Discussion Self harmed

[Moonbounce]

I cut myself for the first in my life a few days ago.

My brother just found out about it and now he's furious with me. I shouldn't care but now I feel super embarrassed and ashamed.

But why should I care!?

idek if i'll ever do it again but tbh it was strangely comforting... I totally get why people do it, now...

 

[ecmnesia]

you shouldn't feel ashamed, it's a coping mechanism and if anything it's just a sign that you are going through a lot. it's ok.

i am not an example when it comes to self harm, cause not only I used to do it, I still do, it calms me and makes me come back to myself when I'm slipping away. therefore, I'm not trying to judge you or anything, but personally, I'd advise you not to rely on self harm, it's heavily addicted and not socially acceptable, which will (and I believe already is) give you lots of trouble in the future, mostly because, even if you do stop it you won't be able to hide the scars that will gradually become nastier (the more I did it, the deeper I needed to go for it to be effective...)

wish you the best from the bottom of my heart

 

[Ghost2211]

Your post pretty much laid out the full cycle of self harm. It does feel good when you do it, and it does give temporary relief. The problem is the after effect is scars and people around the person that self harm are likely to shamed them or get angry instead of give comfort. Despite the negative affects of it it can be quite addictive to self harm.

if you don't want to do it again there are other things you can do such a snapping a rubber band on the wrist for holding ice on your skin. Keep in mind I am not judging you in any way. I understand what causes the urges to self harm, and why people do it. I'm sorry life put you in a position where you felt that was the only thing you could do to gain some relief, and I am even more sorry that those around you didn't respond with sympathy and empathy to your suffering.

 

[opiatedreamz]

cutting is a vicious cycle. you start doing it out of curiosity, it feels good. you have scars or doubts about it after, which makes you feel bad. then you have the urge to do it again anyways. and on it repeats. please be careful, it's not fun to get caught up in. it's understandable why you did it though, you were just trying to find a way to feel better. that's not wrong.

 

[Caspers]

If you really want to do it, I'd suggest you go for places that people won't see (such as your hips). It's not a good thing to rely on, and can deeply damage yourself if you're not careful. Please be careful and try not to get addicted

 

[Meditation guide]

it was strangely comforting.

Didn't it hurt?

 

[One day too late]

You upper thighs are a good place to conceal your cuts. That's where I be cutting.

 

[elfgyoza]

Didn't it hurt?

Pain usually depends on how deep it is and the tool you use. I find that razors tend to sting more than craft knives for example. Also, the hormones released (sorry idk which ones, endorphins or adrenaline maybe?) supersede the pain, this is why it feels good and why it's so addicting. I barely ever feel pain if it's self inflicted