Discussion Sibling abuse?

[sadghost]

Has anyone here ever dealt with sibling abuse? Please feel free to share or vent.

I think growing up in a household abusive with my older sister my entire life has traumatized me severely. Even worse, we still live in the same house so I feel that I can never heal at all. I try to stay out of the house but eventually, one has to come home. I wish I could afford to move out but I can't because I'm poor.

I feel like I can't tell anyone about the abuse because it's gone on for so long. I've tried to put on a front but I cry so much when I'm alone. I feel like I have no power over my life as an adult because she is so abusive but puts on a smile for everyone else. The abuse is more psychological (gas lighting, name calling such as the "r" word), tries to sabotage and demean me in any way that pops up. It can get physical, but that's more when I was younger. I can't do this anymore.

 

[Why Me?]

I can relate, but right now my situation is so bad it hurts to talk about it. All I can say is become self sufficient and cut her off forever ASAP, in the mean time, learn about narcissistic abuse to understand these evil type of people, so you understand that you're not alone, an your not crazy. I want to CTB because this has destroyed my life, I'm now dependant on the crumbs of these people, so I'd rather die.

 

[MovingOn]

I abused my identical twin brother; I don't know if it was because I was also abused by adults, etc., (half black in a basically 100% white country in the 90s and early 2000s) or if it's because as a child I was generally speaking a retard. It makes me want to puke remembering myself punching my brother.
So, I wasn't really abused by a sibling myself, I was the abuser. I was heavily abused by my parents and random adults though, as well as kids my age. Abused became the abuser, same old shitty story perhaps.

 

[Why Me?]

I abused my identical twin brother; I don't know if it was because I was also abused by adults, etc., (half black in a basically 100% white country in the 90s and early 2000s) or if it's because as a child I was generally speaking a retard. It makes me want to puke remembering myself punching my brother.
So, I wasn't really abused by a sibling myself, I was the abuser. I was heavily abused by my parents and random adults though, as well as kids my age. Abused became the abuser, same old shitty story perhaps.

At least you have remorse for what you've done which means your most likely not a narc. Sometimes when you're young and don't know any better you can repeat behaviors. Hopefully you have apologized to your sibling, and has made yourself available to them for any healing they may need. It's terrible the abuse you suffered also. More people need to admit to mistakes that they've made in the past. Thanks for sharing.

 

[Pluto]

I had 2 abusive older sisters. It completely messed me up and I never recovered. They never changed, though covered up and dismissed the abuse as they aged. I wish I had that luxury.

The best advice I can give is to understand the nature of family dysfunction, the signs of narcissistic abuse (there are many online support groups based on this topic), to find a way to get away from them and to explore therapies to help you start to regain your sense of self.

 

[Un-]

Not my sibling, nor was I really a victim of my sister, but I used to abuse my nephew.. I'm not proud of it at all.. Especially because my nephew doesn't have a father, nor a grandfather, and his deaf mother had him when she was in her teens..

I used do say horrible things. Scream at him, blame him, avoid him, gaslight, name call.. The last time I saw him, he was scared of me. I tried being nice, but I knew that I'll never make up for what I did.

 

[demuic]

Sorry you're going through this.

I haven't specifically been abused but I have a highly narcissistic sister prone to explosive rage who has made life hell for my family since our early teens. One of the reasons I've held back from ctbing is because I don't want to leave my mom to deal with her abuse because she's too compassionate to cut her off. I still live in the same house too and it'd quite painful though she's away most of the time now. She's got a kid that she regularly neglect and abandons as well, she's just the scum of the earth. Wish I believed in karma so I could think she would ever get a fraction of the suffering she's caused to other people.