Venting seeing people encourage grooming makes me wanna die

[luvpup]

controversial take from an 18 year old girl but i feel there should be a distinction made between some of what these minors do where they make it a quirky edgy thing to go seek out groomers and pedophiles to take advantage of them and unknowing non-consenting minors who get groomed not knowing its happening to them, uncomfortable and trapped in it. both are still bad and can still be traumatic for the minor but there is a difference in my opinion and i hate that when i wanna point it out i feel like people won't understand or think i'm trying to minimize or victim blame a minor, which i'm not...

as someone with experience with both, in the reverse order, now that i'm 18 and even before then i found it disgusting and perverse to see spaces where people were encouraging others on how to do or find this. even when it was something i ended up doing briefly online around 15~ i never encouraged or sought to make it a quirky thing online, i kept it anonymous i kept to myself and discouraged any others i found because it made me sick to my stomach. to this day it still does. i made a post talking about this kind of thing subtly, the topic, a few months ago i think regarding lil tay. this kind of shit is one of the reasons i want to die. i find it disgusting. and if you're going to pander to pedos and creeps and entertain them publicly at least be honest that's what you're doing instead of trying to make people who are genuinely and understandably concerned seem like the weirdos.

you can't say youre anti-contact and then go out looking for groomers or pedos or weirdos that means you're pro contact, you are seeking for them to interact with you. and if you are, go ahead and say that so i can know who to stay away from...

shit like that makes me wanna slit my fucking wrists

im still trying to detach my value of myself from being related to my age and my appeal to creeps and pedos who only care about things like age and youth (something we will all run out of as we grow which SHOULDN'T BE SUCH A BAD THING) but this encourages it and it makes it so hard to let go of and so hard to feel like living because its like okay so is this really all there is? it's just true that once im older theres no appeal no use for me? this is the trap you will all find yourselves in and i find myself in and im so tired of it it hurts so fucking much dude like what the fuck.. i feel sick it makes me wanna die

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

The people you are talking about are not worth your time, they are disgusting animals. The way they view you is actually irrelevant.

Once you're older, you are older and that's it, back pain and joint pain will come, you shouldn't care what people think of it and especially what groomers and pedos think about it.

Children don't pander to pedos, they are groomed to do it, society doesn't value people you see, the pedos/groomers see this and then talk nicely to you, give you gifts "nobody has done this to me before" and so you are groomed. not saying you victim blame minors here, the kids doing what you are saying are still like that due to society maybe 0.001% are actually psychopaths edgy kids like the 12 year old boy rapists that EXIST, yes I agree with you but they are HEAVY HEAVY outliers, both of these types of children. (I HOPE)

It's funny isn't it? children are groomed because the groomers realise we are living in an apathetic society, they take a look at unloved people(children) and show them """"""""""""""""""""""love""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" to control them, heavy quotation marks.

 

[luvpup]

The people you are talking about are not worth your time, they are disgusting animals. The way they view you is actually irrelevant.

Once you're older, you are older and that's it, back pain and joint pain will come, you shouldn't care what people think of it and especially what groomers and pedos think about it.

Children don't pander to pedos, they are groomed to do it, society doesn't value people you see, the pedos/groomers see this and then talk nicely to you, give you gifts "nobody has done this to me before" and so you are groomed. not saying you victim blame minors here, the kids doing what you are saying are still like that due to society maybe 0.001% are actually psychopaths edgy kids like the 12 year old boy rapists that EXIST, yes I agree with you but they are HEAVY HEAVY outliers, both of these types of children. (I HOPE)

It's funny isn't it? children are groomed because the groomers realise we are living in an apathetic society, they take a look at unloved people(children) and show them """"""""""""""""""""""love""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" to control them, heavy quotation marks.

yes, children are groomed to pander to pedos thats a part of it, i understand since i was there, but there also are actual like communities and places like where i just saw where kids are giving each other explicit advice like "go to tumblr or twitter to get groomed, go on vr chat i have 2-3 groomers in a week!" yes, they are groomed into it but it is still sad to me and if you're 14-17 you should know that is wrong to do... and still like, man you probably shouldnt be encouraging other teens to do that... but at the end of the day the main perpetratorr is the pedo of course and society that encourages antisocial behavior and apathy and no love or attention towards developing children who need it, which then makes pedos see how easy they are to access and makes the kids seek out the creeps and pedos for """love""" and attention. its sad its disgusting and it has caused me personally so many bad feelings which have amplified my suicidality ive already struggled with for years.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

yes, children are groomed to pander to pedos thats a part of it, i understand since i was there, but there also are actual like communities and places like where i just saw where kids are giving each other explicit advice like "go to tumblr or twitter to get groomed, go on vr chat i have 2-3 groomers in a week!" yes, they are groomed into it but it is still sad to me and if you're 14-17 you should know that is wrong to do... and still like, man you probably shouldnt be encouraging other teens to do that... but at the end of the day the main perpetratorr is the pedo of course and society that encourages antisocial behavior and apathy and no love or attention towards developing children who need it, which then makes pedos see how easy they are to access and makes the kids seek out the creeps and pedos for """love""" and attention. its sad its disgusting and it has caused me personally so many bad feelings which have amplified my suicidality ive already struggled with for years.

