reflecting on how no one checked in on me

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Don't know how it has took me until just now but I've been reflecting on the fact that after my attempt despite most people in my life hearing the news about it, no one reached out to me. All I got was texts of support but only in response to when I reached out to them. Not one in-person visit. Not one phone call. Not one get well soon card. Not one bouquet of flowers. Especially the ex. If I had just broken up with someone who I 'still care about' and 'still have love for' but it simply 'didn't work' and then heard they tried taking their life soon after I would immediately be on my way to see them. But I guess that's because I do genuinely care and clearly it wasn't ever reciprocated or the reasons for breaking up were different.

It doesn't change anything. I doubt much would be different if they had. But damn, that is embarrassing lmao. No one actually cares.

 

[Insomniac]

that was painful to read ngl.

especially knowing this is gonna be me when I die.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

@dumbbrain, That's life m8, People only care about another person when there's something in it for them! Sending you a warm Xmas Hug! And my Staffie Max sends a Wuff :-)

 

[DannyP]

It touches me to read this. Indeed, people don't care. After my chronic illness, no one cared. No hospital visits, nothing. People avoiding me. I know, it hurts.

 

[FuneralCry]

People only care about what directly affects them. All people are selfish after all. Of course you deserve to have people that care. People can be very disappointing. I wish you the best.

 

[Maaizr]

people are so fucking lame, i hate everyone theyre such fake fucking pricks - im sorry you had to experience this bro, im feeling very similar these days

 

[dresdendoller]

felt this. i'm sorry you're going through that i know how much it sucks.

 

[Crazy4u]

This is insane! I would think people might try to reach out to "save you" from your temp. breakdown or problem. I don't think suicidal thoughts are temporary but non-suicidal people think they are.

OP I am sorry to hear about your story. It was shocking to read!

 

[meetapple]

This is disappointing. There are people who care. But they are rare.

 

[quakociaptockh2]

People are actively advised not to give a *uck about others nowadays, tbh.

 

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People are actively advised not to give a *uck about others nowadays, tbh.

yep all this individualism and self-love crap. saying "i'm focusing on myself" is an honourable thing to say...

 

[Deleted member 32964]

There's always the people here. That's all that you're left with.

Real-life, ordinary people see suicide as shameful and dirty. It's better to accept that - it's taboo. It's "selfish" "reckless" "stupid" and what people do who "need attention". I had to accept that and came out homeless, intermittently. There wasn't anything to do to fix a damaged reputation. I "did it to myself" and "needed to find Jisis". I needed to find church after going to the "get right with god room" and "submit, & apologize" "come home pretty and repentant".

That is what people do. It is a fact.

I hope that you find positive lifestyle changes and advance instead of lie down to sleep (as I have been guilty of, lately). I hope that you pick up where you left off and keep moving towards things that make you healthy, not weak.

I've never seen suicide as something a person does who is "bad" or "selfish". Most of the suicide victims that I've met have been tortured - in one way or another. And held back from venting, letting off steam, no smoke signals were given everything was "fine". It was sporadic, not planned. It was obvious to me (in lots of situations) that "this person was hanging on for dear life" and just gave up. Oh, the dummy?!

I hope you don't continue to feel isolated. It's good to suck that up and learn to find friends who help lift you out of a bad mood and take those dark, depressive thoughts from you and help you find alternative outlets and positive vibes :). Sometimes it "must" be another suicidal person as these situations cause scars.

 

[Marktheghost]

Yeah it was a similar experience for me.

A suicide attempt wasn't even enough of a wake up call for doctors, nurses, social workers etc to start doing anything to help me!

 

[StarryStarry]

Painful, very painful. Unfortunately, this is the way of the world. I have found more compassion, more understanding and more people who care about me here on this site than I have over the past 20 years. It's sad, but it's true. People at work don't give a shit, friends really don't care. I believe that people who suffer with mental illness are more feeling, more compassionate than just the regular asshole. I would rather know that someone doesn't care than to have someone in my life who is fake. I know you don't know me and I don't know you - but I care. Such a simple act of kindness just caring about someone is impossible for most people. This has nothing to do with you - it is a flaw in the other person's character. You are lovable, you are worthy of having people in your life who care. Just sayin.

 

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Painful, very painful. Unfortunately, this is the way of the world. I have found more compassion, more understanding and more people who care about me here on this site than I have over the past 20 years. It's sad, but it's true. People at work don't give a shit, friends really don't care. I believe that people who suffer with mental illness are more feeling, more compassionate than just the regular asshole. I would rather know that someone doesn't care than to have someone in my life who is fake. I know you don't know me and I don't know you - but I care. Such a simple act of kindness just caring about someone is impossible for most people. This has nothing to do with you - it is a flaw in the other person's character. You are lovable, you are worthy of having people in your life who care. Just sayin.

wish i could say this was true but they do care about people just not me

 

[StarryStarry]

wish i could say this was true but they do care about people just not me

I think a lot of time it appears that way, but people like that are so into their own feelings and life they "pretend" to care about others. You deserve to be cared about in a way that gives you no doubt. People who care about each other (really care) are few and far between in this world. I remember (yes I am older) when I was young and people really cared - it wasn't fake - you could call someone, a friend, neighbor and ask for help - they would be there. Nowadays, that is impossible to find. Now people thrive on other people's misfortunes. It's sad - when I told an individual at work that I didn't celebrate Christmas because my daughter and I used to celebrate together, she started telling me about what she and her daughter are going to be doing for Christmas and how much fun they will have. It was as if someone stuck a knife into my heart. I should know better. I care what happens to you. Maybe it doesn't matter, but that's okay, I still care.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Now people thrive on other people's misfortunes. It's sad - when I told an individual at work that I didn't celebrate Christmas because my daughter and I used to celebrate together, she started telling me about what she and her daughter are going to be doing for Christmas and how much fun they will have. It was as if someone stuck a knife into my heart. I should know better. I care what happens to you. Maybe it doesn't matter, but that's okay, I still care.

i noticed that too. Some people thrive on knowing your misfortune too but at least have the decency of not let you know how much their lives are blessed in comparison. People who dont thrive on that already are the fewest of the few

 

[Anxieyote]

I'm actually crying with rage after reading this post because the same thing happened to me.

I didn't make an attempt, but I did check myself into a mental hospital. The whole family found out, and I got some texts saying "thinking of you" and stuff like that, but no actual fucking help.

It was devastating to see how a lot of family behavior is just for show. You can tell someone "I'm here for you." and not actually show up.

I tried talking to a few of them who reached out, but they didn't respond after the initial, "thinking of you" texts. What a joke.

Don't just think about me—help me!! I need help, and if checking into a mental hospital isn't a cry for help, I don't know what is.

It's not fair that we have to go through this alone. It makes me more deeply hurt and angry than I can describe to have family members just shrugging it off.