[Poll] What's more painful for online friends after CTB and why? Note x Disappearing

[UmbraDweller]

I'm focusing on online friends here, because everyone else like family will find out and fast. I was wondering what is better for the ones who won't find out if I never tell them. I honestly can't decide what's better and I keep jumping from one back to the other. Both options will always cause pain, but which will be greater?

Note hits greatly all at once, but at least they will know for sure what's up, might move on faster and for good.

Randomly disappearing brings lesser pain in the moment, but longterm hurt of worry and wonder. Creating fake hopes of being still around.
They will either never find out, possibly find out after longer time if they decide to dig one day, or make unclear conclusions if they knew about my suicidality.

What are your thoughts, which one do you consider more harmful for them and why?

 

[nothingtodoh3r3]

I think leaving them a note has much more pros, they may not agree with the choices but they will get an explanation of your disappearance instead of not getting closure leading them to worry and make false hope which will hurt them even more in the long run.

But really it's a matter of if you want them to know about your plans and your end.

 

[XdragonsoulX]

it's kind of an iffy thing on how understanding your friends are to suicide. When I was 17 and had my first attempt that actually landed me in the hospital, I told my friends after I had already OD'd, the ones who cared stayed in the end after I got out of the hospital, the ones who didn't understand who I thought would care abandoned me. I've got friends who know and are prepared for any moment for my suicide knowing "it's a long time coming" then there are others who once they even remotely find out will probably resent me

Next time tho there will be a note for those who need it but the ones who I know can't tolerate it will get nothing

 

[enduringwinter]

I am also thinking about this. If I decide to say something about my absence (not necessarily that I CTB), how should I go about it, scheduled post on social media?

 

[Z-A]

Leaving a note or letting them know in any way is better in my opinion as it'll put a conclusion to why it happened rather than leaving them wondering for the rest of their life.

 

[damienlerone03]

As an online friend, I would rather have closure on why you wont be online anymore. If they don't I would always wonder if I did something wrong for them to stop talking to me.