Should I tell someone my plans?

[Scythe]

I justed brewed my poisonous drink today, and I'm attempting very soon. I want to tell an online friend I turst, she's been through being suicidal before, and I turst that she won't try to stop me. What I worry about is her reaction, she already has some problems she struggling with and I don't want to burden her. That and the method I'm using is a bit...weird and unreliavle. She will figure out that I'm died in like a few days or weeks after I suicide anyways. I talked about wanting to die and with her before, so me doing this shouldn't be a huge surprise. So should I tell her? Telling her means I can also ask if she wants something left for her. I have some prepared just not sure if she wants it.

 

[MovingOn]

What did you brew?
No idea whether to tell her or not, that really depends on the relationship you have with her and what she is like. Can't say with so little information.

 

[Scythe]

What did you brew?
No idea whether to tell her or not, that really depends on the relationship you have with her and what she is like. Can't say with so little information.

taxus bacata tea. That's the only method that I think might work and I'm not scared to do.
She is the most important person to me, but I'm pretty sure I'm just a good friend to her.

 

[BornToFail]

If you are willing to risk being committed, the yes.

 

[Hirokami]

In the best-worst-case scenario, you'll feel guilty depending on her reaction. You're going through a lot, considering what your plans are; feeling guilt will only worsen those feelings and complicate things. In the worst one, you risk getting admitted; no further explanation is needed. I think the safest bet is if she expressed pro-choice views in the past. If she hasn't, then I would be wary. To clarify, expressing suicidal thoughts alone doesn't count as being pro-choice as many suicidal people express pro-life sentiments. Hell, even those who had attempts can often be pro-life. I've known suicidal people in real life that would gladly have me locked away somewhere if I continuously expressed even thoughts, let alone plans. I don't know her, so I can't give a definite answer, though my own experiences sway me towards saying "no".

 

[SamTam33]

I would just ask if she wants anything without revealing that you're about to do it; as if you were preparing for her Christmas gift.

I'd omit any indication that suicide is something you're about to do right away.

 

[TydalWave]

Usually the answer is no but it does depend on the person.

Weigh the pros and cons.

• Would telling her provide you any relief?
• Would her being told prior provide her relief? Or make it harder?

Stop thinking of yourself as a burden on her or others in the first place. The biggest burden is on yourself. Don't let this impact your judgement. If it would make you feel better and you truly trust her then maybe consider it; just as long as you weigh the potential reactions and how that could affect your ability to go through with what is best for you (whether that be CTB or seeking help).

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally wouldn't see it as being a good idea to tell people about plans to ctb, it's better not to risk it in my opinion, as it could potentially make things worse for us and in many situations others could try to interfere and make it more difficult for us to die. But it's up to you after all as only you are the one in that particular situation.

 

[Scythe]

Update! Thanks for everyone that answered. We talked, it went pretty well. I'm glad I did it, it was a weight off my chest.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Do you believe she took you seriously, or took it like you were just venting and needed an ear?

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I told someone I trusted about my feelings. Later that day I ended up bring picked up by EMS in a park. Always err on the side of discretion.

 

[UtopianElephant]

Please don't tell anyone unless you trust them literally with life and death.

Also, if this is an online friend, how could they report you to anyone, assuming they wanted to? Do they live in the same city or geographic area?

 

[gimzero]

I like to vanished in thin air.

 

[Scythe]

Do you believe she took you seriously, or took it like you were just venting and needed an ear?

I straight up told her when I am commiting suicide and she knows that I've been very suicidal recently so she took me seriously.

Please don't tell anyone unless you trust them literally with life and death.

Also, if this is an online friend, how could they report you to anyone, assuming they wanted to? Do they live in the same city or geographic area?

And yes, this is an online friend, that is one of the reasons I decided to do it. I thought they probably can't get help even if they want to, at least it would be much more difficult.

all in all, I guess the lesson is there are people that will just accept you're out of options and let you go. Very rarely though.

 

[fracturedviolence]

i'm not saying telling her is the correct answer but whether you tell her or not it will still effect her

 

[locked*n*loaded]

all in all, I guess the lesson is there are people that will just accept you're out of options and let you go. Very rarely though.

This is very true.