Significant Other

[mold]

im not sure if something like this has already been said or asked, but my s/o and i have been together for a while now, and i don't know how to tell them about how i'm doing mentally. i know it's best to share if you trust someone, but i don't want to be a burden or annoy them. i really want to cbt but i know they'll be unhappy and it just makes me even more upset. what should i do?

 

[Rocksandsand]

I wish I had something more constructive to say, but I just wanted to let you know that i'm in the same boat. It's such a shitty feeling and I hope you're as okay as you can be

 

[Life+me=error]

Only you know what to do. Try to look at the pro and contra of staying and ctb. Also, take some time for yourself, go for a walk to clear up your mind. This helped me make a final decision.

Btw I am in the same boat.

 

[vulturecyclop]

Tough decision here. It depends on your relationship with them and how you think they'd react. The few times I've mentioned suicide to my S.O, he got really, really sad...so I no longer do. I still want to CTB, and honestly I haven't yet for his sake and for my parents. I'll see what my future holds...I've chosen to suffer quietly lately, because in the end...talking about it won't really solve anything for me. My best advice is to be honest (if it's bothering you that much) and tell him how you feel, but I don't know if mentioning suicide will be too hard on your S.O. :(

Edit: agree with the comments above.

 

[mold]

I wish I had something more constructive to say, but I just wanted to let you know that i'm in the same boat. It's such a shitty feeling and I hope you're as okay as you can be

thank you! im glad to know im not alone :)

Tough decision here. It depends on your relationship with them and how you think they'd react. The few times I've mentioned suicide to my S.O, he got really, really sad...so I no longer do. I still want to CTB, and honestly I haven't yet for his sake and for my parents. I'll see what my future holds...I've chosen to suffer quietly lately, because in the end...talking about it won't really solve anything for me. My best advice is to be honest (if it's bothering you that much) and tell him how you feel, but I don't know if mentioning suicide will be too hard on your S.O. :(

Edit: agree with the comments above.

thank you, i'll try talking about it. i just don't wanna make things awkward or dark and im not the type to vent

 

[Sailfisher]

It has only resulted in an angry response for me.

 

[JoeFailure]

I wish I had this problem of having a significant other

 

[Jen0804]

I was open with mine and they expressed how they were pro choice. I know most aren't but I am just saying, maybe their response to the idea will surprise you (in general) I guess it's something you'll have to think more about (tricky situation).. me and my partner had a long talk about quality of life and the right to die if ones quality of life was zilch. I know this sounds generic but follow your heart and if you feel it should the right thing to do then try it . I'm sure your s o loves you and would like to have been given an opportunity to support you through what you are going through (as much as they can)

 

[dandan]

I just met someone, even though I'm not in love, I can understand what you mean and remember how I felt when I left someone years ago because I knew I would've made her real unhappy... Damm, perhaps I never be ready to be with someone , unless I accept the truth and relative poverty, compared to my previous life.

 

[mold]

I was open with mine and they expressed how they were pro choice. I know most aren't but I am just saying, maybe their response to the idea will surprise you (in general) I guess it's something you'll have to think more about (tricky situation).. me and my partner had a long talk about quality of life and the right to die if ones quality of life was zilch. I know this sounds generic but follow your heart and if you feel it should the right thing to do then try it . I'm sure your s o loves you and would like to have been given an opportunity to support you through what you are going through (as much as they can)

thank you! i will try talking about it

 

[been_there]

I'm sure your s o loves you and would like to have been given an opportunity to support you through what you are going through

That's not a given at all. Some do, some don't. It can make things worse. Try a trustworthy friend or professional first.

 

[21Neberg]

I think you should tell them. We often like to pretend that we can hide our feelings by wearing a smiling mask, but the truth is that those who love us will see straight through it. Keeping a secret from your SO in my eyes will do more harm than good to your relationship.

This is just my advice though, so it's worthless. But I hope it helps.