I just think it's really sad that they feel as if the world offers them so little incentive to stay. But then, it would be hypocritical for me to criticise that, seeing as I feel the same way. Plus, I've had ideation since I was 10 so, I can also relate to feeling this way from a young age.
I suppose I feel less frustrated with them and more frustrated with the world at large. I doubt many people develop ideation flippantly. There are reasons they are feeling so unhappy and dissatisfied with life that they are considering risking suicide to leave it.
Why is it all on them to try and make it work and their 'fault' if it doesn't? Besides, I think most people do try to fix their problems before turning to suicide. Most people here I imagine have tried some form of 'help' on offer. Whatever that may be- therapy, lifestyle changes, meds. Some people have been fighting for years/ decades utiliising whatever was on offer to help. Is it truly there fault if these things don't work?
Also, how obliged should they actually feel to try all these different things? I think that's a very personal thing. Suicides can deeply affect other people. As a general principle, we ought to live trying not to hurt others. Still, what if these people are in some part responsible for us feeling like this? Do we still owe it to them not to hurt them when, they hurt us? Also, what fashion of love is it that is comfortable with keeping another being trapped in a situation in which they experience pain? That's a very selfish love- surely. So- perhaps they ought to be adjusting their thinking and blaming to reflect that.
As for whether it is the 'right' decision for any of us- no matter the age- who can say? We don't have a crystal ball. Put it this way though- even if we knew things would eventually be ok but, we'd go through many years more of struggle to get there or, we'd have several relapses here and there- which seems kind of likely- how smooth sailing is anyone's life really? Even with the knowledge of things to come, I wonder if that would still be enough to convince us to endure it.
I also think it depends on the age really. I think a 7 year old say likely does have less emotional maturity/ capability to make such a decision. Plus, ideation in childhood may well be due in part to a toxic home environment. Perhaps it is worth seeing if life will improve if they are able to move away from that and live independently.
I sometimes wonder though really. Was my appraisal/ predictions about life so very different at 18, 25, 35 and now, 45? I'm really not so sure. I sometimes just wonder if some people work it out earlier that life isn't for them.
I actually wish I could say things will change, just hang on, it's worth it. Maybe it is for some people. To be fair, my 30's were perhaps the best, comparitively. I think so much is down to circumstances though. I think people do carefully consider their circumstances when considering suicide though. Clearly, they come to that decision when it's very likely they won't be able to achieve what they want in life. Isn't that actually quite logical? As in: I likely won't achieve what I want and, I'll suffer. That doesn't sound appealing at all. Who, in their right mind wants to live like that?
Sorry for the essay length response!
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