BornToFail
Experienced
- Sep 9, 2022
- 285
She is pregnant and came back to me after breaking up with me. She says she loves me, but I don't believe her.
jodes2
Hello people ❤️
- Aug 28, 2022
- 7,737
Maybe it's hormones making her change her mind? Sorry if that sounds offensive to anyone, it's just a thought
hamvil
Wizard
- Aug 29, 2022
- 652
BornToFail
Experienced
- Sep 9, 2022
- 285
Someone else's... This is long distance, we've known each other for more than a year. She promises we'll meet but she never does.
Life_and_Death
Do what's best for you 🕯️ Sometimes I'm stressed
- Jul 1, 2020
- 6,826
im confused with what this has to do with being sexually humiliated.
time to say bye, new girl on to the next
I could be wrong, but is it possible that person is returning to you because the person they created that child with left and they now need someone with a stable life and income?
Also, it seems like they want you to be their "back pocket ace card," so when things go south, they can lean on you because you offer stability.
That said, I do not know too many people who would stay or welcome someone who does such things back with open arms and a smile.
I get it; you might be lonely, and maybe this person eases that feeling, but you have to ask at what price, and now with a child in tow, do you want to pay that price to feel a little less lonely?
Also, it seems like they want you to be their "back pocket ace card," so when things go south, they can lean on you because you offer stability.
That said, I do not know too many people who would stay or welcome someone who does such things back with open arms and a smile.
I get it; you might be lonely, and maybe this person eases that feeling, but you have to ask at what price, and now with a child in tow, do you want to pay that price to feel a little less lonely?
Suicidebydeath
No chances to be happy - dead inside
- Nov 25, 2021
- 3,559
I can understand what he means.
It was long-distance. She broke up with him and had (unprotected) sex with somebody else not necessarily in order. Then she became pregnant and the person she was with dumped her. She's alone which is why she is reaching out to him. He feels humiliated because they were together online for over a year but never met up which means they never had sex either, and the way he's wrote about it means that he feels like she held out against him(wasn't serious about meeting) but jumped straight into bed with someone else. It's a long-distance thing which might make more sense to guys than girls.
To OP, I hope you feel better. It was probably just the distance that was stopping the intimacy between you. She didn't jump into bed with this other guy because he's better, just closer. I know it feels unfair and it probably is. It's hard to trust in a LDR, and the mechanics of one can get in a way, for example there's one person I would trust but being in another country is no good, just financially alone its strictly bad, people tend to have their work and family in the same country. The only LDR I could easily do would be if they lived same country just a few hours away, and to me that's an easy LDR.
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hamvil
Wizard
- Aug 29, 2022
- 652
I suggest you to stay away from this girl. She is there just to use you. If you stay with her you are in for a life of abuse.
Life_and_Death
Do what's best for you 🕯️ Sometimes I'm stressed
- Jul 1, 2020
- 6,826
thank you. i was expecting a more.....unpleasant story (no offense to OP but im sure those that understand know what im not saying)
BornToFail
Experienced
- Sep 9, 2022
- 285
None taken. I apologize if the title scared anyone or triggered anyone.
lofticries
obedear
- Feb 27, 2021
- 1,470
She was playing mind games before and now she is planning to use you. There are ppl who have been duped into a relationship with someone that really didn't care about them for longer. You will survive and hopefully meet someone who actually wants to meet you.
Arrow
Rewrite
- May 1, 2020
- 769
theboy
Illuminated
- Jul 15, 2022
- 3,006
WhatPowerIs
Paragon
- Jun 19, 2022
- 958
Why? It isn't his child.
It probably doesn't just FEEL unfair, it IS unfair :(
I feel for OP, what an awful situation. This, and combined with being on a suicide forum, he's in one of the worst places imaginable. I'm so sorry.
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hamvil
Wizard
- Aug 29, 2022
- 652
When I posted it was not clear that it's not his child.
WhatPowerIs
Paragon
- Jun 19, 2022
- 958
Understandable. I hope OP can figure a way out of this situation. This must be extremely difficult.
Just sever any ties to her, it's the only sane option you have... Contact with her must be 0, and you ought start working out at a gym, that usually helps in these particular cases...
not-2-b-the-answer
Archangel
- Mar 23, 2018
- 8,928
If she cant cope being pregnant she should have an abortion, not rely on an ex to financially support her.
She says she loves you because she is pregnant and desperate.
If you haven't met in person she could be anyone- an eighty year old grandpa, anyone. It's best to not invest your feelings until you meet in person. Has she askewd for money? If so you know it's a scam. I would leave this alone. YOu're not the only one to be tricked like this, many lonely people fall for this, so don't beat yourself up, but don't keep belieing it either.
not-2-b-the-answer
Archangel
- Mar 23, 2018
- 8,928
If she asks you for money and you say you don't have it.... See what happens next.
Angst Filled Fuck Up
Visionary
- Sep 9, 2018
- 2,912
Unhirable
Proud member of the FBI and CIA.
- Sep 14, 2022
- 109
Why would you keep talking to this stupid whore
Cut contact... make it impossible for either side to contact the other.
Cut contact... make it impossible for either side to contact the other.
TiredLostHope20
SN Arrived!
- Aug 24, 2022
- 135
She's trying to make you take care of her and the baby. She will play many cards in an attempt to guilt trip you into doing it.
