Venting Social assimilation

[Ichigo]

Most people id say are conflict-averse. Of course, not everyone shies away from conflict; some relish it. However, the majority tend to go along with the popularly held opinion, even if it isn't necessarily correct.or rignt. we don't agree with it, but we might act like we want to avoid being ostracized by our communities for "stirring the pot." Most people just want to be accepted and so they'll rather lie and tell people what they want to hear then tell them the hard truth. dissenting opinions leads to backlash, many people choose to keep their true thoughts to themselves. I have heard there's an evolutionary reason for this behavior, that We're wired to avoid causing conflict so as to not expelled from the "tribe." This is why, in other online communities, you often notice members using the same lingo, phrases, and style of texting. It's like we subconsciously echo each other, assimilating to fit in. Some people would say there's nothing wrong with social assimilation. I disagree. If people feel pressured to conform to what is currently accepted now, how do we ever create change? How do we ever create a civil dialogue that features differing opinions ?
it feels like in online communities there is no room for redemption or for a second chance. On reddit, 90% of the time the mods are just going to ban you for saying something that forced the majority to think alittle harder about things. thats why i barely say anything about my opinions on there. You cant have discussions that makes people question their values or beliefs, ironically doing that makes people less open to the idea of changing their views or reaching a mutual understanding of eachother.

 

[sserafim]

Psychologists use the term "socialization" to designate the process by which children are trained to think and act as society demands. A person is said to be well socialized if he believes in and obeys the moral code of his society and fits in well as a functioning part of that society.

The moral code of our society is so demanding that no one can think, feel and act in a completely moral way. For example, we are not supposed to hate anyone, yet almost everyone hates somebody at some time or other, whether he admits it to himself or not. Some people are so highly socialized that the attempt to think, feel and act morally imposes a severe burden on them. In order to avoid feelings of guilt, they continually have to deceive themselves about their own motives and find moral explanations for feelings and actions that in reality have a non-moral origin. We use the term "oversocialized" to describe such people.

Oversocialization can lead to low self-esteem, a sense of powerlessness, defeatism, guilt, etc. One of the most important means by which our society socializes children is by making them feel ashamed of behavior or speech that is contrary to society's expectations. If this is overdone, or if a particular child is especially susceptible to such feelings, he ends by feeling ashamed of HIMSELF. Moreover the thought and the behavior of the oversocialized person are more restricted by society's expectations than are those of the lightly socialized person. The majority of people engage in a significant amount of naughty behavior. They lie, they commit petty thefts, they break traffic laws, they goof off at work, they hate someone, they say spiteful things or they use some underhanded trick to get ahead of the other guy. The oversocialized person cannot do these things, or if he does do them he generates in himself a sense of shame and self-hatred. The oversocialized person cannot even experience, without guilt, thoughts or feelings that are contrary to the accepted morality; he cannot think "unclean" thoughts. And socialization is not just a matter of morality; we are socialized to conform to many norms of behavior that do not fall under the heading of morality. Thus the oversocialized person is kept on a psychological leash and spends his life running on rails that society has laid down for him. In many oversocialized people this results in a sense of constraint and powerlessness that can be a severe hardship. We suggest that oversocialization is among the more serious cruelties that human beings inflict on one another

 

[theboy]

welcome to the cancellation generation