The first meeting was great. We were not fully on the same side always but it was an amazing conversation for both of us.
Yesterday, was the second meeting she invited two autistic friends. The first was a friendly woman. No problems. I learned she dated her. The second person was an allegedly autistic man. She also dated him. Later it turned out he only did an online test and ran with the diagnosis. I am pretty sure this dude is either a sociopath or psychopath. The way he acted was totally insane. It was a textbook example of antisocial behavior, he tried to undermine my self-confidence and attacked me a couple of times verbally. And the autistic woman was seemingly fine with it. No problems with it. I wasn't sure how to act. I did not want to attack him on the same low level. The autistic woman did not even say goodbye when I left the apartment. Some people interpreted it as if I was his opponent in dating her and thus he attacked me. Though, I had the feeling his behavior was pathological and not driven by external factors. I am not that self-confident and maybe I am an easy target.
The insane irony is while he attacked me all the time he also lectured me in morals and ethics when it comes to politics. He insulted all politics students, called them ignorant and careerists. He was far-left especially in cultural aspects. I think I am also pretty far left. But I think he and this autistic woman talk all the time about intersectionality. Here a definition: intersectionality, intersectionality, in social theory, the interaction and cumulative effects of multiple forms of discrimination affecting the daily lives of individuals, particularly women of color. The term also refers more broadly to an intellectual framework for understanding how various aspects of individual identity—including race, gender, social class, and sexuality—interact to create unique experiences of privilege or oppression.
And maybe you see the irony. How can you act as massive asshole in social interactions and at the same time argue against discrimination. I guess he also has a victim complex because he also portrayed himself sort of like a poor victim that has no friends... (oh boy, I wonder why...)
I think he tried to analyze me to get my weakspots. And he hit it hard with proving that he is smarter than me. I also admitted that. I think both of them considered that a gotcha moment where I lost the debate and my credibility maybe even dignity. But this isn't the way I function. I personally hate how I am obsessed with intelligence. It is way more important to remain a good human being instead of being (seen) as smart. And on this aspect I won the discussion in my point of view clearly. And I can bitch and moan with my friends in real life and my friends on Sactioned Suicide about this incident.
Later, he said that he is actually bankrupt and has a person in charge who does all the important decisions for him. While saying that he has at least one child. I could have been an asshole asking whether this isn't much responsibility to have under his circumstances. But I didn't say that out loud. Maybe it is not good to post it here but I think as a vent after an abusive event its legitimate.
Personally, I always had prejudices about people who only talk about intersectionality and discrimination. And this experiences reinforced my negative image. They think too much about powerdynamics in social interactions this can be poisonous. I was also suprised the autistic woman said literally nothing about his behavior. Was this like a competition? I am not playing such immature low-level games. Moreover, they glorified taking drugs massively. She took LSD one day before our meeting. And I get the feeling she is only interested in the contact with me when its comfortable for her. Its draining for her to maintain friends. But she seeimgly enjoys spending time with this sociopath. That's a red flag.
Friends told me to block the contact with her completely. And honestly I think they are right. Her environment sounds extremely toxic. The first date with her alone was amazing. But I also got the feeling she plays with me in some way. I think I won't text her again. If she asks for another walk I consider to agree with it. If its another meet-up with her friends. Well, sadly I will reject that...
Yesterday, was the second meeting she invited two autistic friends. The first was a friendly woman. No problems. I learned she dated her. The second person was an allegedly autistic man. She also dated him. Later it turned out he only did an online test and ran with the diagnosis. I am pretty sure this dude is either a sociopath or psychopath. The way he acted was totally insane. It was a textbook example of antisocial behavior, he tried to undermine my self-confidence and attacked me a couple of times verbally. And the autistic woman was seemingly fine with it. No problems with it. I wasn't sure how to act. I did not want to attack him on the same low level. The autistic woman did not even say goodbye when I left the apartment. Some people interpreted it as if I was his opponent in dating her and thus he attacked me. Though, I had the feeling his behavior was pathological and not driven by external factors. I am not that self-confident and maybe I am an easy target.
The insane irony is while he attacked me all the time he also lectured me in morals and ethics when it comes to politics. He insulted all politics students, called them ignorant and careerists. He was far-left especially in cultural aspects. I think I am also pretty far left. But I think he and this autistic woman talk all the time about intersectionality. Here a definition: intersectionality, intersectionality, in social theory, the interaction and cumulative effects of multiple forms of discrimination affecting the daily lives of individuals, particularly women of color. The term also refers more broadly to an intellectual framework for understanding how various aspects of individual identity—including race, gender, social class, and sexuality—interact to create unique experiences of privilege or oppression.
And maybe you see the irony. How can you act as massive asshole in social interactions and at the same time argue against discrimination. I guess he also has a victim complex because he also portrayed himself sort of like a poor victim that has no friends... (oh boy, I wonder why...)
I think he tried to analyze me to get my weakspots. And he hit it hard with proving that he is smarter than me. I also admitted that. I think both of them considered that a gotcha moment where I lost the debate and my credibility maybe even dignity. But this isn't the way I function. I personally hate how I am obsessed with intelligence. It is way more important to remain a good human being instead of being (seen) as smart. And on this aspect I won the discussion in my point of view clearly. And I can bitch and moan with my friends in real life and my friends on Sactioned Suicide about this incident.
Later, he said that he is actually bankrupt and has a person in charge who does all the important decisions for him. While saying that he has at least one child. I could have been an asshole asking whether this isn't much responsibility to have under his circumstances. But I didn't say that out loud. Maybe it is not good to post it here but I think as a vent after an abusive event its legitimate.
Personally, I always had prejudices about people who only talk about intersectionality and discrimination. And this experiences reinforced my negative image. They think too much about powerdynamics in social interactions this can be poisonous. I was also suprised the autistic woman said literally nothing about his behavior. Was this like a competition? I am not playing such immature low-level games. Moreover, they glorified taking drugs massively. She took LSD one day before our meeting. And I get the feeling she is only interested in the contact with me when its comfortable for her. Its draining for her to maintain friends. But she seeimgly enjoys spending time with this sociopath. That's a red flag.
Friends told me to block the contact with her completely. And honestly I think they are right. Her environment sounds extremely toxic. The first date with her alone was amazing. But I also got the feeling she plays with me in some way. I think I won't text her again. If she asks for another walk I consider to agree with it. If its another meet-up with her friends. Well, sadly I will reject that...
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