing it. i think about my mistakes, if they're truly my fault, how i would've felt and how different things would've been had it not been for my mistakes, etc etc. i get its unhealthy, but the only alternative is to "live in the present" and embrace the path i've gone down, which is near impossible for me given how absurdly miserable everything has ended up. hence why im here and ready to end it, i cant take the stress of it anymore.
on one hand, i sometimes use it to cope by thinking "well even if it wasnt for x, y and z, life probably still would've turned out shitty, you were doomed from the start." but on the other hand, i often get obsessed over how much better things could/would have been compared to how they actually turned out... and its a tug of war between these two mindsets 24/7. my mind is a constant battle, thinking about an imaginary life where certain things didnt go so wrong, to distract myself from the horrible reality im in... and i cant fuckin stop myself from doing it. i think about my mistakes, if they're truly my fault, how i would've felt and how different things would've been had it not been for my mistakes, etc etc. i get its unhealthy, but the only alternative is to "live in the present" and embrace the path i've gone down, which is near impossible for me given how absurdly miserable everything has ended up. hence why im here and ready to end it, i cant take the stress of it anymore.