I know honestly, I have no clue on what to do. Metaphorically speaking, us talking as individuals 'bout these problems has the same effect as a small bird entering the engine of a comercial airplane, nothing. This is why we still need to keep talking about it, as we gather we form a flock of birds and a flock of birds entering an engine all at once will make the plane crash.

 

[luvpup]

I know honestly, I have no clue on what to do. Metaphorically speaking, us talking as individuals 'bout these problems has the same effect as a small bird entering the engine of a comercial airplane, nothing. This is why we still need to keep talking about it, as we gather we form a flock of birds and a flock of birds entering an engine all at once will make the plane crash.

yeah i honestly dont know what to do either. the internet is so unsafe. but censorship is dangerous too. the real world is unsafe too.. on a bigger scale i believe society is encouraging anti social behavior and that is making more and more people awful and less empathetic. antithetical to what humanity should be. the thought that there is so much lack, that this world is kill or be killed, that you must be selfish to get ahead. these are beliefs instilled into human beings more and more as we grow, encouraged. its no longer about coming together and sharing resources which yes society has never been all good but idk i feel modern day its even crueler..

all these disgusting things are rewarded and are filtering out the good people and good things. i don't know how much more i can take. i don't see it that's why i wanna die so bad. one of the reasons besides my depressive episodes since 10. i see no way out. sometimes i wish i was religious just so i could believe that "God" or something is going to come and wash it all away, all the evil. it hurts so much. feels like a dagger through my fucking heart

thank you for your response it was rly kind

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

yeah i honestly dont know what to do either. the internet is so unsafe. but censorship is dangerous too. the real world is unsafe too.. on a bigger scale i believe society is encouraging anti social behavior and that is making more and more people awful and less empathetic. antithetical to what humanity should be. the thought that there is so much lack, that this world is kill or be killed, that you must be selfish to get ahead. these are beliefs instilled into human beings more and more as we grow, encouraged. its no longer about coming together and sharing resources which yes society has never been all good but idk i feel modern day its even crueler..

all these disgusting things are rewarded and are filtering out the good people and good things. i don't know how much more i can take. i don't see it that's why i wanna die so bad. one of the reasons besides my depressive episodes since 10. i see no way out. sometimes i wish i was religious just so i could believe that "God" or something is going to come and wash it all away, all the evil. it hurts so much. feels like a dagger through my fucking heart

thank you for your response it was rly kind

I appreciate your honesty about the subject, the people around me, many who are much older than me are afraid to talk about it, they also believe in God, the country I'm in, the same as the writer your quote came from, is very regressive on the idea of suicide, they seem very kind on the outside but believe me when I say, I have never met more self-absorbed people than this nation, maybe it's like this everywhere on earth; maybe humanity really is totally fucked or maybe it has always been and people are realising that putting down the facade only hurts kind people and that for neutral/evil people facade or no facade makes no difference.

Only people who are kind or kind(er) than the norm suffer from the apathy, the rest of them thrive on it.

 

[sanctionme93]

There needs to be ID requirements for big social media platforms and dating sites. That would fix a lot of it. Also I know it's controversial but kids really need to be kept away from porn as well when you have kids seeing porn at 10 or 11 it really messes them up for life I'm an example

 

[imreadyplayerone]

There needs to be ID requirements for big social media platforms and dating sites. That would fix a lot of it. Also I know it's controversial but kids really need to be kept away from porn as well when you have kids seeing porn at 10 or 11 it really messes them up for life I'm an example

dating sites already have methods to keep kids off, most social media sites have a age minimum if 13. and i agree kids shouldn't be watching it porn isn't some hard drug get over yourself

 

[sanctionme93]

dating sites already have methods to keep kids off, most social media sites have a age minimum if 13. and i agree kids shouldn't be watching it porn isn't some hard drug get over yourself

They don't there's tons of kids on there pretending to be 18-20 it's dangerous for them. Look up how many 20-22 years olds get caught with 15-17 year olds they met on a dating site.

 

[U. A.]

wait wut

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

porn isn't some hard drug get over yourself

Tell me you don't know a thing about adolescent sexual development without telling me.

We cannot stop minors from viewing porn, but porn is absolutely addictive, just like drugs are. In many countries, sex education is lacking, which leaves kids with their only "education" being highly-edited pornos or taboo fantasy smut fanfic. It can literally stunt development and lead to hypersexuality.