Putting your affairs in order

[Banquo501]

I like to plan ahead, I guess that comes from being in the scouts as a kid. What kind of things should one do when planning to CTB? Aside from deciding on and planning a method etc. I mean, wills, finances, etc.

What about notes? When I made a drunken impulse attempt a decade ago, I didn't even consider leaving a note, I just got in my car and drove as fast as I could to the nearest place of height. I don't intend on being so impulsive or reckless this time, I'm older and wiser and know this will only happen if I am methodical about this. So what about those left behind? I don't want them having to sort my place out and find all the private things I wouldn't normally want them to see.

What plan of action would you put in place?

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm an external thinker, and participating in SS has been a great resource. For instance:

I've done drafts of goodbye letters, but nothing felt right. Finally, I wrote a letter to my parents and posted it on SS if they go looking. If I directly absolve them and provide recommendations for how best to manage details, they won't hear me anyway because they have their own filters. If they go looking of their own volition, they will be more open to hearing. I learned from accepting their filters and letting go that they are capable of managing details, and some of my wants truly won't matter when I'm gone. Any instructions intended to protect them will be wasted and they already make great effort to protect themselves. I am now at peace for having posted the letter here. If they don't go seeking, it wouldn't have mattered anyway.

I have thoroughly read all about the method I'm using, and others' experiences of successes and failures. Now I have a journal thread where I test and document, refine my method, and get input. In the future, I will go through the steps without taking anything, imagine what it will be like in reality -- basically rehearse and visualize. Then when and if the time comes, I will be confident and as prepared as possible, increasing the chances of comfort and success.

I have pared down my belongings. I dumped what I won't miss, and have a plan for hiding anything personal I need or want to keep should I survive. If I don't, they won't be found any time soon, and there's a good chance no one will even know whose they were.

I make lists. They help me work out what I have overlooked and discover what is truly necessary or not.

 

[BlueWidow]

I'm an external thinker, and participating in SS has been a great resource. For instance:

I've done drafts of goodbye letters, but nothing felt right. Finally, I wrote a letter to my parents and posted it on SS if they go looking. If I directly absolve them and provide recommendations for how best to manage details, they won't hear me anyway because they have their own filters. If they go looking of their own volition, they will be more open to hearing. I learned from accepting their filters and letting go that they are capable of managing details, and some of my wants truly won't matter when I'm gone. Any instructions intended to protect them will be wasted and they already make great effort to protect themselves. I am now at peace for having posted the letter here. If they don't go seeking, it wouldn't have mattered anyway.

I have thoroughly read all about the method I'm using, and others' experiences of successes and failures. Now I have a journal thread where I test and document, refine my method, and get input. In the future, I will go through the steps without taking anything, imagine what it will be like in reality -- basically rehearse and visualize. Then when and if the time comes, I will be confident and as prepared as possible, increasing the chances of comfort and success.

I have pared down my belongings. I dumped what I won't miss, and have a plan for hiding anything personal I need or want to keep should I survive. If I don't, they won't be found any time soon, and there's a good chance no one will even know whose they were.

I make lists. They help me work out what I have overlooked and discover what is truly necessary or not.

Wow! You sound so methodical and logical in your preparation. That's very refreshing on this board because a lot of people seem to be so scattered and lost. It's nice to know there are some people on here who are planning it out, or at least attempting to plan it out, and doing their own research and so forth.
I am attempting to do the same, but I deal with horrific brain fog and I've spent all the month of January trying to push through it and most of this month up until today. I have a brief parting of the fog today, so I'm hoping it lasts me for at least a couple of days so I can do something worthwhile with it while my head is relatively clear.
I just wanted to say how impressed I am with your efforts. I like that journal thread idea and the way you handled your goodbye letter.
Not that you need my praise, but—Well done!
I'm just very impressed. I wish you luck in your continued planning and in your desired outcome.

 

[MsMaudlin]

I have written letters to family and friends, starting with the ones that I'm not as close to first.
I have written all passwords / log in details etc in a notebook, I keep adding to that.
I have written down anything I own of value so it doesn't just get binned.
I'm reducing my belongings, and I'm a complete hoarder so you can't actually tell ha ❤

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

@BlueWidow, thank you for the affirmations.

I, too, arrived scattered and lost. The supportive environment, with foundations of pro-choice and self-determination, helped and encouraged me in figuring out the best ways for me to do this, and supports me if I ultimately decide on a different path to reach my goals.